Need Help - Life Lessons From My Child

hey neetu , you can quote me on this :-) here goes....... 1. Patience / every thing will happen in its own sweet time / i can control, only so much : Before i had my daughter i was a little low on patience , everything had to be now , but once i had her my patience levels had to ( had to as i saw no other option) be developed. I realized i could only control so much , things would happen when it was time for them to happen ... mostly i could not rush my baby as she is the most chilled and grounded child ( i call her an old soul). Now my pace is different... and i am glad ( i am sure if i continued to be the same , i would have given myself a heart attack). 2. When i raise my voice even at someone else my baby gets scared and upset/ no body likes to get yelled at : I realized i could not raise my voice at anyone, leave aside my own child as everytime i was upset with someone , my lo was scared of me. I am sure my vocal cords are thanking my child as i rarely raise my voice now. 3. Time spent with her was the best gift i could get her : None of the toys or gifts meant anything if she was lonely and sad. We spend hours together ( just finger painting sometimes) and she is so happy , you know she is so confident , self assured and grounded child , she has no issues with being possessive about things in her room or her toys for that matter, so as long as i understood the bigger picture i did not need to worry. Last but not the least : It takes very little to be happy - Just a hug , a smile, a favorite toffee , some thermacole balls , wrapping paper, bubble wrap or a good tickle....

Great topic Neetu. I am sure it will make a great read for the parents :) Here is what I would like to contribute. I have learnt how important it is to be happy and laugh out loud! Over the years, doing the same chores day in day out, following the same routine and thinking about the next thing to do (while doing one), I had forgotten how to live in the moment. When my little chatterbox started to understand expressions, she started asking me why do I always make an angry face. Initially I would not pay much attention, but after being repeatedly asking the same question over and over again, I realized that there is something that is bothering her. I then made it a point to take breaks, sit and talk to my kids, play with them, roll on the bed, make a mess (then clean it up together), tickle them and laugh out loud with them. I had forgotten how fun all these little things were. I am sure this little change has made me healthier and surely happier :) There is a child in all of us!

Hi Neetu! I would like to share wat my daughter has taught me over these 4 years. Tht sometimes anger n scolding make things worse n a big smile n love can do wonders. U can make anything done from anybody including ur household help using these two strategies. At timeswhen my daughter doesn't listen to me n I wud scold her n obviously there is anger on my face she wud say "mamma be happy n now love me Mumma". D moment I bring a smile on my face n kiss her she wud immediately do wat she was told to. Another thing which I learnt from her is tht if ur child does anything wrong n tells u d truth for ex spoiling any gadget or messing up with imp papers etc u shd not scold d child n explain it to them how there this action cud have caused inconvenience to you n ask for possible ways to fix it n reason it out. Scolding or reprimanding wud make ur child hide things frm u next time he/she does some mistake n probability is the child wud start lying to save himself/herself frm any kind of awkward situation. d harm done can b corrected but by scolding r child we wud be doing a blunder for which we mite have to pay d rest of r life. The child wud never confide in us.

Dear Bhavna, Anurima and Shikha, thank you very much for sharing such endearing experiences. I was sort of stuck and these thoughts will give me a beautiful headstart.. waiting for more from fellow mommies.. thanks again.

Dear Neetu , Moms here have already shared soooo much incredible stuff that we learn from our kids ...and i would like to add a few more thing to the list >>> 1) TERRIFIC LEARNERS : Applying learning on a. s. a. p basis so many times that you get perfect in your learning. While being with them I realised about myself that many a times i would learn something new only to forget it soon, as i never found the time to practice or ... (most of the times it was just lack of enthusiasm ;) no time issues) >>> 2) PERSISTENCE : The next important lesson I learnt from them is to persist with their wishes... they don't take no's to their head or heart they would keep asking for their wishes one way or the other or yet other ..... >>>> 3) SOLUTION ORIENTED : they are incredibly solution oriented so mush so that they would try hell lot of approaches to figure it out for example how to fetch a cookie jar kept out of their reach ;) ...how to distract mom or how to convince her or will she succumb through threats ...they actually keep improvising their ways till they get whatever they want

Dear Gaurima, thanks for your inputs. You will see them incorporated into the blog :)