Created by Updated on May 08, 2015
Hi all, I am very poor in English plz adjust, my son age is 13 very short temper unable to talk to him unable to handle ,maximum I will try to talk to him very softly but very intelligent he is , always argue with me and with his father and sister too . every day because of him I will cry more than 5 times. If any body said me anything he will fight on them. At that time I feel proud .but always arguing fighting its not good na. What to do totally confuse.
| May 08, 2015
Priya, don't worry. he is at an age where he is learning to be independent and wants to show his opinion to everyone. 1) Handle him with lots of patience and love. Do not scold or get into arguments. 2) Also, at this stage be a friend to him. Talk to him often, and without looking like interfering ask about his day and life. sometimes, children at this stage are unable to express their feelings. Take him out for a burger or an ice cream as a friend and share your own stories with him. try and understand him--what worries him, what he likes, what he does not like. 3) About his temper, enrol him in some active sport of his choice such as football or tennis, where he will burn off some energy and channelize it positively. Or maybe ask him, if he wants to learn a musical instrument--something that will help him express himself. 4) Teach him positive ways to express anger such as going out and running, thinking about why he is angry, or just sitting by himself. 5) do not encourage any negative behaviours such as him picking up a fight coz of you. this sends mixed signals to the child and confuses him. If anger is wrong, it is wrong whether shown for mumma 6) most importantly, watch what he watches on TV. If he is the types who watches too much of chota bheem or other cartoons which encurage fighting, stop them right awya. hope these help.
| May 08, 2015
Hi Priya You may also refer to this blog- https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/handling-aggression-in-children/198