Hi, I am a working mother lived in a joint family. During office hours my mom-in-law and a full time maid is taking care of two kids of our family (one son of my brother-in-law). As my daughter is growing, she is becoming naughty too, no doubt earlier she was a very sensable and polite child. After a stressful day, I want sometime for myself to relax but everyday the moment I entered home the situation opposes (eg. if my inlaws complaint about her, if i observed anything smashed/distroyed by the kids etc.. ). Such things always impact the quality time I wanted to spend with my daughter. Sometimes I throw my anger on her during her homework or during her dinner (as she never want food). Now she also adapt such impatent behaviour, which is not good for her. Please suggest how to handle this situation.health Corner
hi Samar , at first you need to calm down and take charge of yourself , try handling kids tactfully , as soon as home first talk to kids normally without taking note of the complains that you receive , in case they have done something wrong ask them if its ok to do it ? secondly you may give them some tasks to be done at your back and if they finish it by the time you return than you may reward them in what ever way you like . Try to keep atmosphere stress free . We should not transfer our stress to kids rather become a kids when with kids to forget your own tensions and you shall find that time of day most relaxing.