Created by Deepti Singh Updated on May 13, 2013
Fellow mothers, I had put my daughter who is 20 months in play school last week, As she was gettin bore at home and was becoming cranky, she enjoyed for first 3 days as i was going to drop her abd she used to return in her winger bus, but when i started sending her in mornings by winger, she cries a lot and hers is 1st stop so she has to be in bus for 40 min, I was feeling guilty that may be its too early for Play school, What should i Do, Do all kids cry, should i become more strong or should i start dropping her on my own till she start understanding things clearly, Please help fellow mothers solving my dilemma. Dyuti your daughetr was also young so please share your Experience.
| May 13, 2013
I completely agree with Dyuti! I had to go thru same experince. my daughter has recently joined a formal school. Hers is d 2nd stop. she wants to go to school but not by school bus as it takes almost 1 hr to reach after picking up all kids but we have no option but to send her by bus. She did cry for first 15 days. but when she realised tht she will have to go by bus only n there is no other way n we will not budge no matter what, she didn't fuss n rather wud wait for d bus after few days. So u have to b firm. D moment child sees u getting affected by his/her tantrums they wud continue doing so Until u give up. all d best.
| May 13, 2013
Thanx Dyuti and Payal, I discussed the same with her Principal, She also told me not to give up as when children see same faces everyday in winger and after they have frens they enjoy a lot, She is happy in play school. no fuss this travel thing is only an issue. And these days even play school charge a fortune so shifting another school is also a lot to consider and i don't even have any good play school nearby. You guys are right PERSISTENCE is the solution and even afet a week she is same then i'll consider the option of leaving her myself to school. Thanx guys for help, its only seperation anxiety i guess as pointed out by Payal
| May 13, 2013
Hi Deepti. My daughter has never had issues in mingling with people or going to new places. She was comfortable in the playschool from day 1. Her father used to drop her to school on his way to work and pick her up on his way home for lunch (she used to go for 3 hours). She was happy with this system. However, after 3-4 months, my husband had to travel on work and was away for a few weeks. So I started dropping my daughter to school. When I used to leave her at the door, she wouldn't let go off my hand. She used to ask my to stay while she played. I used to tell her that I would return to pick her up, but she started to cry. This went on for a whole week. One day she cried for more than an hour (I was told by the teachers). But what I continued the same way and told her that I will return. In about 10 days she was back to her usual self- no more tears. What I am trying to say is, if sending your daughter by the winger is a convenient option for you, you could explain it to her. Children tend to forget and get distracted very often. You could hand her a soft toy to take along as a companion or make her sit with a friend in the bus. You could motivate her by rewarding her once she is back. I have a feeling that she will get over it, but it may take a while. Being persistent is the key. But if you do not see a change in a week or so, then you could try what Payal has suggested. Hope this helps :)
| May 13, 2013
Hi Deepti. You do understand the problem here. She enjoys the company of other children in the play school but she is affected by the travel. You could try the following options: 1. Drop her yourself or ask a trusted person to drop her in the mornings. 2. Use another bus service or transport option, which takes lesser time to reach her school. 3. Put her in a play school closer home this year. You could change next year when she is older and ready to travel longer distances. Apart from that, yes, almost every child cries in school. My daughter gave me a hard time for 2 long years. She also started school early since she was lonely at home. However, the moment she got involved in school she would be happy and I would not find her crying or unhappy during the day. It was only while going into school that she cried, which is separation anxiety, which is there in almost every child when they start school, or any place where they need to be separated from their primary care giver.