Hello Doctor,bmy son was born @ 28week +2 days. Now he is 4 years old , his speech was delayed,he started sentences. some sentences are very clear some are not clear. especially in school teachers complaining he is not communicating with us. He is very nauty , jumping from sofas, claims in the window ceiling s. If we take to parks/shopping, sometimes he won't listen and running away from us going on to the road. i am more worrying now. At home ,he is ok , he listens mostly for day to day activities . understanding helping, concerns, emotions.

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Updated on May 20, 2020

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At this age tantrums are normal. It is not manipulative mostly. It is to do with something that is frustrating him. Observe and see what is bringing the tantrum. Are you saying No too often? Are you very anxious? Are you giving him quality attention? He does not know to express emotion so he expresses through tantrums. He wants to express but does not know how to. What you could do: 1. Be calm- do not give in to his tantrums. You have to be calm and patient. Be near. If he allows hold her or hug her gently. Once he is calm you can explain,' you were angry because. It is ok. Let me see how I can help you. Don't worry. I am there ok ' If he rolls around and cries then move away slightly. Observe from a distance to ensure he is safe. Come back to him when he is calm And talk. If he is hitting out or throwing stuff immediately carry her away from there. Let him wail and cry it out. Then explain calmly that you carried him out 'because he hit. It is ok to be angry but not ok to hit.' 2. Pay attention to his routine. Is he getting enough sleep, rest and food? Often children throw tantrums when they are tired. 3. Offer limited choices. At this age they don't like to be in control. Instead of saying you have to eat now , ask if he will eat then or in ten min. And see that you respect his choice. 4. Prepare them mentally. They get so absorbed while playing and if you remove them for some other take they will howl. So tell in advance that " we will be going out as soon as daddy comes so finish up this game in ten min ok. Talk to your child as he is a little person now. Use simple language. 5. Most important is pay attention to your child for only then you will understand his triggers. Do read this for better understanding https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/how-engaged-are-you-with-your-children/2611 https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/hacks-to-handle-stubborn-child/3020 Take Care Take Care

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