My child's behavioral changes
Created by Updated on Apr 20, 2016
My daughter is now 1 year 17 months has always been clinging to me and doesnot allow anybody else to touch her. She usually takes lots of time to open up. She cries histerically if I leave her alone with even her dad. Otherwise she is a happy baby at home when only we both are at home. When we visit to her doctor she cries continuously and not allow anyone to touch her. Even if anyone on door she starts crying Because of her this behaviour I thought it is time for her to know other ppl and kids. So we use to bring her park to play. I want my child to mingle with others and gets adjusted even if I am not around. But her this behavior is growing stronger day by day. My other family members are annoyed by this behavior. Feeling very low... What can I do to boost my child's confidence with others. I do take her out in the evenings to park to play, but nothing much as I am staying alone with her whole day. I am really feeling disappointed and down..
| Apr 21, 2016
Hi Jyotsna Sahu! There is nothing unusual in her behavior. Children have separation as well as stranger anxiety at this age. You need to leave her unattended at home to begin with initially for few minutes after ensuring her safety. For instance, u could give her a toy say blocks to stack and when she is busy playing with these, u could continue with your work in another room and keep taking rounds every few minutes. Gradually increase the time say take a round after 15 minutes and so on. When she calls u, u should immediately reply so that she is able to have faith Mommy is around. As u have been taking her to the park,make her mingle with her age mates. Let her have the trust MUMMY wont go anywhere. Don't hide or go out of her sight to see how she reacts to it. This will make her further uncomfortable. Once u see she is doing fine and will be OK, u could involve yourself in other activities like walking , excercise etc. in the park. Also leave her with one caregiver at home say Daddy or grandma with whom she could have fun. allow them to play with her, initially in your presence for few days everyday and after few days without u being around. Jyotsna as of now she just trusts u, and believes with u she is safe but u need to help her believe she will be fine with others too by giving others an opportunity to create that bond with her. When she starts howling in the presence of another person,don't just take her away or ask them to leave the room. Ask them to make attempts to build a connection through toys or stories or methods which she enjoys. hope this helps!