my first son studying in class sixth he is not lestning... become very stubborn

hi B Preesha! hope u r doing good!I completely understand your concerns. first and foremost u need to sit and set a routine for him where he needs to spend at least 2 hours everyday on studies. if possible involve his father or any responsible figure whom he listens to. it's time to be firm with him . having said that make sure u r calm and relaxed while talking to him . let him know the rules which will be implemented thereon which he needs to follow. TV time will depend on how long he studied, did he finish assigned tasks and how well he did it. reward him or give him privlege of 10 minutes extra TV time if he follows Instructions. also praise him when he listens to u. B Preesha u could try rewarding him for good behavior and taking away priveleges for bad behavior and see the difference. try and notice what works best for him. deal with love and patience. I am sure with persistent efforts he would come around. hope this helps!

thank u very much sikha for your advice I ll try and work on it .actually frankly speaking I m very frustrated and not able to be calm and becos of this I ofenly get angry with him .any way I try my level best. my younger son also need my attention so it's little bit challenging to be calm with both .I think firstly I need some techniq to be a good mom. thanks once again sikha

Hi B preesha, I would like to say that loving your child changes many things positively. May be you are more involved with your younger one and the elder one is taking benefit of the same. If you would try to take out some time only for elder one and speak with him... he will think that he is also important for you.. for that you need to b calm.

thank you pradnya I ll try and work on it

hi sikha mam good morning. I need help I tried all wat u all told me. the result was good my son is responded to my words ....but only for three days and after that he became same like before . I m very upset pls tell wat to do.

thanks Shikha because same condition is mine.... I hope your suggestions will work.... I'll try to do my best

u just be calm ,caring and position in front of him always try to make the environment as per his comfort and then deal with him when he is in relaxed mood. he listen to you and realizes your concern . don't b angry or arrogant with him. don't ever compare him with others. try to make him special for you people and show by your gesture and care, its a slow process but its works definitely.

hi B Preesha! sorry for the late reply. u continue to behave nicely, I am sure seeing u calm and relaxed he will sooner or later calm down.