how to describe love to your child.
Created by Updated on Jul 30, 2016
The other day my 7 year old daughter came back from school crying and all upset. She had made a card for her friend and written I love you in it. The other classmates started making fun of her. They told her that these words are bad and saying this to your friend makes you a bad person. Love is only for boyfriends and girlfriends. I was perturbed at the narrow definition of love being floated in the young minds. I have tried to explain a different version of love to her, but she seems not much convinced. In a world, where there is so much hatred and warfare, I don't think the world can afford such a narrow version of love.
| Aug 02, 2016
hi Sumedha!how r u! I appreciate your concerns. I agree when u say that with this narrow definition of love between just the boyfriend and girlfriend, the deeper sense of love is lost. it's a complicated term for children to understand but I believe what u have told your child is a beautiful explanation. love is when u care for someone, when u don't expect anything in return from them and when u want just happiness and good things to happen to them. this feeling could be there for your brother, sister, parents, friend, cousin, teacher, grandparents, relative or a friend who is special. These days children as small as 6/7 year olds very casually write 'I love u ......'(friend's name who is a boy or vice versa). for them love is a casual thing. Thanks to media, movies, TV and Bollywood numbers and technology where everything is available at the touch of a fingertip. Also, we as parents have been unsuccessful in instilling right values in our children. Sumedha u r on the right track, I am sure your girl will understand the deeper meaning of love as she grows up!Tkcare!