Child Psychology and Behaviour

Parents quarreling in front of children

Atreyee
7 to 11 years

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Updated on Sep 15, 2016

My husband always creates a situation when I am always shouting in front of my son and which I know is not at all good for my son. How can I stop myself from shouting

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Deep Shikha

| Aug 04, 2017

same here me too get angry nd shout bcoz he creates nd oppose me in front of my child nd then my son got option to behavee like this wid me nd argument wid me ..

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Shikha Batra

| Sep 15, 2016

hi Atreyee! how r u! let me begin by appreciating u as u know the problem and even the solution and u r being honest about it. . Many people don't even realize the reason for change in their child's behavior and keep blaming teachers ,or other family members or even peer group for the same. now that we know the problem that someone provokes u, why do u allow him to hurt you. when tawa gets hot by fire, we dont blame fire for hurting it. rather we use that heat to cook chapatis. so similarly rather than getting hurt and inturn hurting others by shouting n making use of language which your child should not listen to, use it as a motivation to do something constructive. Save that energy for bringing a change in yourself and getting stronger each time he provokes u. Atreyee it's difficult to change others , so try and work on yourself for the betterment of your child and to maintain peace in the family,channelize this anger and do something constructive say for example divert your mind with something u have always wanted to do , indulge in your favorite hobby or read books or even write blogs to share that fire in you . trust me Atreyee it's the child who is the victim in martial discords and witnessing everyday drama might even affect him emotionally and bring irreversible changes in his behavior and thinking. hope this helps!

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Amit Chetan

| Sep 15, 2016

Yes your concern is right as kids are impacted by the way how parents conduct in daily life. They get a message that its fine to shout and fight and to show anger is fine. You must try to sort out your differences in a closed room away from kids. Even if it is started in front of them just avoid getting into arguments in front of kids. You will need to work on your anger firsts so that you don't give remote control of your emotions to others.

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Parentune Support

| Sep 15, 2016

Hi Atreyee, here's a blog that may help you-https://www.parentune.com/parent-blog/why-we-should-not-argue-in-our-childs-presence/595

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