Grandparents interfere

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Updated on Dec 18, 2014
Friends please help me. I live in a joint family and my in-laws, jokingly or otherwise, are always telling my 5 year old son, against me. For eg: if we are going somewhere, my mother-in-law, jokingly will say "mummy ko hum chod jaate hain" (we will leave mummy) or we will not give this to mummy, or mummy scolds you a lot, mummy hits you. My son is showing signs of disobedience. doesn't listen to me runs to dadi. my husband has tried telling them not to do this, but it doesn't stop. what should i do.

| Dec 18, 2014
Hi Divya, I think you need to stop your so from interacting with them too much if they don't listen to you. Keep him busy in classes and play etc. Also, spend time with your son to strengthen the bond. Lastly, when they say such a thing, react at the moment and tell them hat saying such things to a child is not good.



| Dec 18, 2014
hello Divya, don't worry too much... remember nothing comes in between mother and child bond. But if the issue is of him showing disrespect to you, then you should tell your in-laws that they are creating trouble in the house and disturbing the peace and they should refrain from it.

| Dec 18, 2014
Hi Divya ! I can understand u r situation. But trust me when I say that u r in laws do not understand the implications of this behavior and r doing it in sheer love for their grandchild . They have no intentions to come in between mother and child or to put u down. If u discuss with them in a separate room and not in front of the child by giving an example how their this approach is affecting things, I am sure this conversation between u and ur in laws will bring out some fruitful conclusion and they would appreciate it too. Please also make sure the tone should be non complaining and seeking help rather than passing judgment while discussion . I am sure they will understand the plight of a mother .

| Dec 18, 2014
Divya,I would suggest you should take ur in laws to a family counsellor or a psychologist who will make them understand the ill effects of their talk. In case your in laws show resistance in approaching a counselor,you & ur husband can visit him who in turn can train you to deal with such situations. best of luck.

| Dec 18, 2014
Divya I understand your plight but they may not do it intentionally. Try to spend as much time as you can with your child. Have that play time set aside for both of you. I have observed it helps. And if your in laws still keep continuing with this sort of behaviour try talking it out with them. This may hell to solve that difference.




| Dec 20, 2014
Hi Divya I totally agree with Shikha and Divya. Your in-laws behavior is nothing new. Its us the case with many a families. I would say this is general Indian behavior. But instead of confronting with them it wouldb better that you have a talk with them. I'm sure they are not doing it intentionally. Once they will understand your feelings they will surely change their behavior, I m sure of this. Don't take any decision in haste. All d best.