Dependant teenager

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Updated on May 07, 2014
Hi parents, My sister's daughter is 16 year old and she is a very dependant child. She will seek her mother's help, approval on every small thing, for example, even if she is going to her daily coaching she will ask her mother to give her clothes. Please suggest how to change her habit?

| May 07, 2014
Hi Nishtha! Here is a link that you may find relevant: https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/let-the-child-decide/391

| May 07, 2014
Hi dear Nishtha! Adolscence is the stage of formation of self concept and perception about self is formed based on what others think about them. Please make sure nobody either at home or in school or in neighbourhood is bullying the child, making personal attacks on appearances, performance in school, group behaviour etc. Bullying will make the child loose self-confidence. You need to boost child's self confidence which can be done in following ways: 1. Praising the child. 2. Not comparing the child with classmates, friends or siblings. 3. Not to make personal attacks on physical appearance, performance etc. 4. Assigning responsibilities and praising them on successful completion of the task assigned. 5. Praising the child on issues on which child feels less confident such as dressing up in this case. 6. Allowing the child to buy clothes of their choice without passing judgements. 7. Letting the child have a say in matters pertaining to self. Try and connect with your child and be their friend to understand them better and support them no what .Give them unconditional love. Here is a blog you might find useful. Blogs- https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/life-as-a-teenagers-mom-a-moms-story/5630

| May 07, 2014
2. Not to compare with others. 3. Not to make personal attacks on physical appearance, performance etc. 4. Assigning responsibilities n praising on successful completion. 5. Praising the child on issues on which child feels less confident such as dressing up in this case. 6. Allowing the child to buy clothes for self without giving judgements. 7. Letting the child have a say in matters pertaining to self. 8. Rather than scolding the child or hitting it is advisable to peacefully discuss issues. U need to be ur child's friend to understand what is going on in his/her life.