how should I change my child behaviour
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Updated on Dec 15, 2016
she is 7. 1yrs now. she likes to behave like a 1 or2yr kids. she is good at education she is normal but when ever she has a chance she behaves like a kid ex talking,or in games she chooses to be an infant ....but all her frnds they do their work on their own and also capable of advising others. she is stubborn. she is very sensitive. she don't like to have her food on her own. does not bother for her belongings.
| Dec 15, 2016
hi Lakshmi! I understand your concerns! this could be just her way of seeking your attention by imitating her younger sibling or behave like small children. having a younger sibling doesnt make one grow up just because they are elder and they are expected to behave likewise. one grows up with age and time. so to expect her to grow up and be independent might take time. please ensure that you shower ur love equally on both, spend time with both, praise both, and avoid scolding her for younger sibling or vice versa. if u have anything to talk to her, do that separately and not in front of younger sibling. please see things from her perspective and gradually try and understand her. make both of them independent. taking sides might drift them apart and severe their relationship with each other. guide them to support each other and love each other. assign them chores which they are ought to do independently say for instance keeping their stuff at its respective place or organizing their desk or even helping u with chores. have same rules for both. this shall help u!
| Dec 15, 2016
actually the younger one is more responsible than the elder one and more spontaneous than elder. but I don't want her to grow up fast but atleast equal to her friends .she is always sitting in front of TV. becoming lazy,irritated and from the beginning she is very slow in her work which is resulting her no time for other things. the two children relationship is good. problem coming with me seeing elder even younger trying to behave or talk the same- irritated,careless talking.
| Dec 15, 2016
hi again! Lakshmi no two kids are same,. not even siblings. it's good that your lil one is more responsible but that doesn't make elder one any less worthy than any other child be her sibling or her friends. she has her own strengths and her own uniqueness. there must be many things that your lil one might not be able to as good as elder one. please avoid comparing your kids. this will instil jealousy and make elder one loose her self confidence if done repeatedly. please recognize their strengths and work on their not so strong points with love, care and motivation but not comparison. hope this helps!
