My child is 2 .6 yrs ... she is very active but she does not care to listen whatever is been asked to do. If I do not give her what she wants then she starts crying ....knowing that her Grand parents willl rush to her and definately she will get the thing or else her favourite Dairy Milk..... How should I handle her ?education Corner
I understand. You could have a frank conversation with the grandparents. But if they do not support then you may have to overlook some instances. Scolding will not help at any stage. The age of 2 is called the terrible twos. At the age of two a child is establishing one's identity. Hence it is very important how you handle your child with positive discipline tactics. Kids have meltdowns and temper tantrums for two reasons. The first reason is that they have never learned how to manage or have run out of how to manage their feelings in a new situation or event. The second reason they have tantrums is because it’s been successful for them in the past. They’ve seen that when they have a tantrum, they get what they want pretty quickly. It is also attention seeking.Even when you try your best such tantrums will recur. Maintain a tantrum diary or chart. Observe when she gets angry or stubborn. mark in your diary or chart. Once you understand the trigger you will be able to manage her better. At this age she is not able to express her wants and needs so she will get stubborn or angry. be patient. Try to verbalize her anger. Tell her,' you are angry because daddy is not giving you the sweet. ' Hold her close to you while you talk. She may continue to be angry. keep talking softly 'daddy will help you . i am here. i love you.' If she does not want you to hug her, be near her and observe. Then pick her and take her to a corner in the house. Call it the 'blue corner' and put her there till she calms. Soon she will realise that she will have to go to the blue corner if she misbehaves. At this age it is also easy to distract children. Please do read this blog for some handy inputs. https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/fostering-early-years-of-development-for-your-child/357 All the best and do keep us posted.