My 10 yr old son is very argumentative,he is reluctant to obey advice so I get angry always. How can I handle my son?

Jyoti I do understand about your concern. Your son's behaviour is aggressive it could be because certain conditions in the environment are upsetting him. It could be that something in his environment is causing him fear or making him uncomfortable or guilty. He may not be able to manage these emotions or talk to you about these emotions which is making him act aggressively. You also seem to be getting very stressed and agitated with the behaviour. You must understand that you are trying to do your best. Your son's behaviour is not his fault, it is because of the environment. When he behave in an unacceptable manner, you can try to analyse the situation and what has triggered of the behaviour. Take him out of the situation. Divert his attention. Do not beat or scream at him. This will only make the matters worse. It will also encourage him to beat and scream as he will be copying your actions. Beating and screaming at him may also make him more stubborn. It is important to make him feel supported , you can do this by talking to him about his feelings, accepting his feelings and separating him from his behaviour. You can also compliment and praise all the positive behaviours of him.

Jyothi this is that age when child's brain is developing and he is thinking of alternative ways of doing a thing. Please do not take it personally by thinking he is disobeying you . It's just that he wants to exercise his will and take his decisions independently.

Try to listen to him by giving him a patient ear, do not criticize him or judge him if you do not like his idea. Just praise him for sharing it and expressing his heart out to you ..we as parents can show respect towards our children as just like us they too do have a mind of their own and their opinion does matter and then only can we expect the same behaviour From them, which is being respected.

Jyoti hope this blog could help you. Hey! I find this parent blog really interesting. I suggest you have a look too: Aggressive Behaviour Factor & Ways to Reduce Aggressive Behaviour in Children https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/aggressive-behaviour-factor-ways-to-reduce-aggressive-behaviour-in-children/198?ptref=sa0l0026n98005i

Here is a blog you might find useful. Blogs- https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/love-or-fear-how-do-you-discipline-your-child/771

@meghavi Gandhi ji how do deal with a situation when your child shows aggressive behaviour

Geeta kiran bedare , bhupendra as you both have same aged child, what do you think, is this behaviour common in all children? What suggestion you could give?