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Handling Aggression in Children

Scroll down for Video Aggression is verbal or physical behaviour that is threatening, destructive or intended to harm. Aggression is often used as a means to survive or fulfill a drive. In Child psychology, aggressive behaviour is classified under externalising syndromes which include some problems like hyperactivity, aggressive and oppositional behaviours as well as some serious rule violations which can bring a child or adolescent into the contact with the juvenile judicial system. Although aggressive behaviours are seen more frequently in boys than girls, almost all children display aggressive behaviour to some degree at some point in their development.


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Sucheta

| Oct 16, 2017

Thank you very much for putting this aptly.

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Sucheta

| Oct 16, 2017

Thank you very much for putting this aptly.

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Salim Jilani

| Oct 11, 2017

good very good

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Sarab Khurana

| Oct 11, 2017

nice blog

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puloma pandey

| Oct 02, 2017

very nice blog the most needed one as nowadays children are mostly uncontrollable and behave rudly.

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Sonia

| Sep 25, 2017

well said .....thanks. ......

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Sonia

| Sep 25, 2017

well said ......thanks alot.....

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Sonia

| Sep 25, 2017

well said ......thanks alot.....

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Sushma Kumari

| Sep 21, 2017

very helpful

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Sushma Kumari

| Sep 21, 2017

good information

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Rajni Khera

| Sep 09, 2017

Thanks a lot.

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Mansi Sadhwani

| Aug 31, 2017

thank you

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Maheswary

| Aug 18, 2017

thank you it I'll be useful to take care of son

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Neelam Haldkar

| Aug 06, 2017

Thank you it's very helpful for me

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Shruti Nautiyal

| Jul 22, 2017

it's a helpful article, thanks

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Amrita

| Jul 21, 2017

Hi everyone.... my son is in grade 10.... otherwise a v fine boy... he is v gud at academics as well... but i hv seen lot of behaviour changes in him... aggressive and losing temper... for quite sometime he hs turned friendly with those boys who r weak in studies and are rich spoilt brats as well.... He is at mostly rude wid his younger brother who is in grade 5.... need advice...

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Amrita

| Jul 21, 2017

Hi everyone.... my son is in grade 10.... otherwise a v fine boy... he is v gud at academics as well... but i hv seen lot of behaviour changes in him... aggressive and losing temper... for quite sometime he hs turned friendly with those boys who r weak in studies and are rich spoilt brats as well.... He is at mostly rude wid his younger brother who is in grade 5.... need advice...

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Vrushali Ghotavadekar

| Jul 18, 2017

Thank you so much for the information. Will try to behave like this. hope that wud help

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pritshiya

| Jul 01, 2017

thanks for informative article

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Vijaylaxmi Vyas

| Jun 16, 2017

I personally loose temper when I see my son not listening to what I say. His behaviour has change drastically after my second child. sometimes I feel like crying. I don't understand how to handle. By reading this article I feel like u should help me how I can control my anger.

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Charu Jain

| Jun 16, 2017

thnxxx i wish it helps me...

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Aparna Suryawanshi

| Jun 13, 2017

very nice information.. thanks

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Ghazala Ishrat

| Jun 07, 2017

very informative

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Shalini

| Jun 06, 2017

thanks for your answers let me execute..

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Sonia Shashank

| May 30, 2017

Hello all, I am mother of 17 months old son. I prefer videos too when it comes to parenting tips, easy for me to understand and execute. Please find below the similar video on how to handle anger in children. https://vimeo.com/206359322/cb3795cbbf Hope it will help. Cheers !! Sonia

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Tasneem Merchant

| May 29, 2017

Hi my 3 year old son likes to watch more of fighting animals like dinosaurs etc and also kids videos having guns, policemen etc on youtube. Is that good at his age? should I allow him to watch?

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Ruhina Shaikh

| May 20, 2017

Thnx alot i vl try my best to follow wts said n hope it gives me a positive outcome.

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Tapashi

| May 19, 2017

It's helpful. Thanks ..

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आरती नीरज भाटी

| May 19, 2017

thanks for a nice way

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Ashwini Nair

| May 18, 2017

thanks for showing me d way.. hope by ur advise will change his behaviour

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Gousia

| Apr 25, 2017

thanks a lot , my son is more aggressive and always show his anger on younger brother. I can't control him. he is shouting if advise him ...by this way I can change son's behavior.

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Archana Dhakar

| Apr 18, 2017

really very helpful. Thanks a lot for showing me the way.

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Manju Priya Karthik

| Mar 11, 2017

hi , very helpful. I can see a good change over in my son after following this advice. though not changed completely but u can feel a good amount of change in him. thanks

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drhema Bele

| Feb 03, 2017

very useful thoughts

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Ashwini Rajesh

| Jan 31, 2017

very important information. thank for sharing

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Keerthana Mahesh Racharla

| Jan 21, 2017

it is quite inspiring which is very true actually

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Aarthi Roopani

| Jan 19, 2017

really very helpful for kids

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Anjal Kapil Yadav

| Jan 07, 2017

very helpful

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Bharti

| Dec 31, 2016

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Kriti

| Dec 19, 2016

V nice information. Thanks alot for this blog.

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James Nadar

| Dec 15, 2016

very helpful I m understood very well... thank you so much

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Anju

| Dec 05, 2016

Very informative. Thanks to parent tune. Just now I posted my query without seeing this before hand guide. Hope to work out these tips with my kid

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Bhawna Sharma

| Dec 03, 2016

excellent information.

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Alakananda Ranjan

| Dec 03, 2016

very informative will surely help me in guiding my child

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Srabani Guha Barman

| Nov 11, 2016

excellent !!!

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Abhilasha Lakra Lawrence

| Sep 19, 2016

thank u so much for telling us the real cause of our childs behaviour .

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Sonali Jetwani

| Sep 01, 2016

very informative.

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Geetika Gupta

| Aug 09, 2016

worth for sharing.... we will apply those techniques.

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Anjali Sisodia

| Aug 04, 2016

very informative, looking forward for the articles like this.

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Neerajakshi Srihari

| Jan 20, 2016

Very good information!!!

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mail4bonnie1980

| Nov 27, 2015

well written, nice that u covered this psychological aspect so well. totally agree that a child is what how u treat him. Hyperactivity, intolerance, screamimg, bullying, mood swings, broken sentences, low contentration etc are few more symptoms signifying that parents need to correct their behaviour. too much or too less attention,over-pampered or left aloof, any imbalance in parental behaviour causes all these behaviour ailments in kids.

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Velmurugan Jeyapaul

| Nov 26, 2015

Nice information . let us try

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kavitha arun prasad

| Nov 25, 2015

Very nice and informative article....

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CHANDRASEKAR C

| Oct 09, 2015

Nice article mam..

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Shibi George

| Sep 11, 2015

really helpful article... really nice.. thank u

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Vani

| Aug 18, 2015

Dear mam, really wonderful article very informative

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Jasmin Lapsiya

| Aug 07, 2015

really helpfull article ..thank you

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Saurabh Mhaske

| Aug 03, 2015

All parents should read this blog carefully.

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Pankaj Kumar

| Jul 31, 2015

Thnx...

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Hemashree

| Jul 21, 2015

it is a very good article. children are continuously observing n absorbing the way environment behaves around them and then they find a way out to react to a given situation i. e. fight or flight. we as parents should be very careful while reacting to different situations. children learn most of it by looking at us.

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Manisha Ashwinkumar

| Jul 15, 2015

Its a very nice article.. My daughter is 21 months and has started throwing tantrums. She gets angry when I don't let her do things as she likes. Can this be taken as aggressive behaviour. i don't hit her but once or twice I have; when she throws things in anger even after telling her that this is badly behaviour. How can I make her understand?I don't want to hit her.

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Pooja Kumari

| Jul 15, 2015

Please guidr

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Pooja Kumari

| Jul 15, 2015

Very nice information. I have a query. I have twin kids of 2 years and 2 months old of different sex. My son is more aggressive. He use to bite, hit his sister for snatching any toy she had. I usually warn him to not do so otherwise he will be punished. But most of the time warning goes in vein. Then sometimes I close him in our storeroom for sometime and sometimes I refuse to talk to him. Then after sometime he say me and his sister sorry. Then I ask him to accept that he will not repeat that behaviour. And he agreed. Is it the right way to teach children.

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Mrs Rimaraj

| Jul 13, 2015

Very nice information

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Piyali Basak

| Jul 10, 2015

Great article... very informative...

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Manisha

| Jul 07, 2015

Very informative, will definately want to try

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Kiran

| Jul 03, 2015

Very nice article that can be implemented straight away on kids because we r the role models do them

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Deepali Shah

| Jul 02, 2015

Very nice article n helpful for me thanx

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Parentune Support

| Jun 07, 2015

Manpreet - hope this helps. https://www.parentune.com/video/details/?v_id=9 Jhuma Rani

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Jhuma Rani

| Jun 07, 2015

Hi Manpreet, did you find any solution of your problem as I am also have the same issue. Let me know as well...

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Vishal Rawal

| Jun 07, 2015

A good food for thought ! Home is the first school & so are the parents the first teacher in command. A conducive, loving, supportive, learning coaching & feedback Environment shall do the trick at home . Aggressive behaviours of kids can be dealt with judiciously. Impossible is nothing just a proactive approach and timely intervention is a logical approach. Rest things fall in place time to time. Good platform to share & ponder over in itself. Good luck & thanks.

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Vinita

| Jun 03, 2015

Nice article. Very informative

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Manpreet

| May 29, 2015

Hi. My daughter is 18 months old. She doesn't eat the way kids of her age do. No solids still. She will chop and spit the finger food. It is a challenge to feed her even the soft foods like porridge , khichdhi. I am otherwise a very calm person but i loose my patience when she shows more tantrums and refuses to eat at all costs. I shout at her and sometimes use bad tone'BUt later i feel very guilty. I am managing work from home and child all alone and so it becomes hard for me to spend too much time to feed her. I understand that my aggressive behaviour is not good. Please help me control my anger when she cries of hunger but doesn't eat at all.

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Manisha Tibrewala

| May 28, 2015

Nice article .!v v v helpful

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Priya Mudholkar

| May 17, 2015

Hi, i too am facing the same problem. My son is 4 years old and has become very aggressive. He was not like this 7-8 months before. I have observed this change after the birth if our second son. The elder one is always trying to push him or hurt him. Sometimes says that he does not want s brother. We are trying our level best to talk to him about all the positives of having a sibling, he seems to be happy that time but again continues the same aggressive behaviour. We are very tensed with this behaviour of our son. Please suggest something.

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Mansha Arshad Shaikh

| May 11, 2015

I have a son who is 4 years old he is too much aggresive and he is talkative and impatient, doesn't sit at one place. Continuously wants different things (toys,games) after few minutes. I have started taking OT sessions for him and has helped me a lot. But I guess the cartoons as mentioned in the article above are causing hinderances in the positive changes that are being tried to inculcate via OT.

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amarpreet kandhari

| May 07, 2015

Hi m'y son is 5 years old he is too much aggresive teachers complaints regularly to look after his behaviour and he is toomuch talkative and can’t sit at one place for more then 2 mintues he can not concentrate on one thing regularly

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Amritha Lakshmi

| Apr 29, 2015

I have two boys with an age gap of 18 months only. My elder son was given immense importance since he was born after 5 years. His tantrums have gone off control as both of us are working parents and grand parents are easy goers. My younger son stays with my mom when I am away from home. I get him in the night only. Hence my elder son is an undisturbed prince there. This has led us problems. We go out anywhere.... He throws off violence and woovs everyone.. Sometimes we feel insulted too.. kindly advise

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Umakumari

| Feb 26, 2015

Hi my son is 4 yrs old n he very often push or hurt the other one by playfully not to hurt the other but due to his behavior other one get hurt n I get complaints from his school very often plz suggest me what has to be done to stop him behave like this

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saranya manoj

| Feb 26, 2015

This has caused a change in his little bro's attitude too. Praying to almighty to soon help us.

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saranya manoj

| Feb 26, 2015

For the moment it seems to be working but then he repeats it again. We are at loss for finsing any measures to change him into how a good boy was he before.

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saranya manoj

| Feb 26, 2015

My son has been exhibiting aggressive behaviors for past few months. Throwing tantrums and using words that we did not teach him. We have been doing all those above said treatments but of little effect.

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priyanka Abbi

| Feb 26, 2015

Very helpful article for the parents But have a question in my mind What to do when the kid doesn't understand why the parents are stopping him to do something again n again... His attitude towards no has become so careless... Does this attitude attract scolding

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Sobin Surendran

| Feb 25, 2015

Really it was a wonderful article

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Uma Sharma

| Feb 07, 2015

Useful information as they say charity begins at home hence it's important that we set right cool and non violence and peaceful atmosphere at home

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Chenju dinesh

| Feb 05, 2015

Worthy information. Thank you... This article is a very good for the parents.

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Toshi

| Jun 25, 2014

Nice article. I agree with all the tips shared to suppress aggression in kids. I have myself experienced that my daughter 2. 9 yrs has shouted on us in the same way that i had once done as a reaction to her wrongdoing. Her tantrums, lying on floor, screaming, throwing things has improved tremendously since we stoped reacting to her bad behavior in agressive way. I stay calm when she is shouting or crying and she stops herself seeing that mummy is not angry and not scolding me. then she would tell me what she did not like.

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Rashmi

| Sep 17, 2013

interesting read

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Leena Tharian

| Aug 07, 2013

Very nice article. Very useful wrt to my son a 5 and 1/2 yr old , who is quite aggressive. I've got so many tips now to deal with him. Will keep following your blogs ...

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Ketaki

| Apr 06, 2013

Very informative article... I will definitely apply some of these to discipline my son

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Pallavi

| Apr 04, 2013

Good article... i do face difficult situation at times when my son shows agressive behaviour... will take few learnings from this article n hope it really hleps:) Thanks again

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anshoo

| Apr 03, 2013

very gud article... one must read.....

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Arthy

| Feb 21, 2013

very useful article i pledge to myself that i will be a good role model to my kids

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sarishty

| Feb 12, 2013

Hi Dr Ann , hope you are doing good ..this is really an amazing article , I havent seen my child (3+) hurting his friends but the worst case is he sometimes did it with me ..ofcourse I wasnt really hurt but his intentions were ,we have been explainig him that this is not right at all , I used to get evry angry and use to retaliate but my husband never , he allways remains very calm with him ..I did see a change in him in last couple of months but I was astound one day when we went to the mall and i very happily , thinking to bond ith the kid took him to the rides , but after certain one i had to say ok thats it , you have had enough , lets go and we will coma back somtimes later , we had great time nd he was happy but wasnt really willing to stop , he came to me with a lot of hope that I would agree and would succumb to his request but I stood firm on my decision and we begin to walk I had to pick him up to get him to the car and he spit at me and said you are bad mommy ..How do we handle this behaviour ..

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Ritu Srivats

| Feb 08, 2013

informative .. tnx

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Anjani

| Feb 04, 2013

Really a good post, thanks....

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Anjani

| Feb 04, 2013

Really a good post, thanks....

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Prajakta Deodhar

| Jan 25, 2013

A very helpful article Dr. John. We young parents do need such guidence from time to time. My daughter is 1year 10 months old n she does copy what we her mamma n daddy do. She does sense the tension btwn n is very cranky if everything is not ok un the house. The TV issue is also very true. I used to let her watch the bbc channel cbeebeeis but it has stopped suddenly n we are left with no other good option than rhymes n stories cd's. I also got good info how we parents should behave to make our child understand what is acceptable behaviour. Thanks

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meenakshi

| Jan 25, 2013

Good points are there in article. Thanks

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meenakshi

| Jan 25, 2013

Good points are there in article. Thanks

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meenakshi

| Jan 25, 2013

Good points are there in article. Thanks

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nasrin

| Nov 27, 2012

Useful and handy article to deal with our kids. It explores that we know them well but actually it is not... thanks for the guidance Dr. Ann

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ABDUL ASIF EBRAIM

| Nov 24, 2012

Dr Ann Simi John,I really appreciate your posts...... thank you very much!!!

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Nina Nair

| Nov 23, 2012

My 2. 5 year old daughter was quite the non-aggressive child, and the one who usually got bullied. Till 2 months ago. I now notice that she pushes kids who come in her way, while playing or otherwise. I do understand that her intention is not to hurt. She's mostly doing it playfully. But she does end up hurting others. She's picked this up from playschool. How do I deal with it?

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Parul Garg

| Nov 23, 2012

Appreciate this article. Can you also help me understand how to solve a situation when my kid is being bullied? She is a 3. 5 year old who is a good, quiet child. She gets bullied by a couple of kids and it does affect her mentally. Unfortunately, the bully's parents are not around. What can I tell my kid to make her feel better or make her understand this is unacceptable and I am standing by her?

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Anurima

| Nov 22, 2012

Children very easily pick on our moods-how we behave when stressed or upset. What we don't realize is that what they see is what they will follow. It is true, anger and aggression finds its roots at home. We should find alternate ways of reacting to situations than throw a fit or shout. Great article. Thank you!

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gayatri devi

| Nov 22, 2012

thanks dr john for this useful information

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Aashna

| Nov 22, 2012

Very good points have been mentioned here. Great article Dr. John. Thank you!

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Neena

| Nov 22, 2012

Very useful information. thanks!

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Neetu Ralhan

| Nov 22, 2012

The seeds of these behaviors and reactions are sown early on, and toddlers do learn most of it from their family, since they do not interact much with the outside world in the early years. Having a preteen, I can see how he reacts in certain situations has been picked up from how me and his father react... great post. thanks!

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