Created by Updated on Feb 11, 2014
My son is 14 year old. I am worried because he has started lying to me. He had a class test some time back. He said that he did not get the marks yet but while arranging his study table i found the test sheet. He was failed in the test. I am not able to understand why he is lying to me and how do i handle this situation, please suggest.
| Feb 11, 2014
Hi Swati, I can understand ur feelings. U need not get worried so much. May be ur kid thought it just as a class test and did n't prepare well. He might not have expected that he "ll fail. Then may be he thought u might scold and must have lied. Even in these days the correction is sometimes very tough since they might prepare for boards. U go to the teacher and ask about his gradual performance in the last quarter. If she tells there is abnormal degradation in studies , u can get help of student counsellor. U can find out the reason what is disturbing him. Otherwise if he is performing well , u can ignore this. Remember once the kid enters teen age, they start having secrets on their own. It's one more stage of growing up. U have to give him space and change ur attitude. U can ask now and then whether his studies are going on well and if he requires special tuition for any subjects. U can be friendly and with lot of love and care u can handle the situation easily. Once the kid gets assured of parents support and love, he may not have the reason to lie. This might help!
| Feb 11, 2014
Hi dear Swati ! Adolescence is a stage of stress and storm. There are many changes which goes on in an adolescents life which includes bodily changes, changes in self image, self concept, new friendships with same sex or opposite sex. Adolescents think adults won't understand and might ask questions which they would like to avoid. They need their own space. just take it as a typical characteristic of a teenager. Also look at child's performance in class other than that particular test. If u see a tremendous downfall u need to look for possible reasons and thereby solutions by working on management strategies for academic underachievement. While having a discussion with ur child, stay calm, composed, prepared for a talk which should help ur child. Raised tempers would increase ur child's problems and wud further motivate him to reserve his thoughts. At this moment ur child needs a friend more than a parent!