Created by Updated on Dec 13, 2015
My daughter is five years old. Recently she developed a behaviour of crying for very small things. For example her bindi fallen after she wakes up from bed. Tiny piece of paper which she was playing with was lost. Like this the list goes on. How to handle this. Please advice
| Dec 14, 2015
Hi Ponnisundar! Would like to clarify few things before we proceed. 1. Has this been a recent change in her behavior or usually since childhood she gets upset easily. 2. Does she get cranky mostly after waking up after in the afternoon/morning? 3. How does she get calm after an episode? 4. Has there been a major change in family say addition of a new member or someone leaving or change of residence or some stress in family say difference of opinion,so frequent fights between family members? If it has been a recent change in her behavior please try and look for the cause. And in case she usually remains upset, cries out loud and throws tantrums then it is advisable to avoid giving attention to her so that she knows unless she is quiet, u would not listen to her. Ask her to come to u when she is calm and in a state to discuss what is bothering her. Appreciate her when she is calm and listens to u. Teach her better ways of expressing frustration or anger. May be she can share with u or divert her mind to something else. Hope this helps!
| Dec 14, 2015
Thanks Shikha. Here are my response 1. Has this been a recent change in her behavior or usually since childhood she gets upset easily - Only in recent days. Childhood she was very happy all the times. 2. Does she get cranky mostly after waking up after in the afternoon/morning? There is no definite time. She even cries in the mid of the sleep. Checking fir her bindi in the mid night. If it is not there cry fir that 3. How does she get calm after an episode? Either we will not listen to her or explain her calmly or cook the situation convincing for heher.
| Dec 16, 2015
Thank you Ponnisundar for your reply. If this has been a recent change please try and find out what is it at home or school or playground/hobby class that is bothering her. just check there is no type of pressure on her either from school or at home. Motivate her to talk about it . While you are discussing, try to be calm and polite and least judgemental. Sometimes children themselves don't realize what is bothering them and this Confusion results in behavior such as anger, crying out or throwing tantrums or even retreating to their shell. You could help her verbalize through story books which talk about emotions like the character feeling bad or unhappy or happy or excited about something. This will give words to her inner feelngs and help her describe these. You are using appropriate methods by diverting her mind when she cries out. Try and calm her down by hugging her or giving her a glass of water. Children also behavior so when they go through a phase of transition say change of school,residence, teacher,or it could be a part of normal growing up also. Give her time to settle and just comfort her with your love. Hope she springs back to her normal self soon.