my child is 2yrs.. Difficult to handle her.. How to make her listen n follow our instructions.. Eg: speak softly.. she gets too rigid and stubborn also

Hi Kim! How r u? I understand it feels bad when your child doesn't listen to you. Since , to expect a child to change according to us or discipline her all the time would be wrong on our part, I would suggest you to understand why she does so. With a little change in your style and understanding the "why"part , u would be able to find a middle path. for example : u want your child to stop playing right now as it is too late say 10pm and sleep . And Raajvi is busy playing with her doll and doesn't want to leave it at that point . What I would advise you to do is: change your tone from an order to a simple request . Say "baby it's too late , we should sleep ". Second, tell her she can take 5 more minutes and wind up what she is doing. Third, tell her what she needs to do before she sleeps-get into night suit, brush her teeth , get fresh. Fourth, u could tell her after that Mumma will narrate a story to her. Also you could let her know she can have her doll by her side while she is in the bed. So this way we are not forcing our way on the child and telling her it's either my way or highway. Rather we are being considerate enough to understand what she likes doing and making her do same thing in way that has been decided after a consensus. U could use words like thank you , well done, awesome , good job to her at every step. This would motivate her and save you of efforts to repeat your requests and raise your voice. Also please ensure, in your day to day conversations with her all family members use a polite , soft yet firm tone with her. By raising our voice or giving her empty threats or hitting her ,she will get used to after a while , this strategy too shall fail . Please Try and bring a change in your tone and style. I am sure this will make a difference. Hope this helps!

Hi shikha, thanks for the reply. I Wil try the way u told me. 1 more thing I wanted to ask tht everytime my baby uses the word pagal pagal to everyone. It is embarrassing wen we go out and she speaks in front of anyone pagal to anyone .how can I stop her this habit as it looks really bad wen she tells to some elder people.

I am glad u found my advise useful! Sometimes children grasp these words from us only which we unintentionally and without realizing use in our day to day conversation. Make sure we omit such words from our vocabulary which we don't want our children to use. Secondly , help her communicate that she doesn't agree with u using some alternate method or words which you too need to practice along with her. For example: she can simply say ' I disagree' in your local dialect or use some gesture to communicate the same "thumbs down" for disagree or " thumbs up" when she agrees with u. Again I would stress make use of magic words more often "thank you,please , good job, awesome, sorry" . Watch these working wonders on yr darling angel! Give my love to Raajvi.