My teenaged girl has lately been losing interest in studies. On being asked repeatedly she told me that she likes a boy in her class and these days he hasn't been giving attention to her. Also he keeps talking to other girls, due to which she is unable to concentrate. How can I help my girl?

Hi

I am glad that after listening to this, you didn't get mad at her or punish her. As this is the worst thing a parent can do by judging , reprimanding or taking away child's privileges on knowing about their feelings. As believe you me, it takes a lot of courage to open up and share this with a parent. Now that you are aware of what's bothering her, help her deal with it by talking to her about her feelings as she will feel lighter. Also let her know that all this shouldn't affect her grades. And also if he also likes her, he will get back to her. So she should not chase him and rather give him space . Help her plan a schedule and take her for walks, make her  favourite dishes , to make her feel better.

You can say all these things to your daughter that ,I am glad to know that you have opened up to me about this. I wouldn't have known about this if you didn't tell me. But I want to tell you that there is a reason for you to pay attention to all these things at this time. You should pay attention to your studies because your career will be built only because of your studies. It takes a whole life for all these things. You can really do it later also. Such a friend, you can talk to that boy. do not ignore your study because not studying can wrost your future. These future will not progress. Behave with the child like a friend. Don't judge the child. If you spend time with her, she will not feel lonely.

https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/aap-positive-parent-kaise-ban-sakte-hain/2462 you can read this blog.

Karuna Mathur I do understand your concern. You can let your girl know, you are there for her no matter what. Also help her overcome the feelings of sadness, anxiety of losing him by reminding her of her self-worth, her strengths and giving this relationship sometime as forced relationships can prove to be wrong choices later on. Take her out for dinner, movie etc and spend quality time with her. For studies keep a watch on her performance and help her be consistent and motivate her to do well. Hope this will be useful to you!

Karuna Mathur here is a blog which could help you to handle the situvation. Hey! I find this parent blog really interesting. I suggest you have a look too: Teenage crush and Parents’ role: To accept it or dismiss it https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/teenage-crush-and-parents-role-to-accept-it-or-dismiss-it/6106?ptref=sa0l0026n9804pm