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A new mom’s dilemma

Tejal Singh
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A new moms dilemma

“Being a mom for the first time is an inexpressible feeling. Leaving the baby, going to work was a very difficult decision for me. I used to think am I only mom undergoing this dilemma? Or are there others like me?” Read this blog by a parent blogger who decided to rejoin work after having a baby.


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Pravallika sagar

| Sep 19, 2017

I'm also suffering with d same issue .......feeling embraced as the time is passing.... ur a working mother but I shud work hard for my master's(MDS)it's so difficult to manage getting scared ....

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Huma Naaz

| Apr 06, 2017

same feeling. need to join office back in a month time,

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Deepika

| Apr 06, 2017

am going to get this feeling soon.. thax for sharing

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Krupalini Kavitha Samuel

| Apr 06, 2017

yeah absolutely!!! I too felt same !!!

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Yashaswini Shetty

| Apr 05, 2017

yup.... same. feeling...... most difficult phase of life

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Divya Ganesan

| Apr 05, 2017

Today is my first day to office leaving my 6 months old boy at home. I felt the same.. Thx for sharing..

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Afreen Naaz

| Apr 05, 2017

similar as my life.

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Mala Navalani

| Apr 05, 2017

same story is mine too

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PRATIMA

| Apr 05, 2017

Very true same thing facing by me

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Manisha Dutta

| Apr 05, 2017

Its my story too.... we miss many of there mile stones that they achieve for the first time in our absence.... our job is also very important as its somehow for there better future....

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Tultuli Ghosh

| Apr 05, 2017

I FELT THIS STORY IS FOR ME.... THANKS FOR SHARING FEELINGS OF YOURS & ALL WORKING MOTHERS LIKE US....

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Anupriya

| Apr 05, 2017

beautifully written truth..

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Surbhi Arora

| Apr 05, 2017

loved this one

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Guneet Tinny Arora

| Apr 05, 2017

heart touching..

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Arvinder

| Apr 05, 2017

seems like it's my story... very true dear

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Vaibhavee Lumbhani

| Apr 05, 2017

very nyc article

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Keep Smile

| Mar 27, 2017

even after reading this i still feel scared to leave my daughter alone for 9 long hours

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Seema Manohar

| Mar 27, 2017

really very nice article. Exactly same feeling when i started my job. crying for whole night before joining . its veri difficult for a working women to leave her baby alone its really just like yor soul at home and body at other place.

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Swathi

| Mar 27, 2017

very nice article.... even I m going through the same emotions when i think of joining back to my office . it does churns the heart out but end of the day i convince myself saying my earnings is for his better future.

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lochan patil

| Mar 27, 2017

very nice article.. every working mother's thought are being expressed in this article.

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deepu

| Mar 27, 2017

I am a mom of twins ( boys). Their birth weights were 1. 75 and 2. 05 kg. now they are 15 months old n both weighs d same 8. 75 kg. is it under weight? If so Wat can b given to increase the weight of my sons?

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Deepali

| Mar 26, 2017

hi!!! my baby is 5 mths. even I HV to join office next month. whatever u wrote, same was happening in my mind after seeing your experience, made me calm down. it's is true that no one can take mother's place in this world. feeling blessed....

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Vidya Chetan Patil

| Mar 26, 2017

very nice article

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Smriti singh

| Mar 26, 2017

very good article. I feel d same when I leave my 11 month boy at home

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Sushmitha Venkataramanan

| Mar 26, 2017

wow so nice

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Simran Jagga

| Mar 26, 2017

thank uhh... this artical calmed me shoo mch..

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Divya Verma

| Mar 26, 2017

very supporting n calming article. I m also going to join after 1 month leaving my 6 month daughhter..

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Chinthamani

| Mar 26, 2017

I'm also going to join tomorrow I feel very sad for going to leave my baby for more than 8 hours

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Poonam goyal

| Mar 26, 2017

.qn

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Tejal Singh

| Jan 12, 2017

All the best @urvashi

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Urvashi Gupta

| Jan 12, 2017

I also hv to join after 20 days n I m very anxious abt it.

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Tejal Singh

| Jan 03, 2017

Yes @nisha

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Nisha Dubal

| Jan 02, 2017

Its realy hard.....

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Tejal Singh

| Dec 15, 2016

Yeah @meghna you are right. Joining back is tough

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Meghna

| Nov 09, 2016

yes for me too... it was really a hard time.. rejoining my job after 1. 5 yrs.. I took extra 1 yr sabbatical leave... without pay.. to stay bck with my baby... I have rejoined but miss her at times during work....

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Tejal Singh

| Oct 06, 2016

thank you @Ritu. Hat's off to all the wonderful mom out in the world.

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ritu bagaria

| Oct 06, 2016

hats off to every working women.. to leave ur lil one n pay attention to ur job it's too difficult.. nt everyone's stage..

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Tejal Singh

| Sep 24, 2016

@amruta- if you have practice option then its best to opt for. Every mothers wants to give best. Happy Parenting. All the best.

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Tejal Singh

| Sep 24, 2016

@thank you kanchana.

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Amruta Naygaonkar Lele

| Sep 24, 2016

it's really nice you have mention everything. I am in the situation now, I have resigned from office when I have to rejoin when my baby was 6months now he is 10months but still I m not able to make up my mind to be away from my lovely kid. as current requirements of 8am to 8pm jobs.. let's see I m qualified professional so thinking of starting my own practice but anyhow I need to be away from him.. it was really very hard decision of resignation but for my baby I have to take. hats off to working ladies,, in current world we have to give our babies... time,,care,money,good life style ,good education, all luxuries in life... we just need to judge sequence.. thx

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Kanchana Sivakumar

| Sep 18, 2016

hi, it's such a heart warming experience to read this blog... I am one among the working mother's list.. though I can see this as forward walking with strong heavy heart, I can't accept it all over... was expecting such an positive thing from any1... and this blog helped me a lot... And here is one from my side, the way we love and care our child.... the same way he will love and enjoy us..

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Shruti Bhardwaj

| Sep 08, 2016

thanks Tejal , it was such relief reading your blog.

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Vennela N

| Sep 01, 2016

Thank u.. I' m relaxed after reading this blog. Same questions pop up in my mind too when I look at the calendar as my joining back date is approaching.

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 27, 2016

All the best @shamala

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Shyamala Dd

| Aug 25, 2016

Exactly I am in same stage. I have to go to office by leaving him . I feel he is very small.

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 11, 2016

Thank you @shikha.

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Shikha Garg

| Aug 11, 2016

Hi Tejal, read your blog, this is the mental state of every mother actually. You wrote this and I was wondering as some is telling about me. My daughter is 23 months old now but still when I go to work, have the same fear or off mood while leaving her. However, I am very strong mother as per my husband because She has started to go to the play group at the age of 22 months. And, that was also my decision to see her strong eagerness of learning and making friends. She is fond of friends. But when she comes back from school and see me, and second round in the evening I come back and see her face gives a different kind of craze to see her and happiness. Thanks for sharing your feeling or in other words feeling of a working mother.

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 11, 2016

@sreevidhya, thanks for appreciating. Lots of love to your little star. All the best.

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sreevidhya Madhan

| Aug 10, 2016

Tejal,... you are my eye opener.. struggled a lot to speak to my in -law on getting back to job, as my cuddle (Mokshith) is jus 5 months now.. I had the fear that he might not love me as I leave him and get back to work, I speak to him about the financial pressure we have, apart from that we had to give you good education and so on... though he doesn't understand at this stage. Your blog gives me a food vibration and positive energy that Mokshith will not miss me even I get back to work..

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 10, 2016

Thanks @ujwala for appreciating. All the best.

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Ujwala Suhas

| Aug 10, 2016

Thank you so much for sharing... I'm facing same situation... I have to rejoin in Nov... I was in same stress abt leaving baby but after reading ur blog feeling relieved... Thank you

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 10, 2016

Thanks @SD for appreciating. All the best for rejoining.

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S D

| Aug 10, 2016

Awww you so correctly penned down my dilemma of joining back to work ... Certainly your experience has given me little relief ... Thank u

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 09, 2016

Thank you @Mansi. Yes, you are right, let them develop their new circle and let us have ours.

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Mansi Advait Bodas

| Aug 09, 2016

You really wrote almost every mothers fear... I felt like this but when he joined school.. He cried a lot when I left.. but soon started enjoying that school time, friends and now at age of 3 yrs he also tells me how much fun they had in school ? how fast he finished lunch box or even if he not liking any friend because of small fights.. I know what my father told me was right We can be reason to create their world but we have our own circle and they need to get them into new circle on their own .. We can not keep them with us all time.. but this is main reason why they love us. We gave them identity and after doing that next step is to give space to achieve their own Personality.. starting is difficult for kids and mothers both.. but that is power of this relationship this is an ultimate bond of life for both kid n mom

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 09, 2016

@neha Mittal - all the best.

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Neha Mittal

| Aug 09, 2016

u penned down my heart state.. absolutely understand.. going through same. have to join next month :(

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 09, 2016

@nidhi, yes mother find it tuff to be apart from child. At some point strong decision needs to be made. All the best.

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 09, 2016

Hi @vandana, don't worry. First day is tougher and second seems to be bit easy. All the best.

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Vandana Srivastava

| Aug 09, 2016

Thanks for such blog... I m gonna start work soon & have all these fears. This article has surely reduced my anxiety a little bit. Just by reading this article n thinking about it made me into tears. I hope things settle down smoothly. ..

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Nidhi Singh

| Aug 08, 2016

I have a baby girl "PARI". she is 1 year old. it's being 2 yrs am at home because doctor strictly advised me bed rest during pregnancy. now am thinking to join office again but I can't make my mind and heart to be apart from my baby. she is my world I dont know am I able to focus my mind on my work or not and if she will going to miss me how can I communicate with her. am quite worry......

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 08, 2016

Thanks @tasneema. All the best

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Tasmeena Begum

| Aug 08, 2016

I hope so.. Really thanks for this wonderful blog.. It is exactly how I feel was unable to put in words..

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 08, 2016

@swanandi, stay calm and go ahead. Baby always know who mommy is.

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 08, 2016

@poulomi, babies are adjustable. Just we mom need to adjust. I learnt this after I joined back.

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 08, 2016

@tasneema, yes being mom fear is obvious. Try taking one step, rest will be assured.

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 08, 2016

Hi vishaka, with the passage of time, fear decreases. Need to stay calm.

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Vishakha Khati Bisht

| Aug 08, 2016

very nice thing to share.. I too undergoing d same dilemma.

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Tasmeena Begum

| Aug 08, 2016

Very True.. The biggest fear I have is that my baby will be more attached to somebody else and not me if I leave him and go to work!!!

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Poulomi Choudhury Trivedi

| Aug 08, 2016

its realy gonna be a tough tym for me even and m very much worried how am i gonna stay away from my baby during long office hours. i cannot live without my baby evn for a minute

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Swanandi Khakal

| Aug 08, 2016

same problem me too facing I am also having same fear.

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 08, 2016

Thanks a lot @jayasheela and @pearline

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Pearline Noronha

| Aug 08, 2016

I too am going through this dilemma. . this article has truly come at the right time. . thank you

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Jayasheela

| Aug 08, 2016

very true.. :-)

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 08, 2016

Thank you @Dr. Pooja.

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Dr Pooja AttreyPT

| Aug 08, 2016

nicely quoted dear... every working mother will relate to this.. reminded me of everything of my journey till now... apprehensions.. anxiety... posseeiveness.. D day... n most fullfilling... his smile when he saw me at evening everyday... :)thank u :)

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Anubhav Srivastava

| Aug 08, 2016

True!

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Tejal Singh

| Aug 08, 2016

It's tuff, but has to be done. All the best

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Sonalsharma

| Aug 08, 2016

i am sailing in the same boat.

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