Adamant Behaviour - 3yrs old daughter
Created by Updated on Jul 02, 2013
Hi All, We have a 3+ years old daughter. She is active and talkative. We enjoy this bit. The challenge for us is her adamant behaviour if she needs something she just demands for it and gets hold of it somehow (cry out loud, throw things away which is in her reach, go to her grandparents, etc. ). She would also hit her mother and just not listen to anyone. I have tried to talk to her and make her understand and that doesnt really helps. Has anyone come across such a behaviour and any expert advise on how can we handle this? Thanks in advance,Pritesh
| Jul 02, 2013
Hi Pritesh! It is quite common for a 3 year to behave so. Just do not panic. U can tone her down. She mite be the first child. As a child we have fulfilled all their demands as they were the only ones n are very dear to us. So they have got used to such behavior. n now when we deny fulfilling their demands they are just not able to listen to 'NO'. Secondly please take care that we unknowingly do not model any behavior which we would not like our child to copy. For example throwing things, hitting, shouting, cribbing etc. thirdly when u r sure u do not wanna fulfill her certain demand be firm, do not give up, let the child cry on one or two occasions. The child would understand my parent is not going to give up so she would not waste time and energy crying. Children are very smart enough to take clues from adults that they easily give up when tears are shed be it grandparents or parents. N mostly grandparents give in easily as grandchildren are very dear to them and they can't see them crying. So pass on the message that No means NO. Fourthly u can narrate self created stories related to this behavior where all this behavior is considered not acceptable. So hopefully one day child mite understand. With time and age I am sure she would tone down a bit. just appreciate her positive traits and motivate her when positive behavior is displayed.
| Jul 03, 2013
my bad... once again. It seems i should not hit the 'enter' button at all in this one. You are right she is the first child and i have understood all your points. Its good to know this is not unusual and we will be wary for the points mentioned. And ofcourse continue to appreciate her positive traits. Thanks Shikha and Neha!