Created by Updated on Apr 19, 2013
Hello, I am new to this blog but I am really liking this as it is really helful for the parents like me who have little knowledge about parenting. I have a son who is 3. 5 years old now. Until now he was living with my mother, now he is back to live with me. I am working women because of some circumstances I had to send him to my mother's place. Now for me the difficult question is should I send him to the day care while I am in office. I dont find any option other than day care. I am wondering that he had just come back from nani's place and now sending him to the day care would create some kind of behaviourial problems. I am not sure though. He is shy kid and doesnt speak full sentences which is a little late for him. To add on this, he doesnt eat anything whatever I make he just runs away. Please suggest how should I manage this situation.
| Apr 19, 2013
As he didnt stay with you since his childhood.. i believe he misses his naani and her house.. u need to spend some quality time with him. for him everything is new... new parents, house, school, day care. You hv to make him confortable and try to spend max time with him. You have make him your best friend... as i am still trying to do with my son... i hv to play with him... make little bit noise... strange sounds.. dance, watch all nonsense cartoons and all.. Kids need attention, love. All the best. Happy Parenting :)
| Apr 19, 2013
Hi Suman , I have aday care place at andheri east & the kids over there are so well mannered , different age groups & they are been taken care. The place is neat & clean & the lady over there is really nice , she plays wid all of dem . The best part is they are very well mannered . Its at Andheri east Shere punjab. I have been seeing the kids go there when they were 1 year now they are like 12 -16 years. I also take lot of pain travelling my daughter so far , I am also a working lady . If you need any help do lemme know.
| Apr 19, 2013
Dear Suman, please do not worry. Your child will bond with you in time. Is he going to a playschool? Sending him out,I believe, will only help him as he will spend quality time with children his age and do new things everyday. Perhaps mingling with other kids and having a routine will help with the shyness and eating as well. It would be great though if initially you could ask for some adjustment at your workplace so you can leave early and reach home by the time your child would finish playschool. Usually children start going to play school by 2. 5 years so even if your child had been with you, in the natural course of time, you probably would have put him in a play school by now. So find a good play school nearby which also offers a day care facility. As our friends have suggested, you will have to make the extra effort in bonding with him. You could show him pictures from the time when he was born. You could tell him stories about little babies and mothers. Begin a new, happy life with him. Solve one problem at a time. Stay confident that you will make a great mum, and you will do just fine. take care.
| Apr 19, 2013
Dear Suman , we all have take calls in life that we may not ant to but in the end if you put in some work most relationships work out. The connect that you have with your son may be a little weak right now because of the time spent apart but you are his mum, the bond will always be the strongest , it just has to be nurtured... spending time with him is the key to strengthen the bond and also children have a way of adapting and bouncing back in no time . Patience and lots of love is the key... the good bit about day care ( good ones) is that there are a lot of other children to connect and bond and looking at other children eat would encourage and motivate him to eat as well. Dont worry and enjoy time with your child and with time it may all work out... Welcome to Parentune :-)
| Apr 22, 2013
Thanks Bhavna, Neetu, A. M and Poonam for your replies... I was not expecting so many replies... I am planning to keep him with me and spend most of the time with him... but the only problem is that I have joined new company and I can not take long leaves but I am trying my best to make him comfortable with me..