Child Psychology and Behaviour

My son is 2. 5 yrs old. He is a vry bright child. He seems to have a good grasping power, he is vry talkative n loves to explore new things. He loves to ask questions. Loves to see picture n story books. In a months time he wil start his schooling(nursery

Neha Netragaonkar
1 to 3 years

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Updated on Apr 24, 2013

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seema

| Apr 11, 2014

Great inputs from all of your. Gaurima u Hv been able to pinpoint the exact solutions to what I'm going through too with my ever demanding 7 year old boy. superb inputs to engage them and making them feel secure and loved ...thanks for guiding through... regards... seema.

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Vishal Singhal

| May 02, 2013

All of you here are great mothers mams. I really appreciate Parentune and all of you putting all of this here. I face the same issue with my son and I strongly believe my wife Ritu also faces all such problems. It shows up in her frustration when I return home after whole day's work. Some of your suggestions here are awesome and I will try to apply them and get things for my son to be engaged with... Thanks a lot all of you for sharing this. Regards.

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Ritu

| Apr 26, 2013

I think, that sounds similar to what I do. Dancing , singing , watching some stuff on tv, reading to your child are some of the activities that I also do with my child, and that precisely the reason why I told Neha to be fully charged when her kiddo gets back home. After all , for indulging the child in the activities require fresh mind and body. But yes, washing veggies and some similar stuff mentioned by Gaurima are something I avoid. At three, children have various insecurities, and probably thats the reason why they become clingy, and would want more and more of their Mothers' presence and love. So, give them in abundance. Household work one can manage in their absence. I get up in the morning, do my cooking for the whole day even before he gets up, see Him off to school, and then do my stuff that pleases me alongwith other household chores. Since the time he gets back home to the time when he goes off to sleep at night , I am with him. I don't do anything but be with him. When he takes his nap in the afternoon, that's the time when I surf the net , and do the incompleted task. So , what I mean to say is that organize , manage so that you have time for household chores, and still can take care of your happiness, and happiness of your child too.

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gaurima

| Apr 25, 2013

Hey dear .. my experience taught me somethin different... i can feel u so much ... we mothers have to do a world of chores making us go round and round with something or the other constantly demanding our attention. i used to feel quite frustrated with exactly the same problem ... the more i tried to make my child to play on his own the more he used to cling ;( i used to feel dead tired. Then i introspected about what am i being doing to my child... though i did so much in terms of fulfilling his physical needs of food etc but ... somehow i intuitively gauged that he at some level is DISSATISFIED. I could feel that behind all his attention seeking he wanted more love - pure love from me devoid of any background thoughts( urgency of impending and unending duties). With this realisation in my mind I revamped my management skills and applied all the best shortcuts that i could to save time so as to spend deep bonding time with my child. I read with him, together we washed vegetables, toys, slippers , watered the plants, cooked simple deserts, sang , danced , did a lot of art and constantly interacted my heart out with him :)In some time he became sure that I am really there for him COMPLETELY. Ans now my boy will be eight soon n he knows what mum loves n what not, what is best thing to do to make me smile, ask me to sleep when I am tired, get ready for school himself when I can't, share about his day in school.... and above all he LOVES to let me be ME :) n

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Ritu

| Apr 25, 2013

I am sure with time, he will learn to be on his own as my son has started. In order to distress yourself, do things which please you when he goes to a nursery. Meet friends, go for window shopping, read so that you feel fresh , and ready to take n the challenge when he gets back home. This is what I do. Try, it might help. Take care.

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Ritu

| Apr 25, 2013

Hey Neha! I can understand your position fully well as I am also sailing in the same boat though my kiddo is going to be three pretty soon. With girls , I suppose, it doesn't happen or it is little different. He goes to a nursery , and that's the time I get off for myself. He still looks and sounds to be clingy , but, off lately he has started playing all by himself but yes for less time . May be he will be on his own entirely with passage of time. I think, let us give our children some more time , and be patient ( know its extremely extremely difficult as we need to do household work also side by side which takes away most of our energy but there is no way out, so.... ) .

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Neha Netragaonkar

| Apr 24, 2013

Absolutly Shanaya u r rgt. I hv to wait until his school starts. Anurima i always try to keep him occupied bt he constantly needs me by his side even while watchin cartoons or painting or crayon scribbleS or puzzles. I hope he learns to play by himself n stop his usual MAMMA U SIT.... MAMMA U PLAY.... U PAINT.... N U ALSO WATCH CARTOONS. Huh... n therz no time left after tat.

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Anurima

| Apr 24, 2013

Hey Neha. Toddlers do get bored quickly and I know how difficult it is to manage the work at home and also look after a little child! To keep my child occupied and get some work done at the same time, I ask her for help. For example, I ask my daughter to help me fold clothes, give her a small ball of dough (when making rotis) and she plays with it for a while. Another thing that works is rotating the toys. You could keep a couple of toys away for a few days and let him play with the remaining. After about 4 or 5 days, bring out the other toys and keep the rest away. This works sometimes. You could give him some paper and water colours (easily washes off) to paint with or get him some playdoh. Things will be easier for you once his school starts, but until then hang in there and hope some of my suggestions help. Take care :)

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Shanaya

| Apr 24, 2013

Hi Neha, are you planning to put your child in a play school since now he is 2. 5 years. This will create a routine for him and also give you time off.. He will get company and his energy will also get used up at school ..

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