Is your child lying and stealing? Learn how to handle
Nov 01, 2021, 2:30 pm - 3:32 pm
Is your child into a habit of stealing and lying, have you tried to understad why your child is lying? Children below five years are prone to make up things as an extension of their creative minds. They love to live in a fantasy world. It is part of their wishful thinking when they say things like,’ I was the best at school’/ ‘all of us have pets’! As a parent, you need to make an attempt to understand he difference between lying and make-believe. To Avoid Hurting Someone: After the age of 10 children are usually aware of truth and untruth. Adults use the ‘white lie’ option a lot to escape unfavourable situations and to be diplomatic. Children observe and absorb the behaviour and use it. They find it easier to lie because they do not want to hurt their primary caregivers- their parents
Peer Pressure: Children ‘always’ want to fit in. It is imperative they are accepted in their friends’ circle. In the teen years (nowadays teens start at 10!) Most parental rules are perceived as rigid, unfair and strict. This stage is often stressful when they cannot get to do what they want to do In order to be accepted by their friends they lie their way around – to one another (to be accepted) and to parents (while breaking rules). This is also the period when parents are most suspicious and lay down several restrictions. Do remember, like moths drawn to a flame the youngsters are drawn to excitement and will find a way somehow
Lying is convenient: Children sometimes feel trapped or threatened. They are scared of punishment. Telling the truth results in being shouted at. So to avoid parents’ anger children find it easier to lie. Here it is a warning to us parents/adults. How are we behaving when confronting our child? Lying brings more peace (at least for the moment!). It is just the easiest solution to their problems of dealing with parental anger and their own guilt
Psychological factor: Largely children outgrow this habit of lying. As adults if they continue to lie for every silly reason then they may need professional help. Such cases would mean that there is some unresolved sadness, pain, hurt or conflict . Join this workshop and understand how can you help your child.
| Nov 01, 2021
When I take my 7 years old boy to my friends and relatives house, he takes and keeps for himself everything he likes to have, without asking others. He doesn't want to hide and steal without others knowledge but takes whatever he likes. What should I do? I have spoken about this many times with him.
| Nov 01, 2021
Hello Maam ! My son is 9 years old. Of late he has got into the habit of lying to us. He keeps other tabs open on his laptop and does not attend online classes. I got to know this during the PTM from the teachers that he has not been submitting his assignments as well . I was shocked to know that and I asked the reason for doing so to which he replied that he finds these classes boring. How do I make him understand the importance of attending classes as well as teach him not to tell lies ? Kindly give your valuable inputs.
| Nov 01, 2021
Namaskar Madam! What is the right way to handle a child who cooks up stories instantly to escape any situation which can go against her. My daughter who is now 10and a half years old doesnt do work allocated to her and would come up with some story which would sound so real that one would want to believe it. I am losing faith in her. Even if she tells the truth it becomes difficult to trust her. I am having serious trust issues with her. Please guide me how to go about dealing with her.
| Nov 01, 2021
Ma'am would it be right to punish a child if he is caught stealing the first time or we should ignore it? My 7 year old son stole a small amount from his father's purse two days back. Though the amount is small but I believe he should be punished for the same. I haven't reacted as of now as I am in two minds. Please tell me what should be the right conduct from my end so that he doesnt repeat it ? Also I want to thank you for all your valuable suggestions. I make sure not to miss your workshops. Thanks again.
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My 5 years old son is telling more lies of late to escape from my scoldings and beatings. When ever I ask him, his mistake, he immediately covers with a lie. How change I change this character?