Adopting second child
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Updated on May 12, 2015
Hello all, Me and my husband took decision 3 yrs back that we will not have second kid. Our daughter was 4 yrs then. The decision was based on financial issues. But now after 4 yrs we feel need of one more kid with whom our daughter can share her things. My husband asked me can we adopt a kid instead of having our own kid. I was always ready for adoption. Even before i got married. But after ten years of marriage and with 7 yrs old daughter I am bit confused. Right now all our priorities are settled. I am confused whether i should take new responsibility? Will i be able to handle this responsibility? is it appropriate to have 8-9 years age difference between two kids? My daughter is ready for adopted sibling but i don't know how will she react once the baby comes to our home.
| May 12, 2015
sharvari - Though not exactly in line with what you have mentioned, here's a blog by a proparent, which is perhaps the best reading for anyone looking to adopt. Your concern is well founded and would need a few conversations between you, your husband and your daughter, perhaps in a manner, which is age appropriate for your daughter.
| May 13, 2015
Hi sharvari You may refer to this blog- https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/how-does-one-go-for-adoption/307
| May 13, 2015
Hi Sharvari! The decision u plan to take is very complicated yet I completely agree with Nitin! It requires lot of introspection as well as discussion by u and yr hubby and also u need to consider the fact that will it be easy for a 7 year old to accept another baby. Will she be able to share her parents with someone else. 7 years is an age where child tries to understand and comprehend things for herself if satisfactory answers are not sought. Once the excitement phase be over , will she still be happy with yr decision. These are some of the points u need to ponder upon. All the very best.
| May 13, 2015
My sister in law adopted a baby when her elder son was 2 years. it was easy for him to accept the younger sis as he was small. With 7 year old daughter you may need some more discussion with your husband. But personally i feel its a great and noble way of giving home to a child . Rest depends on your situation and support system.
