my son who is 9 year old, has started lieing about his test papers marks, may be about the class work completion. when test is their I have to be strict then only he will study properly which I don't want , he should not read as a punishment or because of fear please suggest me how to carryon with this situation.

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I will miss out on TV time. I might as well tell mom that I have no homework today in school. Overuse of this defense can result in compulsive lying as well. Children lie because they need instant gratification. Delayed gratification is difficult and time consuming. Boredom, poor beliefs in hard work, poor problem strategies, poor coping mechanisms are all causes to lying. As parents our disciplinary practices also can be a reason why children lie. Are we able to accept the faults of our children calmly or are we getting anxious? Do we punish them more than what was required? Are we punitive and judgmental? Are our behaviours a cause?With the limited information I have, I think this lying has a long course. Hence it is crucial to ascertain the cause. I would advise you to read this blog and to contact a local child psychologist to help your son. Through the process of psychotherapy, he will be taught effective problem solving skills and coping mechanisms which can replace this chronic lying. Also the psychologist will give you parental training as to how to cope with this scenario. Blog link here- https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/when-do-children-learn-lying-is-an-option/634 I hope this helps.

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