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It's 1 am Please sleep

Nidhi
1 to 3 years

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Updated on Sep 05, 2013

Yes, keep requesting this to my 14 months old daughter.... who just refrains sleeping. Thoug she si drop dead tired and sleepy but she doesn't want to sleep. She starts [laying all of sudden and once i beging to make her sleep she just starts crying.... I've tried most of the things mentioned in book or by friends like oil massage, hot bath before bedtime, 1 hr play before bedtime, singing lullaby, what not.... please tell me a good, effective and sustainable solution to make her sleep at normal hours....

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Nidhi

| Oct 04, 2013

Hey bhavna, thanks for such encouraging words.. she was settled as i was very persistent on her regular sleeping habits, but then now again we are in holiday so there are some restrictions to our Day-time spent routine too... hope is right on track once we are back from holiday... lot of my friends also suggested that it;s too early to dictate her, but when yo her tired and cranky, i really thinks there should be good set of routine for her sleeping habits... will updatethe post more once am back from vacation - See more at: https://www.parentune.com/parent-talk/its-1-am-please-sleep/676

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Nidhi

| Oct 04, 2013

Hey bhavna, thanks for such encouraging words.. she was settled as i was very persistent on her regular sleeping habits, but then now again we are in holiday so there are some restrictions to our Day-time spent routine too... hope is right on track once we are back from holiday... lot of my friends also suggested that it;s too early to dictate her, but when yo her tired and cranky, i really thinks there should be good set of routine for her sleeping habits... will updatethe post more once am back from vacation

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Nidhi

| Oct 04, 2013

Hey bhavna, thanks for such encouraging words.. she was settled as i was very persistent on her regular sleeping habits, but then now again we are in holiday so there are some restrictions to our Day-time spent routine too... hope is right on track once we are back from holiday... lot of my friends also suggested that it;s too early to dictate her, but when yo her tired and cranky, i really thinks there should be good set of routine for her sleeping habits... will updatethe post more once am back from vacation

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Bhavna

| Sep 09, 2013

Hey Nidhi !! wow , that is some patience ... hats off to you girl... i went through the entire talk and even smiled at some of the excerpts but all in all my heart goes out to you and i can understand this constant battle is very draining. I see you have been given a world or options to try but i just wanted to ask one thing, does she snore a bit when she sleeps? you will have to break her daily routine to get her to sleep at a predecided time, yes most of the proparents who have said thatreducing the sleep in the day time may help are right , being hyperactive is still a questionable theory that can only be proved with a lot of clinical testing. Hey we 've all been there, it usually gets better with time , the mantra that helped me , - This too shall pass :-) hang in there.

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Gaurav

| Sep 07, 2013

human body temperature while sleeping is lower than when its awake. The idea is to take a give your kid a hot bath and then take her to a cold room to make her sleep. As the body starts cooling down, it will induce sleep and hopefully she will sleep too... all the best.

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Nidhi

| Sep 06, 2013

@Anurima thanks a lot for your inputs

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Nidhi

| Sep 06, 2013

@ AM thanks for ur input but we are already taking her out for around 2-3 times a day,, which includes library, park and sometimes shopping too,

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AM

| Sep 05, 2013

@ Nidhi : I think ur daughter is hyper active child. Involve her in physical activities.... my son too like tht... I used to tk him park... let him play then tk two rounds of the park. It makes him dead tired.. after returning home... he easily eat dinner... and sleep quietly. I too tried many things but only this worked... and switch off the light whn it is sleeping time.. ask ur daughter to switch off... and lay down quitely... she will sleep soon as whn light is on... it brings distraction.

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Nandini

| Sep 05, 2013

@Nidhi: Try pressing her legs for a bit, that really calms down my son, and if i keep lying down beside him with lights off he eventually calms down and comes next to me to sleep.

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Nandini

| Sep 05, 2013

@ Charanjot: My son is 15 months old and i have weaned him off breast milk 1 month back and it has been such a relief! After the first week, now he has milk before sleeping and then sleeps through the night. earlier he used to wake up every 2 hrs asking for my feed and also used to eat less of solids and used to sleep while feeding. Big big relief.

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AM

| Sep 05, 2013

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Anurima

| Sep 05, 2013

Dear Nidhi. It is great to see that you are trying to stay consistent. Like I wrote in my first post, crying it out is not for all parents. Most parents do not want to take that route. So I also added a link from Baby Centre on sleep training without tears. I completely understand how stressful and difficult such a situation is but it gets easier as they grow. So I suggest that you follow a bed time routine consistently and soon your child will learn to sleep without much fuss. I think the key is dimming lights, no noise, no interference, no chit chatting and the like, just to get her settled down and make her understand that its time for bed :) Good luck. Hope it works out soon.

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Nidhi

| Sep 05, 2013

@charanjot i would like to know do your daughter had sleeping issues or you are in dilemma to breast feed her or not. does your daughter sleep off while you r breastfeeding her, if yest plz discontinue... she may have chances to have tooth decay infuture. and have you started top up food like dal khichadi, soups and all... if not start it... post six mionth you can give them mashed food and later semi solids with samll cubbies... as yu mentioned that she sleeps only 20-30 mins in day, whuch is very less... kid till age 2-3 yrs should try getting as much as sleep as they can... as in growing years they play a lot and further get tired... good sleep in day time is neccesary... I take my daughter to library at 10 am then while returing we do some grocery shopping and we return by 12:30 or 1pm... then i make her sleep.. making her sleep this time is very easy as she is already tired with library visit and shoping... as he sleeps i have my lunch and than i do my house wrk or browsing... aroun 4 pm or 5 pm she gets up... and then i take her to park where she play with other kids.. and meanwhile my hubby is jogging... one we are done with park my hubyy takes her out and comes back by 8 meanwhile i prepare dinner and set the table... she joins us for the dinner too... and then comes the climaxxx now she doesn;t want o sleeepppp i'm still onmy trial and error phase of making her sleep at right time.... once i succeed i'll definetly shre with the board....

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Nidhi

| Sep 05, 2013

As suggested by few, i went to bed with her earlier than regular time... and then she had 2 bottles of milk approx, though she was feeling drowsy she was not sleepin,,, started blabbling and all. but still i didn't respond... i kept lying by her side and insted her to be laid down ... than i slowly massaged her forehead for around 20 mins... but still all of sudden she got up and started jumping on bed( in sitting position only.... then also i didn't give up .. i kept calm and relaxed and kept lying downin bed alongside her jumping around the bed.... than she automaticaaly came to me , snuggled me and expressed that she want to sleep... she held me tight .... adn then made lay on her tummy and patted her back for arounf 25 mins and still she was babbling , i sternly said... 'NO More noise in this room' who is mubbling... she was quite... i had few hiccups... i felt sorry for her... but i was strong to not give up... i did not move yself to give her water .... i twas bad sight though.... though i so wanted to give her water so that her hiccups can subside. I showed no signs of mercy and kept patting as if am not aware... than within 10 mins she was fast asleeep.... BINGO!!! The entire process took around 2. 5 hrs... this time i asked my hubby to do dishes and kitchen meanwhile i was making her sleep... then he didn't even enter our room where i was making her sleep.. coz the moment she use to see him... she starts jumpimg and wanttto play with him..... and he suported very welll and didnt entertain her.... she was cooing some signs that she want deddaa but i completely ingnore.... This was DAy one let see wat happens today ... i'll give my self 1week for this sleep solution,,,

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Charanjot

| Sep 05, 2013

My daughter, 14 months old, does not sleeps much during the day... max she ll take two naps of 30-40 mins... still she does not sleep through night and wakes up every two hours... have tried cuddling, singing... soothing... once she wakes up... she does not goes to sleep without my feed... its making me tired... my paed says its fine that she takes my feed till 15 months....

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Shikha Batra

| Sep 05, 2013

Hi Nidhi! It is advised that pls lay down by ur child's side when it is time for her to sleep with ur hands on the child or hugging the child showing no signs of hurry or without loosing ur patience. read out a picture book to her. U cud make the lights dim with no activity around. Follow the same routine everyday. As AM suggested reduce the number of sleeping hours during the day time. Increase the activity levels by playing with her during evening. If a child is hungry he/she would not sleep so please make sure child should have meals properly. u cud try giving hot milk which makes children sleep. Hope this helps!

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AM

| Sep 05, 2013

@ nidhi... reduce her sleeping time during the day time... this is the only solution... dont let her sleep after 5pm and in evening tk her for walk.... or for outing... kids get tired whn they go out. She will automatically feel sleepy by 10pm or so. and wake her up by 8am in d mrg.

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Nidhi

| Sep 04, 2013

one more thng when i start singing the lullaby she start crying more than before ... i think she understands that im making her sleep... i need to shif on other lullaby songs or jus like my dad i'll start patting .. coz even i was very reluctant sleeper wen i was a kid, let see if that works for her too...

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Nidhi

| Sep 04, 2013

@Anurima thanks a bunch for your suggestions, She does co-sleeping with me. and during day time she naps around 4-5 hrs depending on her mood... We have tried rubbing her tummy tooo... but it didn't work for her. Am bit skepticle abt using self soothe method.. if nothing works then i think i have no option and i have half heartedly opt for it. As suggested by you i will avoid talking to her during the sleeping session, i guess it should wrk... coz unknowingly even i entertain her demands... like giving her every thing she ask so that she stops crying... i need be strict... i guess so ... will give myself a week and will keep yu posted regarding he same...

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Anurima

| Sep 04, 2013

Dear Nidhi, you mentioned that she starts to cry when you out her in bed? I think she is over tired and hence gets cranky. Have you tried putting her to bed earlier? Let her stay in bed even if she is not sleepy. I used to play slow music for my daughter and she used to fall asleep with that. Does she sleep on the same bed as you or does she have a separate baby cot to sleep in? How long does she nap for during the day? You could teach her to self soothe. To do this, you could leave her in the cot, stay with her for a few minutes, rub her tummy and tell her its time to sleep. You could also sing a lullaby. After about 10 mins, you may leave the room and check on her every 5 mins and increase the gap to 10 mins. When you check on her, you need to avoid talking to her, just rub her tummy or any other gesture which tells her that its time to sleep. She may cry and this could be difficult for you. If you follow this method consistently for a week or so, you child will get the message and learn to sleep on her own. It took about 2 weeks for my daughter (at the age of 8 months) to fall asleep on her own and it took my son 2 days :) I have not had issues with their sleep since then. It may be difficult for you to hear them cry (if they cry) but it has been proven that crying does not do any damage (physical or emotion) to children as parents check on them every few minutes. Hope this helps. Keep us posted.

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Nidhi

| Sep 04, 2013

Mommies please help me to get my daughter asleep in night XOXO

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