Child Psychology and Behaviour

Behaviour

Shikha Mishra
3 to 7 years

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Updated on Dec 22, 2015

After my second baby came my elder ones behaviour is totally changed also her academic graph is drastically changed . She was class topper in sem 1 but now she has no interest in study. What to do. How to handle.

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Bharathi chengappa

| Dec 28, 2015

Hi Shikha Batra.. Thank you very much for your valuable suggestions. . Iam trying to spend time with both of them and controlling myself.

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 22, 2015

Hi Bharathi! I understand what you r talking about! Since Niharika's mind is full of questions and doubts regarding many adjustments which are going on around her,it would be required to comfort her and let her know that there will be no change in you for her no matter what . Talk to her at length. Hug her often, praise her when she is nice. Avoid scolding her because of Lil one or vice versa. Make sure u love both equally. Children despite of knowing the facts want overt expression of love from parents. Talk to her regarding how her day was,take her help in taking care of Lil one,make her hold Lil one in yr presence. hope this helps!

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Bharathi chengappa

| Dec 22, 2015

After my second daughter born I have seen many changes in my elder daughterof 6 years in age. By nature she is very soft, kind hearted and very emotional. .she is a rank student but now not at all interested to go to school. Ig some body pampers the little one she feels that they like only lil one.. in school also she want me with her though I am managing to handle both the things are going worse. . Iam getting frustrated.. How to make my baby understand

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Shikha Batra

| Dec 22, 2015

Hi Shikha! How r u? Birth of a sibling is a major event for the entire family and all family members need to adjust. Expecting a six year old to accept another child in her life as a sibling and also share possibly all her belongings including her parents in a short span of time would be asking for too much. Shikha I believe we keep telling our elder one that now that u have a younger sibling, you should behave like a grown up but I fail to understand how this short journey of approx 10 months from not having a sibling to having a sibling should change the child. As neither she has been part of the very decision of having a sibling,or she has anything to do with process of giving birth nor she has something to do with raising the sibling. Then y expect a change in her. It is advisable to please bring a change in your lifestyle and make time for both of them. Try and give as much attention to her as u used to before Lil one's birth. Take support of family members in raising yr Lil one as she is small and can be taken care of well after u have fed and done other basic chores with her . The Elder sibling needs u equally if not more. Shower your love on her, support her in accepting this change. Divide your routine in such a manner that u can talk to her about what happened during the day and teach her, take them out to park, Spend quality time with her and assure her nothing has changed and will not change with the addition of a new member. I am sure once that feeling sinks in her she would come around and would love the bonding that siblings share. Hope this helps!

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Shikha Mishra

| Dec 22, 2015

Thanks Gouri for your suggestions. I m trying do those things .but still she is not able to understand anything. still trying .also some times she irretates me so much.. What to do. ???? Plz suggest ..Thanks in advance.

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gouri

| Dec 22, 2015

Spend exclusive time with elder one when ur baby sleeps.. c this is a transition period for the elder child from being the only one to sharing his 'mother' ..everything. .. U have to go extra soft and understand your elder child. ..try to play the way before baby u guys use to Slowly things will b normal.. include the child in all the daily stuff and routine so dat this process of change is smooth and ur bond strengthens. All this will enable your child to b more normal and things will fall in place

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