Dear Expert, I am a Working Mother. My Husband is also working and mostly always out of town. In these Pandemuc situation my 9 year old boy stay with my inlaws in home and do his online classes. But day by day he hardly do the clases and always plays games in phone. My Inlaws had tried many ways to control but he don't listen. They are old as a result they gave up. I had to spend more than half in office. My husband is also very busy he hardly get time. But my boy behavior is changing he is always in phone. In sleep also he murmer about game. I cannot leave my job due to some financial crises as well as cannot always make my inlaws to look after my boy as they are old and thry have own life. My boy don't have any freind s nearby we don't have any playground either. I am getting scared he always lost in his world he stydy but he is also loosing intrest in his studies. kindly give some advice what to do as I am seeing him destroyed day by day.child-psychology Corner
I can understand your concerns. What could help is for your and your husband to sit with him and talk to him about his phone use without getting angry with him. Ask him the different things he uses the phone for. Tell her the harmful effects of so much of phone time. you can show him newspaper or magazine articles regarding this. Make him aware of how the phone is controlling him rather than him controlling the phone. Tell him the importance of playing with friends, how it helps in developing his social skills and communication skills. During the weekends if you could also sit with him and play the games he is playing on the phone you may be able to understand the reasons as to why he plays particular games and understand his thought process. Make gaming a family affair. Also you must set mobile rules and be firm in following them. The rules should be set by your son and you together. You can also seek professional help (psychologist) to talk to get over this habit. Take care.