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Updated on Oct 07, 2014
Hi All. My son is 3years old and is good at his age. My concern is he doesnot sit and write anything. i see the other children of his age write capital letters. I dont want to compare my child, but please help me in how to make him sit and learn for some time. is that a good idea to send kid to preschool?

| Oct 08, 2014
Hi Yamini, If he has not started on play school already, it might be a good idea to start him on one. There are a few benefits of a play school 1) children learn to be independant and fend for themselves. ask help, collaborate with peers, interact etc. They will not get this stimulus at home 2) They learn to follow instructions, sit and do activities. This is where your son's problem will be handled. When he will see other children sitting and doing a craft activity etc. , he will automatically follow 3) they are better prepared for a formal school later on. You could also start him on a mother-toddler program where again he will be asked to sit, participate, and follow instructions. Once he gets it into his system to sit and do something, you can reinforce it at home. Hope this helps.

| Oct 08, 2014
Hi Yamini, Do not worry about his writing etc. Like you said, do not compare your child to anyone else. On your part what you could do is involve him in some fun craft activities such as clay modelling, finger painting etc. This will make him sit and do stuff. You could also steer him towards a constructive activity such as gardening. Put some seeds in a pot and give him the ownership of that pot. Let him see the seeds blossom into plants. This too will introduce him to sitting and doing something with concentration.

| Oct 08, 2014
Hi Yamini, It is natural for children of this age to be restless and explore their surroundings. Let him do so, but also it is equally impprtant that they learn the art of sitting, concentrating and doing something in a focussed manner. This attitude will help him later. For this you can start with some fun craft activities, such as making something out of paper strips, some colouring, help out in the kitchen (give him some cold, boiled potatoes to peel) sit and listen to a story, browse through pictures in magazines with you etc. I know, as a busy mom, it is difficult to do this, so just spend 10-15 mins, twice a day with him on this. Also, like i said, have him around you doing something in the kitchen while you cook, or looking through a magazine while you do your chores. Keep talking to him, asking him questions. But also be prepared for some mess so have patience.

| Oct 08, 2014
Thanks all for your suggestions. please let me know how watering plant helps in sitting and doing things. My son is ok in all the help i require in kitchen, groceries. He helps me in mint, greens chopping. He shall even arrange the utensils once they are dried. But only when it comes to write something, he doesnot want that. I tried with slate, boards white and black , paper. No way he is interested in writing. I dont expect him to write everything by this age, but want him to learn how to sit and write. Playschool i need to try.

| Oct 09, 2014
Hi Yamini, it is about teaching the child to focus and concentrate on an activity. When watering plants, he will be required to ensure all plants are watered, not too much, not too little, there is minimum spillage and he will have to listen to you tell him ho to do it. This will bring a change in his behaviour wherein he will need to focus and do a job properly. Eventually, it is this part of his behaviour that will come handy in teaching him to sit, write, read, do other activities. As parents, we need to build correct behaviours, rather than just focus on one activity. Hope this clarifies your doubt.
