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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy, Consultant Psychiatrist


Apr 03, 2020 | 2 : 00 PM to 3 : 30 PM

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Hello Doctor.I have two daughters aged 6 & 2.Though my elder one cares for her sibling & also plays....

Hello Doctor.I have two daughters aged 6 & 2.Though my elder one cares for her sibling & also plays with her but sometimes she doesn't like us in giving more importance or care to younger one & gets angry on small matters for e.g. for toys , colours etc & sometime behaviour is rude. She feels that time we as parents r not giving her enough care & only caring younger one.Could you please tell how to change her these type of thoughts.?Thanking U In Advance.

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
hi Darshana, a little bit of sibling rivalry is common, and you can address the situation as per what bis happening at that moment. However, if your elder one is getting angry on small matters, maybe she is genuinely feeling neglected. Address this by= label the emotion. ask her are you feeling left out?did you feel mumma was not fair this time?This amy be the first step to acknowledging her feelings and making her open up more-Dont negate her feelings, by saying No, instead reassure her at all times that you love her and are there for her. - Engage in some activities with both of them, where you are not taking sides. -Spend 'me time' with each kid alone, as their interests and games may be differrnt 2020-04-03 14:12:30
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hi doctor.my sister have 2 daughters.1st daughter is little hyper active.she is 6yrs old now.now her....

hi doctor.my sister have 2 daughters.1st daughter is little hyper active.she is 6yrs old now.now her hyoer active reduced a little due to her sister who is just 2yrs old.but sometimes 1st daughter is not at all listening to what people say.how to change her.please suggest some ideas

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
hello Jeya, Has her 1st daughter been diagnosed as hyperactive?Has she been seen by a child psychiatrist/developmental paediatrician?I would need more details of her behaviour before making suggestion as to how to change it. As a broad guideline, she should start maintaining a diary to note down her hyperactive/not listening behaviour. When does it happen?What are the triggers?At what time of day/with which members?Is it at home or also at school?etc. Hope this helps. 2020-04-03 14:20:52
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Hi Dr, My son is of 2.3 months. He is very active and plays well when he is at home or no relative....

Hi Dr, My son is of 2.3 months. He is very active and plays well when he is at home or no relatives are there at home. He also shouts while playing. But when we go to relatives, when anyone talks in loud voice with each other ( even not to him)he get frightened and starts crying. how to overcome this fear as we are planning to send him to school this year.

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
hi, how are your son's other milestones?What about his speech?At what age did he start talking?How many words does he know now? Is he reacting by crying only to other peoples' loud voices?any specific situations?How is he consoled?Are you able to quiet him with anything? I will need these and more details to determine if its because of anxiety or because of a sensory need. Also as he is approaching school age, and that is a primary concern of yours,is his interaction with other children normal? Do approach a specialist to get these evaluated and any major issues ruled out, so he is able to attend school and benefit optimally 2020-04-03 14:30:04
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Hello doctor,my son become very naughty and not like to act as our command.please suggest a step whi....

Hello doctor,my son become very naughty and not like to act as our command.please suggest a step which make him obedient.

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
Hello Mahafuja, You have not mentioned the age of your son. As a general rule, ensure there is consistent discipline in the house, all family members are giving him the same signals. If someone is being strict, while someone else is taking sides, this situation could be commonly seen. Also, spend some time where you are not only giving him instructions, but relating and enjoying time with him, this will improve his bonding and he will start listeninmg to you more. 2020-04-03 14:35:45
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My 13 year old girl is very dominating, over confident and bossy at times ? She at times hits other....

My 13 year old girl is very dominating, over confident and bossy at times ? She at times hits other children. Though she is excellent in studies but I feel her attitude problem would affect her in later life.How do I deal with her?

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
hi Dia, your daughter may have more extrovert traits, and is also going through her adolescent years, so some of these behaviours may be coming up. 1.Try and improve your connect with her. 2.Resist the impulse to lecture her , share stories of your life during the teen years. 3.Make sure her friends/ other family memebers are not encouraging her in her overconfidence, bossiness. 4.Don't forget to bond with her and enjoy her blooming into a little big girl while dealing with the situation. Best, Dr. Vidya 2020-04-03 14:42:55
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Meri 6 saal ki beti bhut shy hai. Woh lines yaad karti hai acche se, ghar par bolti bhi hai, but per....

Meri 6 saal ki beti bhut shy hai. Woh lines yaad karti hai acche se, ghar par bolti bhi hai, but performance ke time sab bhul jati hai. Iski wajha se uske grades acche nahi aatey. Mai kaise uska confidence badhaon?

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
Hi Ishita, Differnt children have different natures. She may be a good learner, but shy by nature, and may not be able to perform under pressure. 6 saal ke bacchi ko marks and grades se judge nahi karna chahiye, 2. Encourage her to tell poems, lines etc. among other children of her age, where she is not judged. 3. Role-play situations with her like being on stage, facing an oral test in class, so she is more comfortable in such real situations. 4. Give her success experiences and abundant praise when she speaks well, dont overload her with expectations of good grades in the beginning. Dont worry,aise karne se,Dheere dheere confidence badhega. 2020-04-03 14:50:27
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My Daughter is 5.5 year old, very active, quick learner and inquisitive in nature but keeps crying f....

My Daughter is 5.5 year old, very active, quick learner and inquisitive in nature but keeps crying for everything. 50% of the time she cries almost for everything. If called for breakfast she will say i don't want to eat this will shout and cry and then will eat. Similarly for almost everything she does the same. How do i handle?

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
Hello. Can you try and identify the reason for her crying?Rule out if she is hungry, feeling lonely. or any other stress. Are you giving her too many negative instructions?Rather than saying dont cry, or threatening her with negative consequences for crying, try and name her emotion. Let her vent out her feelings.Also sit with her,tell her you are concerned, and ask her for solutions to the crying. She will then feel a part of the solution too , rather than being a part of the problem.Arrive at a solution together, using all these tips. 2020-04-03 14:57:07
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hi mam my son has 3.6 years he is hyperactive some times he can not listen people what say please gi....

hi mam my son has 3.6 years he is hyperactive some times he can not listen people what say please give me some tips

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
hi, Has he been evaluated and diagnosed as ADHD or Hyperactivity?If its a pattern of behaviours, he needs to be thoroughly evaluated. As a tip for improving his listening, you can work on these, 1. Dont give vague or negative instructions. 2. Give simple instructions, make sure you have his attention and eye-contact while giving instructions. 3.Avoid multi-step commands. 4. Give him choices, so he also feels ion control some of the time. 2020-04-03 15:02:12
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My child is 6 years old and always wants to be the center of attraction in everything. What should I....

My child is 6 years old and always wants to be the center of attraction in everything. What should Ido? She would want to win in every game she will play with family members.

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
hello, check if the suggestions given till now have encouraged this behaviour. Gradually , see to it that others also win. A simple thing is not to mock at the losers, and make the winner clear up after playing(so he also feels more grounded.) Playing among peers, or at school may also expose your child to the reality that she cant always win. 2020-04-03 15:07:46
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My child is 5.5 year old. She always speaks at a very high volume. How do I deal?

My child is 5.5 year old. She always speaks at a very high volume. How do I deal?

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
hi, Has she been evaluated for her speech/hearing? Some children have a phase where they speak at very high pitch or volume, they are still in a phase of modulating their voice as per societal norms. dont keep telling her not to speak loudly. At the same time, tell her you are on her side, and want to help her, ask her if a reminder by a simple word or gesture will help her. Role play situations where you drop your loud(outside) voice at the door, and use your indoor voice. 2020-04-03 15:13:38
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dear mam my child is slightly autistic. je is 9yrs old. we have done all the therapies. he goes to a....

dear mam my child is slightly autistic. je is 9yrs old. we have done all the therapies. he goes to a normal school .He is lagging behind a lot in academics.he is not able to copy the work fr9m the board and he is not able to attempt question and answers during exams. he behaves normally.

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
hello, Is the therapy still continuing. I have come across several cases, where therapy is stopped when the behavioural issues settle, but the child may still be lagging behind in various domains for his age. as writing seems to be a problem, he needs to be evaluated for his fine/gross motor skills, and will surely benefit from occupational therapy for the same. 2020-04-03 15:17:48
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my son is 3 years old, he is very stubborn, he is well behaved ,listen to me when he is alone n not....

my son is 3 years old, he is very stubborn, he is well behaved ,listen to me when he is alone n not surrounded by any other member of the family, when everyone is around he keeps on running, not interested in eating his food, dont want to sleep.. how should i tackle this situation?

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
Hi, See what situation or behaviour of the other family member is encouraging him. Some children get hyper-stimulated by presence and interaction with many people at a time.Check on this too. Set a star chart, reward him , with notice and praise or a small treat he likes when he is well behaved in company too. 2020-04-03 15:21:20
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hi my kid is 5 years old. He is beating his dad and grandparents when they speak against to him. No....

hi my kid is 5 years old. He is beating his dad and grandparents when they speak against to him. Not able to control his anger and doesnot keep calm while we go out. he just runs and will be very active. kindly suggest what to do.

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
Hi, You have to convey to him everytime, in a firm , calm voice that hitting is not acceptable. Ward off his hand if required, Dont yell or hit back . Let him face the natural consequences of bad behaviour, eg. if he misbehaves when outside, he wont be taken out the next time.Give him some exercises to help control his anger 2020-04-03 15:25:10
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Hello doctor,I have 1 son & 1 daughter. son is 2 years old & daughter is 4months old.. my son don't....

Hello doctor,I have 1 son & 1 daughter. son is 2 years old & daughter is 4months old.. my son don't feel jealous of her sister but becoming stubborn day by day. How can i control his stubborn.. can u suggest me ?

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Dr. Vidya Ganapathy
hello, Try and see if the time spent with your older one is decreasing?Spend some extra time and shower some extra attention on him too. Try to get him to verbalise what he is feeling, and then work on ways to handle those. see if he can be involved in child-care of the little one.at all times assure him of your love and concern for him, that you love him just the same, and that he is a big-brother too 2020-04-03 15:29:20
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actually when he is 1 &½year only slowly i have diverted to her dad.. now he is more attached to his dad more than me.. but he don't listen his dad too 2020-04-03 18:51:48
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& he didn't talk even... he can express everything in signs but he don't even try to talk.. he says 2 letter words he identify the person & relation he even grasp the action grom rhymes etc 2020-04-03 18:56:19

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