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Exam Stress

Bhavika
7 to 11 years

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Updated on Feb 06, 2015

Hi,   From past 1 week my daughter is crying coz of Exams Stress. We tried to make her understand a lots but still isnt coming out of it. Pls can anybody help me on this??

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Nutan Kasliwal

| Feb 20, 2015

How old is ur daughter Bhavika and in which standard she is studying.

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Kavita Yadav

| Feb 09, 2015

Hi Bhavika, agree to what fellow parents have shared with you. All are very valid points. Just adding to it.... talk to her class teacher and try to find out why is she behaving like this. And before that at your own end introspect is her behaviour of being nervous, anxious and stressed for the first time or does it happen before every exam. Tell her whatever happens not only today or tomorrow but throughout her life you will love her and trust her more than anything else irrespective of her performance in academics. Be her support and show your support. Hope it helps. Love :)

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Kavita Yadav

| Feb 09, 2015

Hi Bhavika, agree to what fellow parents have shared with you. All are very valid points. Just adding to it.... talk to her class teacher and try to find out why is she behaving like this. And before that at your own end introspect is her behaviour of being nervous, anxious and stressed for the first time or does it happen before every exam. Tell her whatever happens not only today or tomorrow but throughout her life you will love her and trust her more than anything else irrespective of her performance in academics. Be her support and show your support. Hope it helps. Love :)

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Parul Ankita Gupta

| Feb 07, 2015

Bhavika, possibly instead of tying to tell her to relax in words, it might work better if you give her some downtime for eg: take her to play outdoors, or take her out for a pizza or some fun activity she will enjoy. Additionally on your part also, do not ask her or talk too much about exams before her. Keep conversations light and fun. have a grandparent or an aunt or a relative visit your home, and let her have fun with them. These will help ease the pressure on her. as far as studies are concerned, make a schedule of 2 hours where you sit down with her and let her study without any disturbances. post that let her have fun.

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Mansi Srivastava

| Feb 07, 2015

Hi Bhavika, children sometimes get stressed more because they see parents and others around them stressed. So for starters, relax on your part. Follow, and also for future genuinely imbibe, the fact that exams are a part of life and we should focus on working rather than the results. For now, let her follow a normal schedule; do not force or ask her to study more or as some parents make the mistake, of continously following up with the child whether she has covered this chapter or not etc. Plan a schedule where you sit with her for 2 hours max to help her study. the rest of the day, do not mention the words studies or chapters or exams to her. also, ensure she has enough play time to help her wind down and de-stress herself--take her to the park, let her sleep. Believe in your child and let her believe in you that even if something goes not very well, you will still love her. it is a delicate moment. Stand by her.

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Shikha Batra

| Feb 06, 2015

Hi Bhavika! Sometimes children are unable to bear with Exam stress and show signs of anxiety. it is advisable to take following steps: 1. Tell the child u r with her no matter what. u cud make frequent visits to child's room to motivate the child. 2. Help the child in making a schedule in which there is room for break and refreshing and following it too. also u could discuss how she could cover two subjects in a day to avoid boredom during prepatory leaves. 3. If exams have already begun tell her not to focus on new topics but revise previous ones Or important ones. 4. u could also take the child out to a park or for a walk during break tIme. 5. if child is feeling demotivated talk about how well she has performed in the past and remind her of her achievements. 6. Be around and approachable as this is the time child needs u the most. Have light conversation with child On topics of her choice 7. show ur faith in child and communicate that she can do it. the positivity will get transfered automatically .And at no point let u r doubts pass on to the child. 8. Let the house environment be positive and please refrain from discussing heavy topics or stressfull issues in front of the child during exam time. 9. If the child wants, u could help her in revision by Preparing test papers. The more no. of timed tests the better will be performance. 10. please do not criticize or blame the child or use negative tone on any matter. Communicate the msg in a calm and positive tone. Hope all these steps would destress the child.

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Megha

| Feb 06, 2015

Hi Bhavika. you haven't mentioned how old your daughter is but I would suggest why not take some time to unwind her maybe make her feel relaxed by taking her out for sometime say for ice cream or by doing one of her favourite thing and then making her understand that exam is not like a monster who eats her up rather it's such a simple thing. you could maybe take your own example and tell her how you were scared and all and how you overcame it. Kids like seeing their parents as heroes I guess that's how they get inspired as well and then calmly tell her that crying won't help let's solve this together and all... above all tell her that her parents will always love and support her. Hope this helps!

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Parentune Support

| Feb 06, 2015

Hi Bhavika. Please read these blogs and hope these are of some help to you. https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/5-ways-to-reduce-exam-stress/396 and https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/managing-the-exam-stress/247

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