Ways To Deal With Vulgarity With Your Pre Teen

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Ways To Deal With Vulgarity With Your Pre-Teen

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Sorry your answers will be seen by members of the live chat. You can mail us separately for total confidentiality. 2018-04-30 15:03:14
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How can I stop my child from viewing obscene content?

How can I stop my child from viewing obscene content?

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A child has access to many gadgets including your cell phone. Hence it is practical that you and your spouse are on the same ground. Have the same rules on sexting, jokes and Health Drink messages that come via Whatsapp. Tell your friends not to forward anything that is inappropriate for your child Have the computer or laptop in the living room where you can see your child viewing or using it. Have parental controls on all the gadgets. TV hour also has to be monitored. View the browsing history of your child. Check regularly the gadgets they use to see the content and games etc There are websites for family safety , Web browsers with safe search engines. Monitor and supervise personally. 2018-04-30 15:09:33
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Okay Mam. 2018-04-30 15:10:10
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Have dean k conversations time to time. Children may not like to listen but why would listen 2018-04-30 15:10:20
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Have regular conversation I mean 2018-04-30 15:10:36
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Sure. Sounds good. I will try. 2018-04-30 15:10:52
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Ok great. 2018-04-30 15:11:07
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What are some ways to aware my child about vulgarity?

What are some ways to aware my child about vulgarity?

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From infancy a parent can educate the child on the body, personal safety etc. as the child grows and becomes curious you can answer honestly and appropriate to the age. Conversation is the best way. While seeing an ad or picture or cinema a child Amy be curious Or having heard friends talk. Find out how they came to know and how much they know. Maintain an objective stance and answer 2018-04-30 15:05:15
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How to educate my child about vulgarity, or how to teach child to avoid it?

How to educate my child about vulgarity, or how to teach child to avoid it?

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A child has access to many gadgets including your cell phone. Hence it is practical that you and your spouse are on the same ground. Have the same rules on sexting, jokes and Health Drink messages that come via Whatsapp. Tell your friends not to forward anything that is inappropriate for your child Have the computer or laptop in the living room where you can see your child viewing or using it. Have parental controls on all the gadgets. TV hour also has to be monitored. View the browsing history of your child. Check regularly the gadgets they use to see the content and games etc There are websites for family safety , Web browsers with safe search engines. Monitor and supervise personally. 2018-04-30 15:11:55
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Parents must have regular talks. Cultivate the habit of daily conversations. Through these you will come to know a lot. There will be clues or direct questions because your child is comfortable talking to you. An open and positive atmosphere is crucial. Then you can give your guidelines for appropriate behaviour. 2018-04-30 15:13:23
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ok. 2018-04-30 15:13:44
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Education can begin a s early as infancy. Talking about the body, personal safety are conversation starters 2018-04-30 15:14:02
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I talk to my child about all this. I just don't it regularly.. 2018-04-30 15:14:34
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Have a daily ritual of conversation. It can be after school or dinner where you cuddle up , joke etc. this builds up rapport. Listening is more important than talking. You will get your cues. 2018-04-30 15:15:44
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Ok mam. Thanks a lot. 2018-04-30 15:16:04
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Welcome 2018-04-30 15:16:13
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My child has started using abusive words. Speaks in bad language. How to stop this?

My child has started using abusive words. Speaks in bad language. How to stop this?

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I have written a blog on this. I shall share the link. https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/is-your-child-using-swear-words/2992 2018-04-30 15:17:43
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Do go through. 2018-04-30 15:17:54
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Surely mam. 2018-04-30 15:18:01
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The most important thing is not to dramatise. Maintain calm. Children like to Shock parents. They also want to show off. 2018-04-30 15:18:47
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Hello mam. How to ensure that my child isn't using bad language. Some children in his friend's circl....

Hello mam. How to ensure that my child isn't using bad language. Some children in his friend's circle use abusing words. How to stop this?

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You cannot stop others. But you can educate your child and guide him about expressing oneself in the right manner. Talk about peer pressure and children wanting to show off. Explain what is appropriate and inappropriate. Childrne will be exposed via movies and songs too. We can not control external influence. Often childrne do not mean what they say. Hence being objective will help. Do not nag about his friends for it will turn him against you as he grows. 2018-04-30 15:21:42
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https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/is-your-child-using-swear-words/2992 2018-04-30 15:21:55
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My teen spends a lot of time over the internet. I am afraid he might fall in trap of vulgar content.....

My teen spends a lot of time over the internet. I am afraid he might fall in trap of vulgar content. How to ensure?

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A child has access to many gadgets including your cell phone. Hence it is practical that you and your spouse are on the same ground. Have the same rules on sexting, jokes and Health Drink messages that come via Whatsapp. Tell your friends not to forward anything that is inappropriate for your child Have the computer or laptop in the living room where you can see your child viewing or using it. Have parental controls on all the gadgets. TV hour also has to be monitored. View the browsing history of your child. Check regularly the gadgets they use to see the content and games etc There are websites for family safety , Web browsers with safe search engines. Monitor and supervise personally. 2018-04-30 15:23:01
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I will try these out. 2018-04-30 15:23:14
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Yes with teens do not allow them to be behind latched doors 2018-04-30 15:23:39
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You will have to periodically check their bags and gadgets for any content. 2018-04-30 15:23:58
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Okay mam. 2018-04-30 15:24:12
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Talk to him and tell him that you will check 2018-04-30 15:24:14
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Set out the consequences too. So he is aware. 2018-04-30 15:24:27
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How can I do this? 2018-04-30 15:24:42
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Remember it is a passing phase too. So be careful on your tone and words 2018-04-30 15:24:51
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Consequences can be for a teen - removing the gadgets for a day or two. Not going out with friends during the weekend. Make it very specific. And the consequences should be applied immediately. Do not postpone nor should you be casual or careless about this. 2018-04-30 15:26:05
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Ok Mam. Thanks 2018-04-30 15:26:30
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Welcome 2018-04-30 15:26:40
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My child has started using curse words, and listens to music of the same kind. How to help her?

My child has started using curse words, and listens to music of the same kind. How to help her?

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It is quite common. There is so much external influence. Well it is time to sit down with her and have a good talk. Keep your tone neutral and your mind non judgemental. Hence prepare what you wish to say to her. Do not preach and do not nag. She is not using the words or song because she means the words. She is using th because that is what she is hearing and childrne love to be dramatic and shock parents. The songs are more for the tune and steps. Caution on her using the song in the school and in the presence of elders. Ask her if she knows the meaning 2018-04-30 15:30:50
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If not educate her. Explain your family values. Do this over several rounds of talks. Have a daily ritual of talking to your child. Talk to and not talk at. 2018-04-30 15:31:43
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Thanks a lot mam. 2018-04-30 15:32:06
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I have tried 2018-04-30 15:32:20
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Do go through my blog https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/is-your-child-using-swear-words/2992 2018-04-30 15:32:29
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but she doesn't want to talk 2018-04-30 15:32:31
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Talking should flow. It should not be for lecturing. Childrne know and understand us very well. Have a ritual of after dinner hanging out together time. Laugh crack jokes or listen to music. Understand her world too 2018-04-30 15:33:32
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Slowly as you build rapport mutual respect will build 2018-04-30 15:34:00
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She doesn't sit with us at all. She is in her room always. I have tried asking her if she is troubled. 2018-04-30 15:34:17
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How old is she 2018-04-30 15:34:26
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But she doesn't share at all 2018-04-30 15:34:27
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she is 12 2018-04-30 15:34:32
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So she is pre teen. Her behaviour and changes will be like a teen. Insist on the door being unlocked. It is very important. Have dinner together and strike normal conversation. Avoid anything personal You listen more. 2018-04-30 15:35:41
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On Saturdays have an ice cream outing 2018-04-30 15:35:54
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Seize moments to indulge in small talk. When she gains the confidence that you will NOT criticise or accuse or poke at her then she will open up 2018-04-30 15:36:35
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Okay Mam. 2018-04-30 15:36:51
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Thanks a lot! 2018-04-30 15:36:58
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You and your spouse have to set common family rules and consequences. 2018-04-30 15:37:03
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Inform her of the consequences and privileges and set them into action. 2018-04-30 15:37:20
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Sure. I will try. 2018-04-30 15:37:33
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Thank you for your help mam. 2018-04-30 15:37:43
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Great. 2018-04-30 15:37:48
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How can I as a parent make my child understand vulgarity, and why it should not be practiced. Please....

How can I as a parent make my child understand vulgarity, and why it should not be practiced. Please guide mam.

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What is the age of your child? 2018-04-30 15:38:24
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11 2018-04-30 15:38:38
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Right from the time childrne know their body you can talk about the body, personal safety etc 2018-04-30 15:38:56
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At the age of 11 you have to treat them As pre teen 2018-04-30 15:39:18
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As and when the situation arises you will have to render guidance. You cannot do away with external influences via gadgets and media 2018-04-30 15:39:52
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Build your rapport with your child. Have daily informal talks. The atmosphere has to be so open that your child can share anything. Do not appear to be shocked if anything inappropriate comes up. Then in an objective way you can clarify and guide. 2018-04-30 15:41:14
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We try keeping the atmosphere light and friendly at home.. 2018-04-30 15:42:07
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Meanwhile as a parent ensure that the laptop or system Has to be in a central pace where you can supervise. Tell your child that their gadgets will be checked regularly. Check their browsing history often. Install parental controls 2018-04-30 15:42:17
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Keep yours and your spouse ‘s phones free of adult content and jokes. 2018-04-30 15:42:38
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Personally know what websites he goes to and what games he plays and also the company he keeps 2018-04-30 15:43:10
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Okay 2018-04-30 15:43:24
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Being friendly is alright but boundaries have to be set. Occasionally throw in family values. Freedom Comes with a responsibility. 2018-04-30 15:44:10
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Agreed. 2018-04-30 15:44:27
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The consequences and privileges you plan to put in place can be mutually agreed upon with your child 2018-04-30 15:44:51
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Also we have to be practical. Nowadays movies and songs have opened up more to cuss words. It is a phase. Children like to show off new vocabulary. They like to shock us. So our response should not be dramatic. 2018-04-30 15:45:52
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Ok mam 2018-04-30 15:46:28
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Will keep these things in mind 2018-04-30 15:46:36
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Great. Have fun with your child Play with your child. There is nothing that can compensate these moments. 2018-04-30 15:47:04
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Agreed! Thank you. 2018-04-30 15:47:18
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And the respect grows 2018-04-30 15:47:19
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Welcome 2018-04-30 15:47:23

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