hi one more thing is that my son been pampered by everyone at home specially by my wife. because of which now whenever he goes to play with other childrens and if he loses he become aggressive and does not want to share his toys with others when some of my friend children's come home we have tried we to teach him that losing is not such a thing but it has become obsession for winningeducation Corner
You need to win over your wife to your side and explain that you both have to have the same voice and values while parenting your son. Love is healthy but not pampering. It is a natural response. Children are exposed to the winning culture at home /school/ TV etc. His self esteem has to be worked upon. At home you are his best coach so you have to give him a lot of attention and build his self esteem by being encouraging and motivating. So while he does an activity appreciate the process and not the result. Then talk to him how the process is more important than the result . Talk to him about your values and how important it is to your family. Point out his strengths. Tell stories relating to the value of sportsmanship. Organise some games/activities where the winners appreciate the losers. The losers have to congratulate the winners. This way mutual respect is developed. This will take time but gradually it will happen. When he loses give him a hug and emphasize the spirit of sportsmanship. Emphasize that your love for him will never diminish and that there will be opportunities to achieve at every step of school. I hope this helps.