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Shades of an imperfect motherhood

Kriti Kuthiala
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Shades of an imperfect motherhood

Motherhood is magical but it is not perfect - it has its own shares of frustrations. As mothers, we need to allow ourselves to be human, to feel annoyed, as well as feel happy. The blog is on the social pressures that the mothers feel and how they may make it a little less stressful for themselves being a "perfect mother".


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Sheetal Bathla

| Jul 15, 2017

i really felt nice reading this

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Sindhu Poorani

| Apr 13, 2017

awesome write up.

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kajal desai

| Apr 05, 2017

so good to read experience of someone who has been through it all.. my baby is just 1. 5 month and what you have written is so much of a learning for new mums.. specially the last line.. dont let the anxious wait for next milestones make you lose out on the pleasure of firsts.. cheers lady!!

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Vishnu Priya

| Mar 05, 2017

Very true as I also can relate my situation to the same

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Pavithra Gnanavel

| Mar 05, 2017

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.. very well written.. most of the parents expect a lot from their children and they cannot accept things in the way it is and end up in unwanted stress.. your thoughts will really change many of the parents attitude towards their kids

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Varsha Varun Gupta

| Mar 04, 2017

I can relate to each n every line of this blog.. awesome!!!

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Monica Ravula

| Mar 03, 2017

very said n informative too ... Comparison z d nly mistake wich most of the parents do n after reading dis article m sure even dey r gonna mature

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Anjal Kapil Yadav

| Mar 03, 2017

Nice blog

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Sneha Agarwal

| Feb 28, 2017

wonderful article.... I think all new moms can relate to this.......

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Dhriti Pandey

| Feb 27, 2017

Every single word tells the story of every new mother. i enjoy to the fullest with my 9 month daughter and ignores what anybody advices.

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Priyashree Andley

| Feb 27, 2017

Totally agree and read it at the perfect time when I was feeling so stressed raising one year old twins

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Smruti Sorate

| Feb 27, 2017

Very well written

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nidhi sinha

| Feb 27, 2017

very well written

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Rachi

| Feb 27, 2017

very well articulated

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Neha Dubey

| Feb 27, 2017

really vry true ...

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Monikaporwal60gmail com

| Feb 27, 2017

she is not eat food wt to do

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Pallavi M Tanu

| Feb 27, 2017

hope true words of newly moms

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Preethi

| Feb 27, 2017

I hope I could tell people around to keep their theories and solutions to themselves. but knowing better I know they won't stop. So it's high time that we stop trying to take every single thing they say to heart. My mother keeps complaining that my baby who s just 3 1/2 months old hasn't flipped yet. what am I supposed do??? I went through that phase of getting frustrated asking the doctor if anything is wrong with my baby and googling all sorts of bullshit to help my baby flip. Finally I am done. I decided I don't care. my baby will turn when she feels like doing it .she has her own growing speed and l need to respect that

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mandeep singh

| Feb 27, 2017

true lines

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Iram Rahman

| Jan 19, 2017

nicely written..

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Kinjal Desai

| Dec 08, 2016

so nicely written. love the way how u expressed deep feeling of mother and specially many of these thoughts and feelings new moms are unable to express with anyone else. so you increase the confidence of all the moms who r reading ur blog. keep writing.

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Manjusagaran

| Nov 30, 2016

happened in my life too... I thought the same way u felt like.. parenting should cum through our own thing like an art nt through free advice from our surroundings.....

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Komal Varma

| Nov 06, 2016

true

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Kanika Gupta

| Nov 06, 2016

Nicely put. These thoughts are shared by most new mothers.

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Ophelia

| Oct 18, 2016

beautiful.. uv brought out almost everythin and more what a new mother goes thru.. actually u quite spoke my mind.. it was a pleasure reading ur blog.. keep writing..

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Khushbu T Kumar

| Oct 07, 2016

my daughter is 8. 5 month old , shez a happy child reaching every milestone at time but after six mo th she doesnt have food properly, as she is bf chhild so shez not vry chubby but now shez becoming lean but her activities r not compromised, but now shez refused every single thing which i offer to her , only take breast milk. till now i was patient but now i feel very frustated . her weight is 7. 85 . i m very much worried how to give her food. shez teething also

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VEENA VELMURUGAN

| Sep 30, 2016

wow .... beautifully written .... hats off to u ..

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Preeti Dipesh

| Sep 08, 2016

yes u r right in each and every word

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Tasmeena Begum

| Sep 08, 2016

Just love the way you have written this article. I totally agree to what you have drawn our attention too. Every mother is a human and she has every right to be imperfect and no matter what a mother will love her child the most.

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Ganga

| Sep 08, 2016

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Nivas Sekar

| Sep 08, 2016

beautifully written. got confidence and new thoughts from u.... thanks....

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Jahnabi Medhi

| Sep 02, 2016

Beautifully written. I am a new mother with a two and half month old baby girl. Yes I can relate to all these. Life as a mother is challenging as everyday is a new day. Traditional methods do work in most cases and in others things have changed. There are always so many people around you giving advice. And the mother itself is going through so much that all these things effect her and stress her. I truly agree that as a mother you should do what truly your heart desires. Everything falls in place and nothing can replace the mother. What needs to be done is to support her and give her the confidence and the much needed boost that you are doing absolutely well.

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Sandhyasagar

| Aug 31, 2016

excellent...

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Bhargavi

| Aug 28, 2016

beautifully written..... speaks volumes about what each mother goes through.

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sadaf sultana

| Aug 23, 2016

wonderfully written... loved every bit of it... VRY true

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Dr Ashwini

| Aug 16, 2016

good one.... can relate most of my experience. ..feel relaxed that I'm facing what other moms facing as well... thanks for writing this one

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Shridevi

| Aug 10, 2016

Wonderful article.. Many new moms can relate to it.. Very well written..

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Akshada Suryavanshi Rajah

| Aug 10, 2016

absolutely relatable article for a 1st time mother.. Thank U!

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Rupali Mulye

| Aug 10, 2016

Somewhere every Mother will easily relate herself to this blog and will be happy that we all are sailing in the same boat. Thanks for making all mom's comfortable and making them feel that they are just Fabulous and doing their part perfectly.

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jiya sanil naik

| Aug 10, 2016

i completely relate to it. a big thank u for putting it all in 1 article. beautifully written. hats off to you

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kriti kuthiala

| Jul 29, 2016

Pooja and Lubna... that's right! we need to take charge and let people know that they can't push us or our kids around. One doesn't feel it but even the kid senses when the mother isn't her normal self and these advice bits... uff... they never end! I am so glad to have been able to find people who share my dilemma and doubts. all that one needs is just a little push and the feedback on this blog has been that push for me. Thanks a ton, everyone! Cheers to all the mothers out there!

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Dr Pooja AttreyPT

| Jul 29, 2016

I can so relate to this.. being first time mother,i was already over anxious... a bit prepared for motherhood but scared at the same time. n trust me all the people around made it all the more scarier... unnecessary.. everyone had an issue... had an advice.. rather more of compelling... even without knowing my baby,his behavior n needs.. everyone used to tell me WHAT NOT TO DO!! very few advises WHAT TO DO! I have ..intentionally...never been the outspoken one... or decisive one.. throughout my life.. even after being capable enough! and entering motherhood.. without changing that attitude of mine.. was biggest mistake I did in early days.. they literally stole the joy of my initial motherhood by creating unnecessary fears... making me more scared. and then one fine day,seeing my baby suffer coz of all nonsense of family members. i finally said to myself,' that's it girl!you need to take charge now n forever.. if not for you... for the best of ur baby' n that was the last day I gave an ear to any nonsense coming my way about parenting.. suggestions are always welcome... but I KNOW my baby n I will decide if ur suggestion can suit my baby or not. never knew this fierce beast in my all lovey dovey... hanji mumma hanji papa types personality!but trust me ..life is easy now and I am. enjyoing motherhood more than ever.

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lubna

| Jul 29, 2016

Thanks Kriti for writing such beautiful article which I think every mother will be able to relate. The Indian society has the dilemma that since you became mother for the first time, you are inexperienced in everything related to the child. I agree that direct experience for first time mothers is something very new, practical knowledge is less. However, society needs to trust and understand that these days mothers are educated and can get in touch with many people, or apps for that matter look at this Parentune app, its just wonderful. We know how to take care of our kids, you can advise us but constantly whispering and loading suggestions will only frustrate us, basically, people need to understand the limits. If they are incapable to do so, kindly draw a line to make them understand that they needn't worry much about the kid. Mothers know their child the BEST!!

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Farzin Contractor

| Jul 21, 2016

Nice article! Thoughts of most mothers penned down!

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Aditi

| Jul 21, 2016

great article it's like u have given words to wat I'm going through... super like

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Suchithra Thulasiram

| Jul 17, 2016

wonderful article.... my gal is 4 months old and I have been under so much of depression as there is no one to help me..... but after reading this article I do not know how to put it across but I'm relieved

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Vennela N

| Jun 28, 2016

Amazing article... ! Some of my thoughts and feelings are expressed in this article.. ! Good

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Moonmoon Chowdhary

| Jun 10, 2016

Great article kriti. You almost touched every mother's heart. We all face the exact condition you mentioned, but such wonderful and motivational piece of information boost the strength to handle the criticism in a better way. Just loved it. Kudos to all the mother nd all d best for the new mom's to be.

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Keerthana Vanamali

| Jun 06, 2016

wonderfully expressed !! This boosts my confidence that I am not the only one going through all this. Your article gives us a strength that we can get through all this. Be how you want to. Nurture your kid how you want to. Hats off to all the mothers out here and good luck !!

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Sneha Jayesh Ladva

| Jun 05, 2016

luvly article. n thnx 4 d motivation as yes my babu is just 2 months old n m already experiencing such criticisms from my M. I. L. dat let ur child cry dont cuddle every time, u should not do this do like this as if i dont knw. suggestions r good but wen sumone forcefully tries to impose upon us. its really irritating. but ur article has motivated me to stay "me" rather den listening to others nonsenses n loosing my self esteem instead. gd luck.

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Sonam Agarwal

| Jun 01, 2016

wonderful article. .read my own thoughts. .the day he came in my life I promised to myself that I'll let him live n grow d way he wants to. .

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Monika Kandpal

| Jun 01, 2016

Wonderful article.. i had experience the same .hype of do nd donts which makes me depress but den. my mother sparked me wid confidence ..u can do it.. sab ho jata h.

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Aafeen Syed

| May 30, 2016

Ahh!what a great article.. thanx kriti.. i hate those comparisons which i heard from my pregnancy to till date(nw my lo is 9months old.. )its like someone banging in our head n so irritating.. while reading ur article gone in a flashback.. to every mother hatsoff!!we r not perfect bt we r our lil one's life!yeah!thats exactly we want.. <3

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Nisha agarwal

| May 28, 2016

Very helpful ... It was like someone telling my piece of story. Now I m confident n shall handle my child my own way

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mona shah

| May 23, 2016

I j the sa theme th theed

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sridevi

| May 22, 2016

Excellent n very helpful for every parent

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sridevi

| May 22, 2016

Excellent n very helpful for every parent

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Ganesh

| May 22, 2016

exactly resembles what my wife goes through ! I will definitely share this to her for reading. thanks :)

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maseera shaikh

| May 22, 2016

Nice blog

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Soumya Chacko

| May 21, 2016

A very helpful article. As I was reading it,I could feel that everything said was about my kid. My happiness, excitement at any new thing my kid did,my frustrations because of her tantrums,the constant comparisions ,advices; I could relate to all. Thank you for putting my feelings into words.

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Shiwani Pathak

| May 21, 2016

V beautiful written. Nice blog

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Patel Varsha

| May 21, 2016

It's all true as I am facing the same thing from my in lows . They are just comparing my son with others and all the time irritate me.

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Chandni

| May 20, 2016

So beautifully expressed !! Glad to know that I am not the only one going through this phase which is frustrating at one moment and so joyful in the other. After reading this I am surely gonna stop comparing myself to others (who according to me are just perfect )

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Shah apexa

| May 20, 2016

just lyk my thoughts n ur words added the trust to it yet sometimes I afraid to handle comments by in-laws.. but hopefully van face for my daughter.

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Suman Jain

| May 19, 2016

happy to know that I'm not the only one going through this phase.... happy to know that I'm not,"the prefect mother "....

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Nabamita Ray

| May 19, 2016

extremely well written :)

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kriti kuthiala

| May 19, 2016

Thank you So much everyone, for your support is and sweet comments. :) It's a great feeling to be able to feel a part of the group that shares your sentiments, fears as well as joys regarding your baby and your role as a parent, especially a mother.

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Amrita Mazumdar Pokkunuri

| May 19, 2016

my sentiments exactly... a very well written, to the point article...

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laveena khivesara

| May 19, 2016

Awesome article.. Very beautifully phrased..

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jiya sanil naik

| May 19, 2016

thats so very true. the article is wonderfull n i can completely relate to it. my daughter is just 7 months old bt i have gone thru evrythng u mentioned above.

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nidhi agrawal

| May 19, 2016

Very impressive article ...

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swati awale

| May 19, 2016

Wowww thanx kriti.. U actually spoke my heart out.. It seems all mothers sail in same boat in dis case :p u really relieved me to great extent.. Yes I dnt want to b a perfect mother.. As thrz nothing called perfect I jus want to b a good mother to my child of whom she will b proud of! It's actually frustrating listening to all and it sounds like u know nothing.. Yes but then it's ok to know nothing and just be aware to the child's need.. Its heart to heart bonding right.. Just make ur child feel relaxed and pleasant.. Thanx once Again! Stay blessed

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Himani Dhawan

| May 19, 2016

Awsome article.. simply loved it.. My girl Elly is 9 myhs old n she is underweight child.. I m always showered with lotss if advices.. its really frustrating..

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Guneet Kajal Choudhary

| May 19, 2016

I'm so relieved and thankful after reading this article. I have a 4-month old son. And being a first time, everyone around is up for advise and sharing their experiences of raising children. It helps when I do ask for suggestions, but most of the times it is frustrating because it is unwanted.

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Manmeet Kaur

| May 19, 2016

Very nice article Kriti . Indeed all mothers go through the same phase and it depends on us how we want to bring up our children . It is imp that we think of ourselves and our little one instead of thinking of others :)

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