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Is your teen rude and back talking to you

Bhavna
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Is your teen rude and back talking to you

Teenage is a critical and crucial time of a child’s life. This is the time when a child is exploring the range of his/ her capabilities, evolving towards adulthood and challenging the preset norms that they have to abide by in the real world. One of the major fallouts of teenage is Back talk to Parents, which can be a frustrating and challenging time for Parents. While interacting with parents of teenage children I came across the issue of Backtalk, it is not just cropping with parents of teenagers but also with parents who have children as young as 6 years old. As alarming as it is, backtalk from children has been an age-old problem but there are many ways a parent may react that can result in checking the development of this problem at an early phase of a child’s life.


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Banaja Acharya

| Aug 10, 2017

excellent... now, I realized that I was wrong wth my single teen daughter.... will try to implement these valuable suggestion ...regards,

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pooja

| Aug 02, 2017

thanks a lot for such a wonderful advice

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Hajirayousuf786gmailcom

| Jul 27, 2017

thank u so much very good advice

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Kaneez Chowdhari

| Jul 01, 2017

cool advice

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Rajni

| Apr 25, 2017

very useful information.....

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Divya Kothari

| Mar 16, 2017

my son is 22 n he is not listening to us , does what he wants to do , has no routine .plz help how to in sync him in routine

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Guneet Singh

| Mar 15, 2017

The tips are useful and can be implemented ! thanks

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Shashi Rekha

| Mar 07, 2017

excellent and very valuable tips thank you very much

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Shalini Arora

| Jan 24, 2017

thanks it helps me lots

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Shubha Prashant Nayak

| Jan 17, 2017

I too am going thru the same being a mother of a 12 n half yr old. can relate. will try n implement :-)

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Pooja Kaushal

| Dec 03, 2015

Thanks for the valuable tips. However, I find this easier said than done. Back chat is indeed a trying and testing thing for every parent. I can realize this thing developing in my son, years 13, and growing day by day. He has to question every move of mine and demands and explanation for everything he is asked to do. Sometimes explaining things becomes a bit too much. The terrible teens have just started for me and I have a long way to go. Keeping my fingers crossed. :)

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Swati Rohillaverma

| Oct 05, 2015

There couldn't be any better explanation

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Avinash Lande

| Sep 12, 2015

good and inovative

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Sunita

| Jul 05, 2015

Very nice article. It's really a tough time when kid's back answer. This article will definitely help us to handle this sort of situations

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Sapoorna Saini

| Jul 04, 2015

Dear Bhavna.... My daughter doesn't share her day diary with me. Often she keeps secrets and I feel as if I don't know her. I always have tried to listen to her and shared my thoughts and views with her. I have expressed myself as a liberal minded and an understanding mother.

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Anand GV

| Jul 04, 2015

Useful tips, my boy turns 15 and has comments on anything said....

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Ananya

| Jul 03, 2015

Had been doing these with my twins who r 15. But d reinforcement will keep motivating me, as a parent, specially when i lose temper

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Raj Kandari

| Jul 02, 2015

Excellent tips I am searching for this article thanks I hope it will work .

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Mamta Singh

| Jun 02, 2015

Realised I am committing some mistakes in bringing up my teenager daughter, your tips are very helpful and I'll try them certainly.

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Namrata Katgeri

| Jun 02, 2015

I totally agree with the author ...... Its more or less the same situation my 12 year old son is to rude sometimes which makes me very depressed. Will try to implement these above tips

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Varsha R Chheda

| Jun 02, 2015

Tips are good

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Minal Mistry

| Jun 02, 2015

Excellent tips... Will definitely try to keep them in mind will dealing with my growing kids

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Vivek Chaturvedi

| Jun 01, 2015

I am hopeful that execution of these tips will bear fruitful result. Trying to understand what my teenage cum adolescent princess going through in life & how to cope up with that.

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Sonali Parashar

| May 31, 2015

Excellent tips.

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Jyoti Chandrashekhar Aaglawe

| May 30, 2015

Good tips. Though it may be difficult for us to follow but would definitely n sincerely give it a try. Most difficult is to keep calm when the child back answers.

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Vandana Walia

| May 30, 2015

Thanks well said how does one understand what is the anger all about i keep wondering .... My son is just turned 14 but angry n unhappy about everything. Except what he decides n goes his way n not worried about the sum of Amt involved in many cases.

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Mahuya Ghosh

| May 29, 2015

Nice article.... yesssss out of anger we also involve ourselves in arguments which is incorrect... will try these tricks. Thnx

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Ruchi Verma

| May 29, 2015

Very nice way to handle new generation kids.... really difficult. ...We need to work upon... and we should change ourselves before changing them....

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Kaveri Priyanka

| May 29, 2015

Nice article... just read hoping toimpliment

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Shama Sultana

| May 29, 2015

Vry nyc article..

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Meenu

| Jun 25, 2014

very nice article .My daughter is going to become 11 this november. i am feeling that she is growing physically and mentally. some times she really behaves like a teenage girl which upsets me. Why her brain is developing so fast .Can u help me. Sometimes she only help me in solving our family matters.

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Teena Gulati

| Jun 25, 2014

Nice Article

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Nivedita

| May 25, 2014

This is THE article I was looking for, though I am the mother of a preteen and not a teenager....

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Meena Kumari

| Mar 28, 2014

very informative and good article

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Meenambigai Rajesh

| Dec 05, 2013

The adamance of my teen sometimes drives me nuts. After reading this beautiful article, I get confidence to handle it with love and patience. Light at the end of the tunnel.

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Sushma

| Jul 15, 2013

Very informative article.. Afrin my son is just 8yrs and already back answering. If i tell him akshat finish you homework or else see what i will do... he will immediately question what you will do? I fear if i dont stop this here i too might face serious problems in future. I am thankful that the article is come at the rite time for me... i will surely implement this.

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Sanjaih Bokaria

| May 05, 2013

Vedika, i empathize with you & i can relate to what you are saying as my daughter is on the threshold of turning 15. Since you have had such a great bonding till a month back, you might need to reflect on one single most important thing to get that thread back on track. The only thing that could in my opinion invite such a wall like defence situation is the ability to will fully hide a thing, or intention, or fear, or wish, or desire for the sheer inhibition or lack of courage to come out with such a reality & that could be both ways either from you or her. You being the one with bigger experiences & maturity drawn from your life have to let go of the shrug of inhibition & treat your daughter like the most wonderful friend you could ever have on earth & give her the security blanket of your emotional, physical self, & open up to her, tell her about some secrets of yours, some fantasy of yours in taste to the line of actual understanding by your daughter, prod her to open up, & seek to be a partner even in her distress, tell her that you will only guide her, not control her, that you will love her no matter what happens, what steps she takes as long as she takes any or all of such steps in your complete awareness as a friend first & mother second. That's the way to say it to her, you will always be a mother first from all parameters, yet becoming a friend in an all compassionate way inspite of the fear that looms on the heart of mother hood for whatever reasons is a much better way of dealing with any emotion. After all, what's so bad about being in the dark if you know that there is always some one who will hold the light to draw you from the darkness when needed ! just my thoughts, i am not an academician or a scholar just a simple father seeking to be better than the past moment !

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Afrin

| May 04, 2013

My son is just 11 yrs old and still I see some of tge symptoms in him. I wonder if teenage has shifted down to 11-12 yrs. hehe. The article is extremely helpful to me.

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Vedika

| Apr 22, 2013

Since past few months i am seeing a drastic change in my daughter's attitude (she is going to be 15yrs soon) - mostly back talk and what gets to me the most are her expressions n eye rolling etc. there hv also been some really hurting words. I have always been honest with her and involved her in all my major decisions (being a single parent) communication channel between us has been excellent... until a month or so. At present i have become mostly silent and left her to do as she pleases (of course all within the safety of home) . I must add here that most times she realises she has been hurtful and apologises & has also confessed that she tries her best to control her temper/attitude but somehow it just doesnt happen. Pls advice.

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Vedika

| Apr 22, 2013

Thank you for making me a part of your community.

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Bhavna

| Apr 16, 2013

shobhna@ sometimes the best strategies are made on a fresh mind, i can understand how a parent would be stressed when the situation has not fully resolved but then , when you are a parent , taking the tough call is part of the job profile. I like that you "Smiled"... :-)

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Bhavna

| Apr 16, 2013

jyoti@i agree, i use most of these in daily conflicting situations and they work ....

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jyoti gill

| Apr 15, 2013

This is fantastic way to deal not only with your teenagers but maybe any arguments. ...

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jyoti gill

| Apr 15, 2013

This is fantastic way to deal not only with your teenagers but maybe any arguments. ...

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harpreet

| Apr 13, 2013

i see these to be very useful not just with teen age children but with all age. my son is just 5, but i have to be very tactful dealing with him on getting things done and most importantly letting the child learn to behave well. thanks for the useful tips.

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A

| Apr 13, 2013

That is very handy tips I too use for my teens

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Shobha Rana

| Apr 12, 2013

I went through this yesterday. I was calm and composed and smiled. It was difficult, but it worked. I was very upset after he went off to sleep. It did stress me out.

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kangana

| Apr 11, 2013

well written bhavna and also great tips. actually as a parent to a second teen one did know the rules of the game but very effective reinforcement . thank you .

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VANDANA

| Apr 11, 2013

very useful ways to handle the teens. nicely written .

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Bhavna

| Apr 11, 2013

i am glad that this could help...

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Neetu Ralhan

| Apr 11, 2013

Dear author, I walked out of the room last night to end an argument, and also because I was too tired to have a logical conversation. This morning, I received a soft apology.. I had just read this blog yesterday and it came handy. ,. thanks!

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Indu

| Apr 11, 2013

excellent tips for the parents .... Thanks

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Shanaya

| Apr 10, 2013

Just read the article, bac talking from my daughter has been worrying me and also end up losing my temper in trying to discipline her.. here I found some great tips.. very well compiled, thanks.

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