A new mom’s dilemma

I have a 3. 5 months old baby girl. when he was 2 months old I joined back to office having same fears. I used to visit her in lunch break for one hour everyday. after a month and half, I still have same fear although when I go home she smiles with me, she spent all time with me. still, I m so insecure from her... the thought that she will enjoy other's company more than mine does not let me sleep all night.. I sat with her all night seeing at her even she is sleeping... 20 hours (other than 4 hours of sleep) I remind myself to be positive about all situation, sometimes, it works and sometimes not. what should I do?

I am a house wife for now . I have 11 months old baby girl. I am pursuing my B. ed degree from Allahabad state University and 1 year is already over. I want to go in academics and I want to be a teacher in a reputed school. I just think sometimes that may be when I will start to work in a school my daughter would be almost 3 years old by that time. And then we both can go to the same school with me as a teacher or her as a student or she might get admission in a different one. But then we both can come and go with the same timings in our hand. This can be the best part of it. I can look after her as well.

my daughter is going to be 6 months old. I don't know why am I crying while reading this, though I'm a homemaker as of now

I'm also suffering with d same issue .......feeling embraced as the time is passing.... ur a working mother but I shud work hard for my master's(MDS)it's so difficult to manage getting scared ....

same feeling. need to join office back in a month time,

am going to get this feeling soon.. thax for sharing

yeah absolutely!!! I too felt same !!!

yup.... same. feeling...... most difficult phase of life

Today is my first day to office leaving my 6 months old boy at home. I felt the same.. Thx for sharing..

similar as my life.

same story is mine too

Very true same thing facing by me

Its my story too.... we miss many of there mile stones that they achieve for the first time in our absence.... our job is also very important as its somehow for there better future....

I FELT THIS STORY IS FOR ME.... THANKS FOR SHARING FEELINGS OF YOURS & ALL WORKING MOTHERS LIKE US....

beautifully written truth..

loved this one

heart touching..

seems like it's my story... very true dear

very nyc article

even after reading this i still feel scared to leave my daughter alone for 9 long hours

really very nice article. Exactly same feeling when i started my job. crying for whole night before joining . its veri difficult for a working women to leave her baby alone its really just like yor soul at home and body at other place.

very nice article.... even I m going through the same emotions when i think of joining back to my office . it does churns the heart out but end of the day i convince myself saying my earnings is for his better future.

very nice article.. every working mother's thought are being expressed in this article.

I am a mom of twins ( boys). Their birth weights were 1. 75 and 2. 05 kg. now they are 15 months old n both weighs d same 8. 75 kg. is it under weight? If so Wat can b given to increase the weight of my sons?

hi!!! my baby is 5 mths. even I HV to join office next month. whatever u wrote, same was happening in my mind after seeing your experience, made me calm down. it's is true that no one can take mother's place in this world. feeling blessed....

very nice article

very good article. I feel d same when I leave my 11 month boy at home

wow so nice

thank uhh... this artical calmed me shoo mch..

very supporting n calming article. I m also going to join after 1 month leaving my 6 month daughhter..

I'm also going to join tomorrow I feel very sad for going to leave my baby for more than 8 hours

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All the best @urvashi

I also hv to join after 20 days n I m very anxious abt it.

Yes @nisha

Its realy hard.....

Yeah @meghna you are right. Joining back is tough

yes for me too... it was really a hard time.. rejoining my job after 1. 5 yrs.. I took extra 1 yr sabbatical leave... without pay.. to stay bck with my baby... I have rejoined but miss her at times during work....

thank you @Ritu. Hat's off to all the wonderful mom out in the world.

hats off to every working women.. to leave ur lil one n pay attention to ur job it's too difficult.. nt everyone's stage..

@amruta- if you have practice option then its best to opt for. Every mothers wants to give best. Happy Parenting. All the best.

@thank you kanchana.

it's really nice you have mention everything. I am in the situation now, I have resigned from office when I have to rejoin when my baby was 6months now he is 10months but still I m not able to make up my mind to be away from my lovely kid. as current requirements of 8am to 8pm jobs.. let's see I m qualified professional so thinking of starting my own practice but anyhow I need to be away from him.. it was really very hard decision of resignation but for my baby I have to take. hats off to working ladies,, in current world we have to give our babies... time,,care,money,good life style ,good education, all luxuries in life... we just need to judge sequence.. thx

hi, it's such a heart warming experience to read this blog... I am one among the working mother's list.. though I can see this as forward walking with strong heavy heart, I can't accept it all over... was expecting such an positive thing from any1... and this blog helped me a lot... And here is one from my side, the way we love and care our child.... the same way he will love and enjoy us..

thanks Tejal , it was such relief reading your blog.

Thank u.. I' m relaxed after reading this blog. Same questions pop up in my mind too when I look at the calendar as my joining back date is approaching.

All the best @shamala

Exactly I am in same stage. I have to go to office by leaving him . I feel he is very small.

Thank you @shikha.

Hi Tejal, read your blog, this is the mental state of every mother actually. You wrote this and I was wondering as some is telling about me. My daughter is 23 months old now but still when I go to work, have the same fear or off mood while leaving her. However, I am very strong mother as per my husband because She has started to go to the play group at the age of 22 months. And, that was also my decision to see her strong eagerness of learning and making friends. She is fond of friends. But when she comes back from school and see me, and second round in the evening I come back and see her face gives a different kind of craze to see her and happiness. Thanks for sharing your feeling or in other words feeling of a working mother.

@sreevidhya, thanks for appreciating. Lots of love to your little star. All the best.

Tejal,... you are my eye opener.. struggled a lot to speak to my in -law on getting back to job, as my cuddle (Mokshith) is jus 5 months now.. I had the fear that he might not love me as I leave him and get back to work, I speak to him about the financial pressure we have, apart from that we had to give you good education and so on... though he doesn't understand at this stage. Your blog gives me a food vibration and positive energy that Mokshith will not miss me even I get back to work..

Thanks @ujwala for appreciating. All the best.

Thank you so much for sharing... I'm facing same situation... I have to rejoin in Nov... I was in same stress abt leaving baby but after reading ur blog feeling relieved... Thank you

Thanks @SD for appreciating. All the best for rejoining.

Awww you so correctly penned down my dilemma of joining back to work ... Certainly your experience has given me little relief ... Thank u

Thank you @Mansi. Yes, you are right, let them develop their new circle and let us have ours.

You really wrote almost every mothers fear... I felt like this but when he joined school.. He cried a lot when I left.. but soon started enjoying that school time, friends and now at age of 3 yrs he also tells me how much fun they had in school ? how fast he finished lunch box or even if he not liking any friend because of small fights.. I know what my father told me was right We can be reason to create their world but we have our own circle and they need to get them into new circle on their own .. We can not keep them with us all time.. but this is main reason why they love us. We gave them identity and after doing that next step is to give space to achieve their own Personality.. starting is difficult for kids and mothers both.. but that is power of this relationship this is an ultimate bond of life for both kid n mom

@neha Mittal - all the best.

u penned down my heart state.. absolutely understand.. going through same. have to join next month :(

@nidhi, yes mother find it tuff to be apart from child. At some point strong decision needs to be made. All the best.

Hi @vandana, don't worry. First day is tougher and second seems to be bit easy. All the best.

Thanks for such blog... I m gonna start work soon & have all these fears. This article has surely reduced my anxiety a little bit. Just by reading this article n thinking about it made me into tears. I hope things settle down smoothly. ..

I have a baby girl "PARI". she is 1 year old. it's being 2 yrs am at home because doctor strictly advised me bed rest during pregnancy. now am thinking to join office again but I can't make my mind and heart to be apart from my baby. she is my world I dont know am I able to focus my mind on my work or not and if she will going to miss me how can I communicate with her. am quite worry......

Thanks @tasneema. All the best

I hope so.. Really thanks for this wonderful blog.. It is exactly how I feel was unable to put in words..

@swanandi, stay calm and go ahead. Baby always know who mommy is.

@poulomi, babies are adjustable. Just we mom need to adjust. I learnt this after I joined back.

@tasneema, yes being mom fear is obvious. Try taking one step, rest will be assured.

Hi vishaka, with the passage of time, fear decreases. Need to stay calm.

very nice thing to share.. I too undergoing d same dilemma.

Very True.. The biggest fear I have is that my baby will be more attached to somebody else and not me if I leave him and go to work!!!

its realy gonna be a tough tym for me even and m very much worried how am i gonna stay away from my baby during long office hours. i cannot live without my baby evn for a minute

same problem me too facing I am also having same fear.

Thanks a lot @jayasheela and @pearline

I too am going through this dilemma. . this article has truly come at the right time. . thank you

very true.. :-)

Thank you @Dr. Pooja.

nicely quoted dear... every working mother will relate to this.. reminded me of everything of my journey till now... apprehensions.. anxiety... posseeiveness.. D day... n most fullfilling... his smile when he saw me at evening everyday... :)thank u :)

True!

It's tuff, but has to be done. All the best

i am sailing in the same boat.