Claustrophobic or what can't understand need some advice.
Created by Updated on Jul 17, 2015
My 2. 5 yes old daughter is afraid to go to any unknown place. We have admitted her for a tuition @ private tutor but she refused to go there & crying like hell. She has a problem of mixing with people. Where as other kids are attending tuition she refused to go there but they all are basically playing & rhyming. I afraid it may head us to a problem while admission in school. Can't understand what can be the way to overcome this situation.
| Jul 17, 2015
Hi Biswa! This must be the first time she must have left you and gone to a new surrounding. This behavior could be due to separation anxiety as well as stranger anxiety. Moreover it is advisable to send her to play school rather than a private tutor for various reasons. 1. This would give her exposure to a school setting. 2. Prepare her for formal schooling. 3. She would see her agemates and feel comfortable in their company. 4. There would be many activities conducted in the play school apart from rhymes such as yoga, free play, playing on swings or sandpit, crafts activity, music and dance time,storytelling. The child can play with toys, blocks, puzzles etc. 5. More over teachers are trained to take care of kids of this age. It is advisable not to force the child to go for private tutions as it could create negative association with studies if done forcefully.
| Jul 17, 2015
It is advisable to do a search in yr area and look for good playschools in the neighborhood. U can take feedback of parents whose kids are already studying in that school. Also u could visit various schools to see what they have to offer. How child friendly these are?What's the Teacher child ratio? What's the curriculum plan ? Hope this helps!
| Jul 17, 2015
I have admitted her in one of the best playskool. She is going there from past few months.. There also she still not get comfy. She is not comfy except her family members. We have tried her with other kids & amusement but situation hasn't improve. Where as in home she is absolutely fine. Which is the biggest concern of us right now..
| Jul 17, 2015
That's really great! It is advisable 1. U could stop giving attention to her tantrums . As schooling is one process each child has to go thru. You could ignore this cranky behavior and praise her staying calm, sooner or later the msg would go across that she has to adjust. Appreciate her for participating in activities. U could seek teachers support in involving her in class. They could give her important tasks like distributing sheets or crayons. Praising her for helping the teacher. So appreciation and attention for positive involvement from her end would give her the right feedback . Invite her friends at home on her birthday. Organize play dates. Motivate her to make friends. Take her to the park and help her in making friends.
| Jul 19, 2015
Hi Biswa, i shud say ur not alone. My son is 2. 5 yrs old too. He speaks so well at home but when it comes to mingling with outsiders he is at his worst. We have put him to school and he cries and doesnt want school and if he sits at school for three hrs, the only thing his teachers say is that he sits and doesnt mingle at all. I think since we let our kid out of home first time now it will tk time for them to realize that ppl other than his known ones wont harm them and eventually will get accustomed. I too am praying for the day he loses his stranger anxiety soon
| Aug 06, 2015
Hi Shikha. I can totally emphatise with you. My 2. 7 years old boy had the same problem. After counselling and reading lots of blogs we decided to make him talk to everyone from shopkeeper to guard to uncles and aunties (totally unknown, neighbors in our society). Infact I made him say hello to total strangers in park and shake hands with their babies. He has partially come out of this shyness and now is at ease. May be you can try this. Hope it helps
| May 21, 2019
hi .. my son is 2. 2 years old and is behaving in similar way .. it's been more than 2 months that I have been trying to make play outside with other children or in a park... he just doesn't participate and cries a lot... otherwise at home he is absolutely fine... is this just a phase??? or should I go for some therapy???