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Are you raising an 'emotionally balanced' child? Find out here...

Ridhi Doomra
1 to 3 years

Created by Ridhi Doomra
Updated on Jun 13, 2017

Are you raising an emotionally balanced child Find out here

All children, even the most fortunate, suffer emotional injuries. At home, in school and on the playground, all children experience disappointment, frustration and failure; criticism and disapproval; and exclusion by peers. In healthy development, children recover from these moments. Whether on their own or with our support, most children bounce back. Emotional injuries are, in many respects, analogous to physical injuries. Just as our cells must repair physical injuries, emotional injuries also must be healed. Without this healing, the injurious process will spread.

 By maintaining an awareness of our children's psychological state and keeping in mind the following parenting principles, we can become more attuned to our children and learn ways to raise an emotionally healthy child:

  1. Aware of Behavioral changes: Be aware of changes that could indicate a child is struggling. If a teacher tells us our child has had trouble getting along with other kids in class, we shouldn't just shrug it off as being out of character and hope for the best - just as we shouldn't chuckle at how silly our child looks while throwing a temper tantrum. What may start off as small behavioral patterns can elaborate into later behaviors that are concerning. For instance, an exaggerated focus on food or video games can be signs a ch

    As a parent, it is important for you to understand that almost all the children, even the most fortunate, suffer emotional injuries. At home, in school and on the playground, all children experience disappointment, frustration and failure; criticism and disapproval; and exclusion by peers. In healthy development, children recover from these moments. Whether on their own or with your support, your child will bounce back. But in certain cases your child needs your support and care.

    Emotional injuries are, in many respects, analogous to physical injuries. Just as your cells must repair physical injuries, emotional injuries also must be healed. Without this healing, the injurious process will spread. So how do you help heal those emotional injuries?

    By maintaining an awareness of our children's psychological state and keeping in mind the following parenting principles, we can become more attuned to our children and learn ways to raise an emotionally healthy child:

    1. Aware of Behavioral changes: Be aware of changes that could indicate a child is struggling. If a teacher tells you that  your child has had trouble getting along with other children in class, then you shouldn't just shrug it off as being out of character and hope for the best - just as you shouldn't chuckle at how silly your child looks while throwing a temper tantrum. What may start off as small behavioral patterns can elaborate into later behaviors that are concerning. For instance, an exaggerated focus on food or video games can be signs a child is using these things to cut off pain. If left unaddressed, these patterns can cause further more damage.

    2. Be sensitive and attuned, not reactive or parental: From the moment your child speaks the first word, it's essential to encourage your child to talk to you. When it comes to influencing our, little one just making rules never works, but maintaining an open and equal sense of communication does. However for this to work, you must be accountable: you have to live up to your word in order to gain your child's trust. If you invite your child to talk to you honestly, then are defensive or erratic in your responses, you give them   good reasons NOT to tell you what's really going on in their lives. Also invite them to spend time with you. Rather it is an opportunity to share an activity with your child and create a situation in which they can talk to you.

    3. If they are in real trouble get them the help they need: If a child shows an unusual amount of anxiety, fear, anger, stress or pain, it is important to get her the help she needs. As parents, you must not let your egos come in when it comes to raising our children. How your child feels should always outweigh how you are viewed as their parents. The best thing you can do for your child is to be selfless in your commitment to getting their emotional needs met.

    4. Take care of your emotional health: Although it's important to prioritise your child’s needs, it's equally important to remember that little affects your children more than how you yourself are feeling. Children are naturally highly attuned to their parents' moods. Putting on a brave face or denying your frustrations will never fully mask what you are feeling, and these feelings, which your child undoubtedly perceives, are sure to impact him or her.

    Therefore, taking care of your own mental health is a key factor in helping your child feels happy. No matter how much you fuss over, worry about or take interest in them, if you are not feeling content and fulfilled in yourself, you are very likely doing more bad than good in terms of your child's emotional well-being.

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| Mar 24, 2018

thanks hope this blog would be helpful for me

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| Mar 24, 2018

thanks hope this blog would be helpful for me

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| Nov 09, 2017

ekdam sahi

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| Sep 30, 2017

Thanks

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| Sep 28, 2017

good information.... thank you

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| Sep 28, 2017

good information.... thank you

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| Jun 14, 2017

very useful information

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| Jun 14, 2017

gr8 information, thanks

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| Jun 14, 2017

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| Jun 13, 2017

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| Jun 13, 2017

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| Jun 13, 2017

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| Jun 13, 2017

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| Jun 13, 2017

very relevant topic that every parent must pay attention. These things we often keep behind and overlook. Along with health, food and nutrition emotional balance should also be kept into the list. Thanx for reminding .

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