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Exposure of children

Nikita
3 to 7 years

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Updated on Dec 26, 2014

I wanted to get advice on how should you explain to children about alcohol, when you have a party at home and they see elders drinking. When children ask, what should you say.

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Subbu

| Jan 06, 2015

I too had this confusion and spoke to many fellow parents, especially the ones drink regularly at home. Then realized, it's not one size fits all type solution. It differs with each of them. Some call it a medicine, which obviously a child won't want to try and some gave it a try to their kid as mentioned by a fellow parent here. Such a fellow parent and an ex-army said, kids don't generally develop any curiosity unless you create a scene about it. Even if they want to check what it is, tell them it's an adult drink and he too can try once he is grown. His kids (10 Yrs & 5 Yrs) are used to see them party and never bothered to ask about it. We do have such social gatherings, and luckily till now, my son (5 Yrs) isn't curious about it. He goes plays with the other kids. BTW, I won't agree with calling it a bad drink and doing it on the other hand. It certainly confuses the child and go wrong. Moreover, if we call it bad, why to do? :) Better way is to give them a juice alongside and engage them differently.

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Subbu

| Jan 06, 2015

I too had this confusion and spoke to many fellow parents, especially the ones drink regularly at home. Then realized, it's not one size fits all type solution. It differs with each of them. Some call it a medicine, which obviously a child won't want to try and some gave it a try to their kid as mentioned by a fellow parent here.

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Yamini

| Jan 05, 2015

I have seen in our apartment , that kids drink beer and alcohol. They go to lcbo(wine shop) and purchase whatever they want under parents guidance. That is the culture here. In this same system, i like the way children earn for themselves to study and to live. But indian culture is different. India, there is no question of children earning for themselves. No offence shradha, what if your child liked that taste? And if you say no, now the child seeks some other way to get that. I agree in exposing the child. i always believe in the statement prevention is better than cure whether it is internet, choclates, or any habit. The only point as a mother of the family, one can think is how to get rid of that disease positively.

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sheena

| Jan 05, 2015

I go wid shradha.. its bttr to expose d child wid what it is rather than avoiding it... one day dey may c sum1 else having it n den question d same thing.. so its bttr make dem aware of what it is...

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Shradha Das

| Dec 28, 2014

well , i didnt restrict my child, She was curious and wanted to have a taste as she saw daddy have it, I let her have a taste and as obvious, she hated it and repelled at the smell, and has never asked for it again.

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Yamini

| Dec 27, 2014

I go with rajat. Because that is one of the main parameter to differentiate official and families. Atleast tell kids they are drinking some medicine, and try to be away with that room. No offence to anyone, kindly do not drink in front of your kids.

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Kritika

| Dec 26, 2014

Even my children had started asking for it so I have stopped all alcohol in their presence. i only allow guests cocktails and give children orange juice or nimbu paani whatever we are mixing.

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Heena

| Dec 26, 2014

Hi Nikita, I second Rajat in this though it is very very difficult to follow and sustain. Therefore, we do parties separately.. children's parties where there is no drinking, smoking, or loose talk, and adult parties where children are not brought.

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Rajat

| Dec 26, 2014

Hi Nikita, this is a serious concern. I follow the policy of no drinking around children. I am the role model for my children and on one hand i tell them drinking is bad, and on the other hand, they will see their role model doing it. this will create confusion in their mind. So, this is a compromise iv made.

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Meenu

| Dec 26, 2014

Hi Nikita, even i worry about the same sometimes. With house parties etc. , they see us adults indulging and then they wonder why we are being restricted. I generally tell my children that they can have it once they are older. so far this seems to works.

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