
Live Chat - How to stop your child from using bad language
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The first time a child uses a "bad word" - be it "stupid" or something worse - it is bound to shock you; it may also happen that you are so stunned by it that you have no clue how to react! Some parents may take a stern approach and punish the child. After all, you want to get on top of this now, before it gets any worse.
What you need to know...
The first time your child is speaking out a bad word, s/he may not even know it means! For your child, it may well be just another "new" word and s/he is showing off to you (or worse, to your friends or family!). Even though it is an innocent mistake, you cannot ignore it! If you do not communicate that it is wrong, your child is likely to keep using it without realising it is wrong - and it may end becoming a habit, which is certainly not okay!
In older children (tweens and teens), who have picked up bad language from the environment, the problem is more difficult to curb.
So, the question is: What to do when your child uses a bad word?
The “bad word” situation is bound to happen sometime or the other. In today's day and age, every child is exposed to name-calling. However, using a harsh approach to curb harsh language won’t work.
Experts say that the more you try to curb it, the more chances of a backfire! What that essentially means is that the more you tell your child to not do a thing, the more likely it is that s/he may do it. Once your child knows that doing a particular thing will get a response from you (especially true if your child is between 3-7), your child may intentionally use that bad word to get your attention - this could happen at home or when you are in a mall or at a social gathering! So a reaction like "Don't say that word again – ever!" - may well be the worst thing to say to your child.
So the question really is "WHAT" you should do and "HOW" to do it - in both cases: Be it the first time your child used a bad word, or in case using bad language has already become a habit with your child.
There are many ways to tackle any situation - but not all are as effective. And that's why at times we need an Expert’s support to turn a negative situation around – and that’s what we’ve got for you…
REGISTER NOW for a LIVE CHAT with Swapna Nair, award-winning Parent-Child Therapist and get your answers to “what to do” and “how to do it”.
What you stand to gain?
- Tried-tested expert tips on how to curb bad words or bad language in your child, depending on your child’s age.
- Experience sharing on “what you have already tried” and understanding “why it did not work” and “what steps to take next”.
- Learn from queries from parents with diet concerns for their child and the solutions provided by the therapist.
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