child's psychology

Hi Latika, Please understand that your child is at a crossroads of his life where he is neither a small boy nor an adult yet. He is going through lots of changes -- physically, mentally and at a hormonal level as well. He needs your complete understanding at this moment. So for sometime try to be his friend and not his parent.

hi Latika kakkar! how r u doing! I understand it's difficult to accept rude behavior of your child and your concerns regarding his lack of interest in studies. have u tried talking to him? I believe it will be better if he has a man to man talk with his father. let him share his concerns with his father. also let his father communicate to him, how much his rude behavior has been affecting u and hurt u. Since he has a younger sibling who tends to follow him, she might be impacted too. also if he could be made to meet successful siblings/cousins in the family who have been working hard, who could guide him how to go about his future plans. it's also advise not to criticize or compare your child with anyone as each child is unique. rather if he could be handled with love and care ,rather than rebuking or criticizing him which will make him rebellious and further go against your wishes . help him plan a routine and follow it. work on the bond that u share with him. praise him in front of others when he is good. I am sure with your love and care he will come around soon.

thanku so much for your valuable advise.