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Unplugging Parenting – Hidden Dangers of Overuse of technology by parents

Neha Gupta Mittal
7 to 11 years

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Unplugging Parenting Hidden Dangers of Overuse of technology by parents

Technology transcends generations, fields and does not stop with financial fencing. Instances of appearance of technology vary, but its presence does not cease to exist. Yes, these days putting technology to use is synonymous with working formats but parenting is not a task, a job or a work, it’s a virtue. It is way beyond a mere set of day-to-day activities; it’s a live responsibility of creating a fine human being.

Taking help from technology and putting technology in complete charge of your child are two very different things. In today’s world technology, as a tool of parenting is abused more than used discretionally. A tender mind is given access to the finest of technology leading to a classic mismatch of innocence and independence. Overuse of technology has led to:

1. Disoriented upbringing

Situation: One day Kia’s mother invited some relatives over for dinner. Kia refused to even glance at them because she was busy chatting with her online friends. The mother was embarrassed but this behavioural disorder did not develop overnight, did it?

Both the child and the parent fail to connect and hence understand each other. Respecting aspirations and commitments does not even feature in the priority list; rather it’s a race of who is able to get his/her way out. One fine day after months or probably years, some odd action or reaction of the child rings the alarm bell for the parents and they miserably ponder about how clueless they were about the child’s mindset. Their own upbringing stares into their worried eyes, without a blink.

2. Give and take relationships

Situation:  Aarav is told that if he eats his tiffin all 7 days of the week in school, then the coming weekend his parents will take him to this plush mall in Colaba that has many simulated rides installed. Deal is struck and the work is done. He does what he was told and the awaited Sunday comes. Due to some medical emergency the parents could not fulfill the promise and next Monday afternoon, Aarav comes back home with a full tiffin.

Quite easy and almost all the parents will relate to this. The child does not learn exchange policies, bargaining and trade from birth. It is the parents who make them aware of these traits, initially, for their own convenience and later on to fulfill a tantrum-threatened demand. Parents train them in: “You do this, I give you this; if you don’t I won’t!!!

3. Easy escapes from difficult situations

Situation:  Dhani wanted to show her father a drawing she made in the class and also share some school stories. He was home as he had taken an off but was busy chatting with a colleague about some future projects. As an escape, he gave his other phone to Dhani and told her to play for a while. She lost the tempo and he lost his chance of peeping into his daughter’s thoughts.

Parenting requires patience and participation. Today, parents own lives are buzzing with activities and they use technology as a baby-sitter. And the child continues to linger to it with apathy, till the parents finish what they were doing or planning to do.

4. Physical hazards

Situation: Advait goes to a resort with his family for a weekend break. The resort has a pool, a play area and also a gymnasium. While the parents switch off their phones and wish to swim and play with Advait, he finds comfort only in his I-pad. He is constantly playing Clash of Titans and the parents cannot say anything because his argument is, “Any which ways this is what I do in my spare time at home. You guys continue to enjoy, I have almost made it to the next level so I don’t want to stop abruptly.”

Over exposure to gadgets and devices hampers the physical growth and development of the child. In fact it also has negative effects on the sensory development of the child. The role of trees, fresh air, water, sunlight and stars in the life of a child can never be underestimated or undermined. A child’s playfulness is visible while he/she runs, jumps, writes, draws and plays board games.

5. Faulty value system

Situation - Ishaani’s father developed a severe back problem and was hospitalised. She really cared for him and was sad to see him that way. When all the others in the house were busy attending to her father, she quietly slipped into her room and started watching her favourite TV show. It did not engage her meaningfully, in the back of her mind her father’s illness lingered continuously but she sought peace inside the room, not outside with others. She chose non-doing over action and leading.

Instilling moral values in a child is an innate aspect of parenting. However technology overlaps and occupies a child’s mind to such an extent that they fail to understand the difference between right and wrong. Love, understanding, respect for elders, praying, caring and sharing with younger ones, there is little room for all this because technology comes in way of the parent-child bonding which develops these values. The mind becomes so biased that the child whose parents give him the most expensive and latest gadget are treated with high respect and admiration in the children community.

My blog is not anti technology, but yes its purpose is to prove that overuse of technology comes in way of effective parenting. The idea is to create a self realisation amongst all those tech savvy parents who have given gadgets to their child as a replacement for their time. 

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| Sep 27, 2017

very helpful blog

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| Sep 27, 2017

helpful blog.

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| Sep 27, 2017

very usefull

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| Sep 27, 2017

very nice blog....

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| Jul 24, 2017

so true..

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| Jul 24, 2017

nice....

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| Jul 24, 2017

Very true and informative - thanks for sharing.

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| Apr 21, 2017

very thoughtful note to all parents by neha indeed pondering over, excellent . would like to read such blogs infuture too

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| Apr 11, 2017

challenging job for parents to keep children away from gadgets

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| Mar 20, 2017

yes, really true fact.

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| Mar 19, 2017

nice

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| Feb 04, 2017

very good facts

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| Jan 16, 2017

yes dis is very true .nowadays children does not connect with neone

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| Dec 27, 2016

real need of the time... spend time with kids

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| Oct 31, 2016

Good

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| Sep 02, 2016

Thank you for liking my blog.... Courtesy Parentune Team I am getting an opportunity to build such stories....

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| Aug 27, 2016

very well written andi hope we all should really realize it. it's high time now .i really try to spend time with my kid we draw,play sing n dance but still we are lacking outdoor games because we live in Hyderabad n these people don't make parks near house.

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| Aug 23, 2016

Super blog.. It's an eye-opener..

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| Jul 16, 2016

good insight of our doings

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| Jul 12, 2016

useful blog... good one...

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| Jul 11, 2016

Nice blog. It would be great if you could suggest some ideas to make kids gadget free.

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| Jul 11, 2016

Nice blog. It would be great if you could suggest some ideas to make kids gadget free.

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| Jul 08, 2016

Yes.. my 1. 5 yrs daughter not ready to eat any food with out watching tv or mobile.. she always want something in her hand.. i want to change her habbit but dont understand how..

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| Jul 07, 2016

Very well written... This generation is almost addicted to gadgets and this information creates some awareness in the parents.

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| Jul 04, 2016

this is very true..... the examples here r the ones we generally faces everyday and we tend to ignore the consequences or thinks that we are going to work on it someday. That someday should b the same day and should start working on it.

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