parenting

hi kavitta harit! u could ask his father to do a man to man talk to him and talk to him about his future plans. help him set his routine. find out weak areas and spend time say half an hour everyday helping him with those and also supervise his everyday performance. u too could help him particular subjects and prepare his test papers , check those and make him do corrections. motivation and praise would do wonders in this case.

thank you so much mam

one more thing mam.... my son don't value the money ...how can we make them understand about money value... pls help

Hi Kavita, the best way to make him understand the value of money is to make him earn it. Understanding how hard it is to earn a penny, will eventually make him understand the value. For the last few years we have been doing this activity around Xmas time where my son has to come up with a plan to raise/earn money for charity. Once we baked cupcakes together and he went around the neighborhood to sell them explaining for what cause he was selling. It has always been a great learning experience for him as he reflects at the end of the activity on how it went. The barriers he crossed were tiresome work - it was really hard to go around to each house explaining, then embarrassment - some people were not even ready to open the gate. But end of the day he realized how much time and effort it requires to earn and also was happy with the hard earned money that he could use to buy few essential things for less privileged. Another way is to postpone the gratification. It's ok to say no or postpone buying things when they ask you to buy. The immediate gratification spoils the child as they don't realize the value. When my son asks to buy a book or a toy, most of the time we tell him that he will have to save money and buy from it. Every week we give him a small amount of money and he waits till he reaches the target amount. If we want our children to learn values, they have to go through certain experiences though it can sometimes be hard. we don't have to protect them from disappointment. Another thing is He has also learnt to take care of his things properly as he knows how hard it is to earn them. It has worked for us. Hope it does for you too.

same even with my son