Respected sir/Madam. My Question is this :My wife is a central Govt employee. I work as a teacher in a Govt school. My son studied in the same school where i was working till Ist std. Later I got my job in Govt sector in 2012. All these years i have Been taking care of my son till my wife reaches home. she reaches home by 0700pm. I reach by 0530PM. I used to prepare food and give him in case my wife turn up late in the evening. Iam not sending him to tuitions anywhere. I personally see to his learning part and teach Him also. My wife rarely sits with him as far as his studies is concerned. She duly prepares food and give him. My son studies in sixth class now where he can take care of himself .Of recently my Mother -in-law started residing next to our street. Now my son goes straight to her house and spents time there. she is changing his dietary pattern. Not only that in past when my son Fell ill i used to take leave and take care of him. Nowadays my wife wants her mother to take care of my son which i feel as an intervention in performing my duties as a father. Iam not against my son spending time with his grandmother but i do not like her intervention in the above mentioned aspects such as diet and taking care of him. kindly guide me in this aspect.

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i see your issue..firstly i want to tell you to loosen up your fear that your son will get far from you if he gets close to his grandmother. what you feel at your part is totally understandable as you have been in-charge of him on few aspects since beginning. also,he his still a child and feels affectionate towards his grandmother..as a child we all felt same ,i suppose. viewing from our wife's point ,she may want this,as she may feel that it will ease your workload and you can also relax besides if your son will be with his granny,she also will be engaged and feel accompanied.. regarding dietary pattern,i feel she is not doing anything with any harsh intention..sif you feel its not good for him,you can upfront discuss it with her,like you can out up as,i feel this food can be better along with what he's eating currently.. if your son is ill,you can take leave,take care of him,and can ask his grandmother to come over at your place or if your son wants t go to her house,you too can go along.. its not about not fulfilling duties as a father,as a father whatever you did and doing is commendable and its about striking a balance..its necessary for your son's overall development.. kindly dont get disheartened...i hope this will work out for u

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