Parenting Health

Why bed wetting is never a Child's Fault

Anurima
3 to 7 years

Created by Anurima
Updated on Dec 05, 2018

Why bed wetting is never a Childs Fault

7 year old Sunny wakes up every morning and the first thing he does is check his sheets. He seemed to have wet his bed yet again. His greatest fear comes alive and he starts crying in shame. He knows what are to follow- his mother shouting at him, his father grumbling, his sister laughing and Roma bai complaining as she will have to do the laundry! He manages to stay dry during the day, but somehow cannot seem to control his bladder when asleep. Some days he would try hiding the sheets, but his mother would find them and the consequences would be worse for him. Over time this has caused a great deal of embarrassment to Sunny. His parents grew extremely irritated at this behaviour and brought it up at the slightest excuse. At the age of 7 years, Sunny was a very quiet, shy and a timid boy with very few friends.

What Is Bed Wetting In Children?

Bedwetting, also known as Enuresis, is a type of sleep disorder, which is faced by millions of families. It is very common among young children but can continue up to teen years and even adult hood. In most cases the exact cause is not known. An unfortunate aspect about bed wetting is the embarrassment, shame and the affect it has on the self confidence of the child.

What Are The Causes For Bed Wetting In Children?

Bed wetting in most children is not due to an underlying cause, but in some children, there may be an underlying condition. It is wrong to assume that children wet their beds because they are lazy or doing it wilfully. This disorder can cause pain and disturbance to all involved.

How Many Types Of Bedwetting Are There?

Essentially there are two types of bedwetting:

  • Primary bedwetting, where the child never attained bladder control
  • Secondary bedwetting, where the child achieved bladder control but lost it over time

What Are The Other Causes Bed Wetting Is Related To?

Bed wetting is known to be related to one or more of the following:

  1. Delayed development of the nervous system may be the reason for the child not to realize when his/her bladder is full
  2. The child’s bladder maybe too small to hold large amount urine at a time, hence gives way
  3. Low Anti-diuretic Hormone controls the secretion of urine in the kidney. Children with a low level of this hormone usually cannot control the bladder when asleep
  4. Deep Sleep- Some children may wet their beds at night simply for the fact that they may sleep too deep and do not wake up to go to the bathroom
  5. Genetics is another reason. Parents, who have had the same condition, are likely to pass it on to the children. If both parents have been bedwetters, then the child is likely to have a 70% chance of being a bed wetter. If one parent has been a bed wetter, then the child will have a 40% chance to following the habit
  6. Stress or an emotional factor can also be the reason. If a child is stressed about a change in his/her environment, for example, changing of school, moving to a new place or even the birth of a sibling; changes like these may make him/her wet their beds
  7. Food allergies or food intolerances may also be culprits behind bed wetting. Carbonated or caffeinated beverages are known to irritate the lining of the bladder

How Can Bedwetting Treated In Children?

Before we talk about treatment for bedwetting in children, you need to understand that bedwetting in children is more of a social stigma than a medical disease. Hence first you need to know whether there is an underlying medical condition or not. If not then you can go for home remedies like moisture alarms, where in the alarm will wake the child up with a slight sense of moisture.

How To Help A Child Who Does Susu In The Bed?

  1. If a child is being toilet trained, it is important to be patient, as some children take longer to learn bladder control
  2. Limiting a child’s fluid intake in the evenings may help in reducing the chances of bed wetting at night
  3. Children should never be punished or shamed if they wet their beds. This may worsen their fear and affect their personalities in the long run. Wetting episodes should be handled calmly and accident free nights should be appreciated; this will encourage the child to make more of an effort to end the habit
  4. The child should be made aware of the fact that bed-wetting is a common occurrence among many children and the child can control it in time
  5. Bed-wetting may be due to stress, trying to find out the real reason behind the stress or anxiety and figuring a way to sort it out with the child may help make a difference
  6. A doctor may be consulted to rule out any infections such as Urinary Tract Infection or other medical causes such as Sleep Apnoea or even Diabetes
  7. Waking the child every 2-3 three hours to go to the toilet in the night by either of the parent may help in tackling the issue
  8. During the day, the child can be encouraged to delay passing urine as long as possible. This may help with bladder control even at night
  9. Children should be praised if they have had a dry night or have woken up to use the toilet at night
  10. A positive way of encouraging a child to stay dry at night can be by keeping a diary of the number of dry nights by using stickers or stars. At the end of the month, the child can be rewarded for the number of dry nights he/she has had. This will only motivate the child to try and stay dry
  11. To rule out food intolerances leading to bed wetting, all trigger foods such as soft drinks, soda, other acidic drinks, chocolates and cocoa can be gradually eliminated. A diet chart may be maintained to give a clearer picture of which foods to avoid in helping the child remain dry at night

Home Remedies To Curb Bed Wetting In Children

Some home remedies are known to effectively curb bed wetting. These have been tried and tested by parents over the years.

  1. Eating a handful of walnuts and raisins at bedtime are known to help to keep the child dry over time
  2. Banana is known to bind the stomach and also help with bladder control
  3. A spoonful of a mixture of jaggery, celery seeds and black sesame seeds (all in equal quantities) can be given to a child in a cup of milk every morning. This is known to be effective in bed wetting when taken regularly for a month or two
  4. A mixture of 1 teaspoon of Amla (gooseberry) with 1/8 teaspoon of black pepper powder can be given to the child at bed time
  5. The child should be in a stress-free and a comfortable environment at home. The chances of bed wetting are more if a child is constantly worried about the thought that s/he will be teased by a friend or a sibling

It may be very frustrating for a parent whose child wets his/her bed. However, we must remember that it is never the child’s fault. Most children grow out of this habit. In most cases, a simple change of attitude among the family members and more so on the part of the parents, is enough to help solve the issue.

  • 95
Comments()
Kindly Login or Register to post a comment.

| Sep 08, 2018

thank u so much

  • Report

| Sep 08, 2018

thank u so much

  • Report

| Sep 08, 2018

thank u so much

  • Report

| Aug 06, 2018

vry helpful blog

  • Report

| Feb 01, 2018

thank you so much

  • Report

| Feb 01, 2018

thank you so much

  • Report

| Feb 01, 2018

thaks

  • Report

| Jan 27, 2018

thanks...

  • Report

| Oct 09, 2017

Thanks for the nice blog.

  • Report

| Oct 03, 2017

Kya raat ko banana sahi h bacho ko dena

  • Report

| Oct 03, 2017

tq so much

  • Report

| Sep 30, 2017

Thanks I appreciate it

  • Report

| Sep 27, 2017

thank u so much

  • Report

| Sep 27, 2017

thank u so much

  • Report

| Sep 22, 2017

thank you so much

  • Report

| Sep 16, 2017

thanks for the valuable tips

  • Report

| Sep 04, 2017

thnks for da valuable info. . my dughter is 9... n still wets her bed, almost every night.. can u plz tell me tht from whn I can start with walnuts n raisin remedy for her... according to weather... as walnuts shud be consumed in winters.. or shud be soked over night.. to be consumed in da morning during summers... plz guide...

  • Report

| Sep 04, 2017

thnks for da valuable info. . my dughter is 9... n still wets her bed, almost every night.. can u plz tell me tht from whn I can start with walnuts n raisin remedy for her... according to weather... as walnuts shud be consumed in winters.. or shud be soked over night.. to be consumed in da morning during summers... plz guide...

  • Report

| Sep 04, 2017

thnks for da valuable info. . my dughter is 9... n still wets her bed, almost every night.. can u plz tell me tht from whn I can start with walnuts n raisin remedy for her... according to weather... as walnuts shud be consumed in winters.. or shud be soked over night.. to be consumed in da morning during summers... plz guide...

  • Report

| Sep 04, 2017

thnks for da valuable info. . my dughter is 9... n still wets her bed, almost every night.. can u plz tell me tht from whn I can start with walnuts n raisin remedy for her... according to weather... as walnuts shud be consumed in winters.. or shud be soked over night.. to be consumed in da morning during summers... plz guide...

  • Report

| Sep 04, 2017

thnks for da valuable info. . my dughter is 9... n still wets her bed, almost every night.. can u plz tell me tht from whn I can start with walnuts n raisin remedy for her... according to weather... as walnuts shud be consumed in winters.. or shud be soked over night.. to be consumed in da morning during summers... plz guide...

  • Report

| Sep 04, 2017

thnks for da valuable info. . my dughter is 9... n still wets her bed, almost every night.. can u plz tell me tht from whn I can start with walnuts n raisin remedy for her... according to weather... as walnuts shud be consumed in winters.. or shud be soked over night.. to be consumed in da morning during summers... plz guide...

  • Report

| Sep 01, 2017

Thanx for the very useful information

  • Report

| Aug 31, 2017

Beautifully written, well explained and covered each point. Kudos to you!

  • Report

| Aug 27, 2017

hi no nm l no ill let you know by .n I. nmmm nnnbbbbbvvvcccpxxccccvvccx_

  • Report

| Aug 27, 2017

Thanks for useful information

  • Report

| Aug 27, 2017

thanks for ur information I'll follow this.

  • Report

| Aug 23, 2017

Very informative thank you

  • Report

| Aug 18, 2017

Oooo I see. very grateful

  • Report

| Aug 11, 2017

Thanks for the info. But my so is 3+ sometimes at night and many times in school wets his paints. How don't ask his teacher for toillet but just sits with wet paints. Hw to help him pz guide me.

  • Report

| Jul 26, 2017

thanks for Ur information I will follow the same

  • Report

| Jul 26, 2017

thanks for Ur information I will follow the same

  • Report

| Jul 21, 2017

my son is 13 years old and in the gap of a month or two, he does bed wetting.. I was highly worried for him... your article will help me... thanks

  • Report

| Jul 10, 2017

even I my son having same problem we shout him every day in winter season he does everyday thanks for ur information I will take proper care .

  • Report

| Jul 09, 2017

Nice information.... N mee to facing the same problem with my son

  • Report

| Jun 19, 2017

thank u very informative

  • Report

| May 19, 2017

Watch "How to prevent children from Bedwet - Baba Ramdev" on YouTube https://youtu.be/duaYhezKrkw

  • Report

| May 13, 2017

Thanks. Very informative.

  • Report

| Mar 01, 2017

thanku fr nice advice

  • Report

| Mar 01, 2017

nice information, my girl had same problem whose 6 yrs old thank you

  • Report

| Mar 01, 2017

vry informative blog

  • Report

| Jan 21, 2017

it is advisable to go for a homeopath treatment for the same.. or it should just be the standard methods practiced..

  • Report

| Jan 17, 2017

very informative, thank you so much.

  • Report

| Jan 17, 2017

very useful blog.. thnks for da information..

  • Report

| Dec 14, 2016

quiet informative. my daughter is five yrs and usually dry during day. some incident s do happen in a week or so. how do I train her for night? currently I am using diapers. she was suffering from low muscle tone since birth

  • Report

| Nov 28, 2016

very informative

  • Report

| Sep 28, 2016

very useful information, am too facing the same issue.

  • Report

| Sep 28, 2016

very nice article,very useful, thanks

  • Report

| Aug 21, 2016

Hi. . According to my knowledge n survey we should not control or delay passing urine as it ll affect the brain signals. .

  • Report

| Jun 29, 2016

Very nicely explained... Mother of a 5 year old girl.. I face the pain almost daily.. Can someone please give me details of Dr vivek...

  • Report

| Apr 09, 2016

Very useful suggestions,Thanks.

  • Report

| Jan 05, 2016

Hello Bhumija please give the deatils of dr. Vivek...

  • Report

| Dec 31, 2015

Gud suggestions Thanks

  • Report

| Dec 29, 2015

Just suggest ur sibling not to do toilet in the bathroom with eyes closed or half asleep. U can see the difference.

  • Report

| Dec 29, 2015

Very informative ...thanks..

  • Report

| Dec 13, 2015

Hi Bhumija Bobby can u pls give me the details of dr Vivek

  • Report

| Dec 03, 2015

If any parent need any help in regards with betwetting for their kids, please do contact DR. VIVEK REGE... He is a very very gud doctor and specialising in betwetting cases...

  • Report

| Nov 24, 2015

Thank you so much it helped alot to understand what a child goes through.

  • Report

| Nov 22, 2015

Thank u so much.... it helped understand as well as cleared my doubts

  • Report

| Nov 21, 2015

Very helpful

  • Report

| Nov 21, 2015

My 4. 6mths old son wets d bed but only occasionally. Mostly when he's stressed with his School homework or has had some scoldings from elders. Need to take it easy with them. Patience & encouraging them is need of d hour!

  • Report

| Nov 18, 2015

Good article

  • Report

| Nov 17, 2015

My daughter is 3 years old and one month, she is a very fussy eater , all she eats is sugar parantha, bread jam sandwich, puree and all the sweet things . She wont even try anything now . Kindly suggest and advise. Also potty training is a bog task, she will cry the moment we keep the potty train pot. Till now she is in her diapers and dont say anything that she wants to go pee or potty.

  • Report

| Nov 16, 2015

Hi, my son is 8yrs old and he do bedwetting in his sleep. He will be in deep sleep. What to do to control his deep sleep. pls can any one help me in this ....

  • Report

| Oct 03, 2015

My daughter is 11 years old.. I m very worried as she bedwets regularly since she has been a kid.. While she is toilet trained very early she is unable to control while sleeping.. V alarm ourselves while sleeping.. But if we miss to wake up she has bed wetted.. Is der any homeopathy medicine tht cud help us..

  • Report

| Oct 02, 2015

very nice article on nocturnal enuresis... Homoeopathy also works wonderfully in these cases... not only is the problem of bed wetting solved,but the overall personality and confidence of the child is boosted...

  • Report

| Sep 30, 2015

Very useful info

  • Report

| Sep 29, 2015

Excellent Info

  • Report

| Aug 01, 2015

Hello everyone. I would like to know what can be done if the child is very busy in something , and she passes the urine and quite frequently. I have told to tell me if u feel like urenate. but she doesnot tell me. what can we do

  • Report

| Aug 01, 2015

Hello everyone. I would like to know what can be done if the child is very busy in something , and she passes the urine and quite frequently. I have told to tell me if u feel like urenate. but she doesnot tell me. what can we do

  • Report

| Jun 24, 2015

Awesome. I knew about the remedy for bed wetting which is to give the child walnuts & 10 pieces of raisins everyday up to a period of 10 days and it will definitely work. But somehow, I didn't give it a try.

  • Report

| Jun 24, 2015

Great Article... Thanks a lot

  • Report

| Apr 21, 2015

very helpful article indeed, especially the simple steps mentioned to curb the night wetting

  • Report

| Dec 26, 2013

Hi arunima, my daughter is 16 month old n i use a diaper for her at night. She gets up once for bottle feed n usually her diaper is fully wet in the morning. I have tried making her pee in her pot whenever she gets up, but she resists sitting on it n cries a lot. My mum in law thinks its my fault cause i didnt toilet train her from the day of her birth. What shall i do?

  • Report

| Dec 13, 2013

Good.... writen in simple language.... nice.... thanks

  • Report

| Dec 13, 2013

Nice Article.... really helpful!

  • Report

| Dec 12, 2013

Thanks for sharing!!

  • Report

| Dec 12, 2013

excellent article .. Thanks for sharing this.

  • Report

| Sep 27, 2013

Hey Anurima, thanks a lot for this helpful information! It's really very difficult to be calm and change the sheet,clothes for the kid at late nights. I will definitely find out the reson behind my 6 yr son's bed wetting habit. I guess he gets too tired and hence his deep sleep. In this case witch home remedies should I try?

  • Report

| Sep 04, 2013

Thats a great article.

  • Report

| Sep 04, 2013

Its a good article and helpful for all parents including me. I have 2 kids, one is facing this problem, even sometimes I shouted on him. After reading this article, I will handle it carefully and follow the above tips.

  • Report

| Sep 03, 2013

Good one anurima, it's really helpful

  • Report

| Jun 01, 2013

good one Anurima. I will try the prize strategy(giving stars). My kid is very fond of stars.

  • Report

| Feb 15, 2013

Brilliant article Anurima! Thanks for sharing this...

  • Report

| Feb 12, 2013

Its really helpful for all mothers... many many thanks for sharing your ideas Rima...

  • Report

| Feb 12, 2013

thnx for sharing this useful information.

  • Report

| Feb 11, 2013

thanks for sharing this article, it really help me to handle my 5 year old son now... sometimes he wet the bed...... this article is an eye opener for us...

  • Report

| Feb 06, 2013

Yes Neetu, a child may lose his/her self confidence completely if not supported by his/her family members.

  • Report

| Feb 06, 2013

Thank you ladies. Amitha, great to know that you found it helpful. Hope it will help your son is some ways too :)

  • Report

| Feb 06, 2013

Would also like to add that as a child I was close to a child who used to wet her bed. The first whole bit of your write up (in italics) is word-to-word what she went through - which as you said can really mar a child's self confidence and self image. Apart from what you mentioned, sexual abuse can also be one of the triggers for this.

  • Report

| Feb 06, 2013

Hey Anurima, I must admit that I wasn't much of an online reader, apart from the research I bave to to do for my write ups, but having read your last few write ups has really got me hooked.. the easy read is like breezing through an issue which doesn't take a toll on the reader, the tone is warm and unattacking. Keep up the good work!

  • Report

| Feb 06, 2013

Thanks for the info an eye opener to all the parents...

  • Report

| Feb 06, 2013

Hey Anurima.. it's a nice article.. this is very helpful as i have a son , who does wet bed at night...

  • Report

| Feb 05, 2013

I am glad that you found the article helpful Shaista. Hope the article helps create an awareness :)

  • Report

| Feb 05, 2013

thank u very much for this aticle,i think it will really help a many....

  • Report
+ Start A Blog
Top Parenting Blogs
Loading
{{trans('web/app_labels.text_Heading')}}

{{trans('web/app_labels.text_some_custom_error')}}

{{trans('web/app_labels.text_Heading')}}

{{trans('web/app_labels.text_some_custom_error')}}