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Dependent child

Surabhi Chatterjee
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Updated on Jul 01, 2014

Hi Parents, My 8 years old daughter is dependent on me for every work please suggests how can I make her independent so that she can inculcate the habit of taking her own decision by taking my guidance. Thanks in advance.

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Swati

| Jul 03, 2014

Surabhi, with parents working these days you cant afford to have children too much dependent on you. You could start with small small activities. from taking care of his school uniform being clean and ironed, you could ask him. her accompany you for the grocery shopping. Give her examples of situation where in you are not around and how she would manage- as a game. reward her for good ideas.

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Vaishali

| Jul 03, 2014

Hi Surabhi, your problem seems very relatable to me and I'm sure to many other parents. The first thing you can do is not giving in to her demands. Children love to be pampered and while you may feel obligated to help her with her chores, it is not always necessary. Make her feel that she is a smart girl who is capable of taking her own decisions, and do not pinpoint her mistakes initially. This will boost her confidence and she will start doing it more often. Cheers.

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Ankita A Talwar

| Jul 03, 2014

Hi Surabhi, Let me take her own decisions when it comes to small things such as choosing what to wear, telling you how she wants her milk, or what fruit she wants to eat. DO not override her decisions but let her carry them on and then bear the outcomes herself. When children learn to correlate the outcome with the decision, they will make better choices in future. Hope this helps.

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Ravina

| Jul 03, 2014

Encourage her to do little things to start with, like let her manage her room,almirah,pack her bag. Praise her and say how proud you are of her each time she does something by herself.

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Parentune Support

| Jul 01, 2014

Hi Surabhi, Thank you for sharing your concern with us. We understand your concern and the same problem has been brought up by other parents. While we hope fellow parents will respond to you soon, in the meantime the following blog may be helpful - https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/let-the-child-decide/391

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