Created by Updated on Sep 17, 2013
Hello, My daughter is 3. 9 years old. Everyday we fight because of what she has to wear. She just likes frocks and that too very specifics. It was Ok till summers. However, now because of mosquitos I ask her to wear full sleeve T-Shirt and payjamas (infact I ask her to select the same). But she will just start crying and says you wear good clothes and don't give me good clothes to wear :(((. Don't know how to handle the situation. Have explained her many times that we were these clothes because we have to prevent mosquito bites but of no use :(
| Sep 17, 2013
Hi RItu! This reminds of my niece who at the age of 6 years wanted to wear one particular frock everyday. So my bhabhi decided to buy another similar frock from the same shop. This behavior is absolutely normal and common in girls as they love to dress up. It is advised please talk it out to ur child and before u reach the no conclusion argument stage divert the issue and give it a lighter tone. U cud show her the pictures of barbie , fairies , Cinderella who are dressed up in full sleeves clothes. U cud share with her what children wth dengue have to go thru. How they can not go to school, play outside, can't eat their favorite dishes, feel weak and have to eat bitter medicines. Giving it a lighter tone would bring both of u on a discussion stage rather than ending up with arguments. U cud reward her by making her favorite dish, praising, hugging,appreciation etc on listening to u. U cud also allow her to dress up by her own choice on few occasions like party, school functions etc. hope this helps!
| Sep 17, 2013
Hey Ritu, my daughter is 4. 5 years old and she is more particular about her clothes and accessories than I am! We too get into arguments every time we have to go out, that includes going to school. What I do now is I ask her what she would like to wear and give her two choices. She usually picks one of the two and also selects her hair clips and rubber bands (phew). You could also take her shopping whenever you plan to buy clothes and shoes for her. She could pick out clothes/shoes/accessories of her choice but with your approval. I heard too that this behavior is completely normal among little girls and I wonder if it will get better or worse with age!! Hope you and your girl find some common ground in this issue :)
| Sep 20, 2013
Same is the case I am facing with my 3. 5 yr old daughter.... its not only clothes... nowadays I had to fight with her for lipsticks and nailpolishes too :( everymorning she will wake up and tell me either about her nailpolish or lipsticks :( not sure how can I handle her