Pregnancy at 35?
Created by Updated on Jul 21, 2015
I am a 35 year old women. My daughter is 7. 5 years old. From last few months she is continuously asking us for a sibling. I am highly confused what to do. I thought about second child but at this age? with so much of age difference between two kids? I know its too late. But many people plan their first baby at this age. Thinking about future needs of my daughter i feel i should take a brave step. but some times i feel the decision should not go wrong because pregnancy in late age can have many complications. Please guide.
| Jul 21, 2015
Hi Sharvari, this has to be your decision totally, based on your priorities for yourself and your child. About your child, asking for a sibling, all children go through this phase, but, in my opinion, that shouldn't be a reason to have another child. You can give your daughter company yourself, take her for hobby classes, organize frequent playdates and also try and help her bond with other single children. wanting a second child should totally be a mother's prerogative--whether you are ready to adjust all that much again, the mental and the physical strength you will need, financial requirements etc. To have a second baby as a play pal for the first shouldn't be the deciding factor, as more than the children, husband, or anyone else--this is a life-changing experience for the mother. So, think through for yourself.. might sound selfish.. but will give you a perspective. do you want a baby? about age and pregnancy, check with your gyane who will possibly start you on a healthy diet to get your body prepared for the baby. also, she will be able to tell you about the complications and guide you through it properly.
| Jul 21, 2015
Thanks anchal actually I also had same thoughts when I took decision of nt to have sec baby. But I got confused when I started thinking abt her future. Whether she will have sumone wth whom she will share her problems and happiness. I do try to be her friend. but feel insecure about her future.
| Sep 17, 2015
To my personal opinion second is good and I feel age does not matter, as I am 8th son to my mother and I am healthy being 40 and my mom is still alive at 82. As pointed out it should be your decision, please also sit with your husband to plan in all areas. Even i have 10yr old daughter, me & my wife are thinking of going for second one. Good luck, more than all science, God is great and he can do wonders.
| Dec 06, 2019
Hi sharvari ! I totally agree with your view. Please explains pros & consult of sibling to your daughter. Trust me if you planned a second baby it will be problematic for you in near future. Just think on this area. You will be 70 when second baby turns 20. How you will manage the things?
| Apr 01, 2021
Hi shravari I m sailing in the same boat. Both of us were not able to decide on whether to go for second or not. But now we are planning. I m 35 and on ttc. I m confused about whether by when shall I be able to get pregnant again at 35. Feeling very anxious about the same. Anyone who can give positive tips on this?
| Apr 01, 2021
Hi sharvari ! A close friend of mine is 38 years old and has delivered a baby boy normally ,six months back . Her elder daughter is studying in class 6. There are so many people who marry at the age of 35 . Do not confuse much about it . Talk with your partner . If you both are willing to have a second child, then give it a shot .