My 8 year old daughter is very simple( Bholi- Bhali type girl) but her friends is very smart .she always listen to them, whatever they said she do... but I want to stop this. why should she listen always so I tell her if don't want to do u can say No to them. Sometimes she said I say No but they or she don't listen me... friend aate hi uske kya ho jata pat nahi ..how should I change my child behavior so that she become more confident with her friend.child-psychology Corner
I understand your concern. It is good that you are talking to her about her friends and encouraging her to stand up for herself. However, if you push her to say something or do something that she is not confident doing or scold her because she did not stand up to her friends then she may only start judging herself and her confidence may only go down. This is a difficult phase of her life. There will be peer influence and peer pressure. You will need to support her and stand by her. Give her coping strategies and don't scold or judger her, ask her questions about what made her give in and ask her for solutions on how she could handle her friends. What is the fear that is keeping her from speaking her own mind. Praise any small steps that she takes in at least trying to speak up. Take care.