Parenting

Handling a outspoken child

Harsh
3 to 7 years

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Updated on May 16, 2015

Hi all, My 4 year old is way too outspoken or rather honest I should say. He would utter anything and everything to whomsoever he meets( neighbors or children while playing) which at times becomes way too awkward to handle for me. I know it's a child thing but how can I make him understand the subtleties of it? Any suggestions?

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Harsh

| May 18, 2015

Carol thx a ton for your valuable insights. Infact these are exactly the issues i encounter more often than not. At least i have some idea how to tackle it now

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Carol

| May 18, 2015

Hi Harsh, teaching the child clearly the scenarios or the situations where not to comment anything would help avoid the embarrassing moments. Mostly kids put us in an embarrassing situation when they comment on a person's physical appearance. So teach him that any comment on a person's physical appearance is a big No-no and we should accept everyone as they are. When a child sees a differently abled person, he would have a lot of questions. if he has questions, he can only talk to his parents in private and not in front of everyone. Discourage Any comment that he gives on skin colour or how fat or thin someone looks or how someone's clothes look like. In case if it happens, don't over react. After you reach home, you can explain to him why that comment would hurt someone. It will be a good opportunity for you to teach him about people's emotions and feelings. And also watch what you speak in front of your child at home. Hope this helps

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Carol

| May 18, 2015

Hi Harsh, teaching the child clearly the scenarios or the situations where not to comment anything would help avoid the embarrassing moments. Mostly kids put us in an embarrassing situation when they comment on a person's physical appearance. So teach her that any comment on a person's physical appearance is a big No-no and we should accept everyone as they are. When a child sees a differently abled person, children have a lot of questions. if she has questions, she can only talk to her parents in private and not in front of everyone. Discourage Any comment that she gives on skin colour or how fat or thin someone looks or how someone's clothes look like. In case if it happens, don't over react. After you reach home, you can explain to her why that comment would hurt someone. It will be a good opportunity for you to teach her about people's emotions and feelings. And also watch what you speak in front of your child at home. Hope this helps.

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Harsh

| May 18, 2015

tnx for your valuable suggestions .. :)

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Dost Avani

| May 18, 2015

I agree with Rachna. It is a blessing to have an outspoken child naturally. My daughter is also very much outspoken. I use the trick of making her understand certain facts as a secret play between mummy & her only. And as a family we are discussing something sensitive, we use the language which she doesn't understand much. Still for any awkward situation, jokes and gentle apology mostly works.

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Rachna

| May 17, 2015

Harsh, while it is a super thing that your child can speak up his mind, i can imagine it can get awkward sometimes. Best, I think, is to handle the situation delicately then, politely or jokingly apologise to the person on whom the comment was made, or if possible, give the comment a funny angel or if very awkward, gently tell your child that this was not a very good thing to say and that he should not say this in future. This can mitigate the awkwardenss of the situation. I think you should no suppress this aspect of your childs personality. We more often than not, grow up into adults, who dont know how to speak up.

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